Believing that it is our nature to enjoy giving and receiving in a compassionate manner, I have been preoccupied most of my life with two questions: What happens to disconnect us from our compassionate nature, leading us to behave violently and exploitatively? And conversely, what allows some people to stay connected to their compassionate nature under even the most trying circumstances?
While studying the factors that affect our ability to stay compassionate, I was struck by the crucial role of language and our use of words. I have since identified a specific approach to communicating—speaking and listening—that leads us to give from the heart, connecting us with ourselves and with each other in a way that allows our natural compassion to flourish. I call this approach Nonviolent Communication (or NVC). It is a method founded on language and communication skills that strengthen our ability to remain human, even under trying conditions. The form is simple, yet powerfully transformative.
Here are ten suggestions you can use to start exploring Nonviolent Communication right now.
Excerpt appears courtesy of the Center for Nonviolent Communication