The light within the darkness

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The light within the darkness

In speaking with a friend this morning, I was reminded of the great bias in our culture toward the light and away from the darkness. When we meet with a friend who is depressed, introverted, shut down, or otherwise not beaming and joyful, we become quite convinced, quite quickly, that something is wrong. We scramble to put them back together, to remind them of all the gifts in their life, to let them know everything will be better soon. Of course this is natural. But much of this also arises out of our own discomfort and anxiety around the darkness, and all that is unresolved within us. Perhaps as little ones it was not safe to feel these feelings, not to mention express them.

It is possible the kindest thing we can offer to our precious friend is to sit in the darkness with them, so that they know that we are fully here with them; we do not need to remove them from the darkness, we do not need them to “heal,” “transform,” be happy or awaken - we will love them as they are. We resist the temptation to project our unlived life upon them.

Love is the totality, it is whole, it is raging and alive in the darkness, shining brightly in its own way. Within this darkness, this sadness, this grief, this existential aloneness is something very real, breaking through the dream of partiality. There is a richness here, something is happening, but what that is does not support conventional egoic process; nor does it support our cultural fantasy of a life of invulnerability. Here, everything is alive, everything is path, everything is God. God is not only the joy and sweetness, but comes at times as Kali to reorder your world. We can hold hands with our friend and look at Kali together and finally see what she has to say.

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Light in Darkness

Wonderful words, which take me back to times spent with my father as we were living his final weeks of cancer.   Often, we sat in the darkness of impending death together, just looking at one another.  Fully present with one another.  Usually there was no spoken word and that was more than enough, in fact it was everything.  It was time spent in rich peaceful contemplative sweetness.   Instinctively, we both knew words would somehow skew the beautiful light of our of just being together. Love was, and still is, the totality.

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Thank you.

Thank you.

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Thank you for posting this!
As a new member to this community this was the first post I looked at and I am amazed how well it fit with the situation I am in. In a period of death of destruction all you really can do is to accept it and sit with the feelings that come up. Destruction and sadness also has its place and purpose in this realm we live in.
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This is the first post I read

This is the first post I read and couldn't have been more delighted to hear Matt speak so truthfully and elequently about our seemingly insurmountable limitations.  I understand your perspective and then I started to think ... just calling the situation of being introverted, shut-down, depressed or not together as "DARK" sets us up from the very beginning.  Possibly they are the ones in LIGHT!  I agree that their is richness happening, healing, new intuitive awareness maybe.  I believe that the picture of happiness we are seeing in our society often times is not that authentic, deep, lasting or very real.   

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The Light Within the Darkness

This is my very first post here. I didn't even know there was a 'community forum' at SoundsTrue! I'm thrilled to have found it, because I'm listening to Rick Hansen's The Enlightened Brain and I'm filled with things I want to share about what I'm hearing!!! 

Anyway, that's a post for a different time. This post reminds me of a beautiful poem by Rumi that has always stuck with me, and seems perfect for this discussion. I leave it with you now. Namaste. 


This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still, treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.

The dark thought, the shame, the malice.
meet them at the door laughing and invite them in.

Be grateful for whatever comes.
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.

-- Jelaluddin Rumi  

P.S. I don't know how to put my 'real' name on these posts,

but I imagine, over time, I will find out how to do that, and more! :))

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