I bought this book years ago, and it was too intense for me to get my mind around at the time. With the near collapse of my marriage and my own search for a life, a self and a marriage I could believe in, I turned to this book again recently and found unbelievably great challenges, viewpoints and advice. It's hitting every single nail on the head. I'm almost afraid to invite my wife to read it...she'll respond that, "Hell yes this is exactly the man I want and the marriage I want and the sex I want." Wondrous ideas for a robust life and relationship, but definitely not for the feint of heart.