How Thoughts Create Love with Henry Grayson, PhD

When I learned how to change my perceptions of my partner, I saw that my happiness lay not in what I could get from her, but in my choosing more often to love her without expectations of what I might get back. I learned that when I was able to love her without strings attached, she often became more loving. I came to understand her not so much as a separate objective reality, but often as a mirror of my own attitudes, thoughts, and perceptions. For example, if I thought critical thoughts about her, she was more likely to be critical of me. And if I thought loving thoughts of her, she seemed to be more loving toward me.

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Henry Grayson, PhD, received his degree from Boston University and a postdoctoral certificate in Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy from four years of postdoctoral training at the Postgraduate Center fo...


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