Wonderful! Just what is needed in this world right now. So many people that are acting out their pain, both internally and externally,could be helped with his work!

Comment by leigh — March 1, 2011 @ 6:43 pm

That is one of the best podcasts I have heard in ages. I love how Cheri ‘gets’ the nature of depression taking on all kinds of forms, such as eating disorders and perfectionism. So many suffering with EDs relate to “the voices” in the exact manner that she describes. What most find hard to comprehend, is that this is also somewhat soothing to the sufferer, this drive to perfectionism and a voice that is supportive of a self destructive goal. Bless you Cheri, if I could give you a hug I would! And may we show compassion to those trying to cross that moat. xx

Comment by Lisa Wright — March 1, 2011 @ 6:47 pm

Great interview! I am a big fan of these interviews and have been hoping that you would interview Cheri one day. So, I was very excited to see this podcast pop into my itunes!

I have Cheri’s audiobook and highly recommend it. The guided meditations are very powerful and grounded in compassion.

Comment by Emma — March 4, 2011 @ 9:28 pm

O my, such practicality mixed with depth and lightness. I tried the “recorder technique” and experienced enlightenment from “myself as mentor” after listening to the recording. Cheri had said something like – you have to try it to experience it. I didn’t have to work at being compassionate with myself, the compassion came naturally. I was relieved. I had thought that I would continue criticizing, even in listening to my recording of myself, and I didn’t. I did it twice regarding two different subjects & I felt afterwards like I had been to therapy. Thank you!

Comment by Kathryn — March 5, 2011 @ 8:18 am

Amazing interview! Tami Simon is the best interviewer I have ever had the privilege to experience. Thank you for the free gift of these podcasts. I am so grateful.

Comment by j — March 5, 2011 @ 10:31 am

This insightful communication is a Godsend for me. I cried several times during the podcast. See, I began experiencing many of the symptoms Cheri described over 50 years ago without being diagnosed. Years of ups and downs, hearing the disruptive self-talk, and periodically being totally in awe of the grossly confused state in which I found myself. All I could do was shrug my shoulders and shutdown when asked, “What’s wrong with you Kirk?” No one though anything was wrong with me except that I was guilty of bad behavior. Punishment after punishment to no avail of understanding. Please continue your work Cheri. You are definantly a Godsend. Thank you & bless you, Tami, for your wonderful platform.

Comment by kirkn — March 5, 2011 @ 5:08 pm

WOW! As a stressed out care giver I didn’t know if I’d be up for listening to “Insights at the Edge” tonight. I was Instantly energized however, by this interview with Cheri -and very glad that I chose to listen. I look forward to implementing these strategies mentioned to help with the voices in my head. They all resonated with me as possible aids to my mind and feelings of being overwhelmed and depressed. I even had a emotional lift just hearing about them. The tape recorder is going to be difficult initially, but I am excited about this process and I will definitely give it a try. Thank you Cheri, I am very grateful for your sharing this information to anyone that cares to listen. Thank you also to Tami for another excellent interview. I always marvel at how on target you are with your questions, and how your process truly enables me to always come away from your sessions with a deeper understanding and/or knowing about the subject matter. I have really been enjoying these Sounds True offerings.

Comment by PAT — March 5, 2011 @ 9:28 pm

I just descovered this site, through a Caroline Myss newsletter. It’s fantastic, all these lovely podcasts! Cheri seems to really understand the guilt that pervades depression. I really felt this podcast helped me. I seem to be getting messages from all over the place lately, telling me to practice self acceptance and to live in the present.

Comment by Sue J. — March 8, 2011 @ 8:08 am

This was so cool!, I just heard the conversation on KPFK, at the on-line recorded programs section there. The Ego voice in our mind, does NOT love us, and it lets us now this, almost every single moment of our lives. Its not us, but, we make the mistake of identifying ourselves, as “it”, and therefore, we unfortunately listen to “it”, as if “it” is us. When we learn not to identify with “it”, we will stop listening to “it”, and naturally start to love ourselves, and others and Life. As an un-conditioned/un-programmed mind, on planet earth.

Comment by Ron C. — March 15, 2011 @ 4:53 pm

What a powerful message and such down-to-earth advice. I too come from a family of severely depressed folk: both my father and sister suicided. The turning point for me came soon after I started practicing meditation. The question then shifted from “why am I depressed?” to “how do I do being depressed?” When I became consciously aware of that, and I stopped resisting “my depression” and just watched how it operated in my life, it started to fall away. I can’t continue to do something that doesn’t serve me and the world, and do it with conscious awareness. Thanks for your work.

Comment by Hans — March 18, 2011 @ 11:14 pm

Imagine having an intimate relationship with a beautiful person who is always there by our side to help and support us. Cheri seems to be teaching us to be such a friend to our self. This sounds to me like a worthy goal to work towards.

Perhaps we could even learn that there is nothing wrong with us. I think that this means that that given what we were born with and have experienced it is alright for an intelligent and sensitive person to be like us and to experience a life like ours.

Let us practice compassion no matter what, even towards our self. Thanks Cheri

Comment by Stanley — April 5, 2011 @ 1:48 pm

Cheri Huber wants us to learn that there is nothing wrong with us. Most (maybe all) of self improvement, self transformation, and psychotherapy is built on the foundational belief that there is something very wrong with us. This does not work well for many of us because it feeds an inner voice we have that does not like or support us. This voice comes from our conditioned mind or ego. An alternate foundational belief is that there is nothing wrong with being an imperfect human being living an imperfect life. This is the human condition. It is not wrong.

Cheri teaches that in life pain is inevitable but suffering comes from our doing resistance to what is. We could learn to not do this as much. The quality of our life is influenced by what we focus on and we can learn to focus on positive things like being grateful for all the things that are working for us.

She would have us record our problems into a tape recorder, listen to this, and then wait for our voice of compassion and wisdom to arise. A purpose in life is learning how to respond with compassion to all beings including our self. This voice tells us that he loves us the way we are and will help us become any way we want to be. He teaches us to say to our self: “I am practicing self compassion no matter what, I will be there for you, and you will be O.K”.

This talk is so beautiful. Cheri is doing wonderful work in the World helping to alleviate suffering. Thank you.

Comment by Cloud — April 17, 2011 @ 7:59 am

Thank you for this podcast. It is surprising how little there is to find online about self-hatred. It’s so obvious that we miss it I guess… For me, I find no release from depressed spells unless I face this part of myself. Now I’ve run into it again, and see how crucial it is, I’m wondering how to keep the dialogue going in myself and incorporate this part so it won’t hijack me again… all the while wondering if that desire isn’t just another of its tricks to get me to “become a better person” ;-)

btw theres a wonderful talk by Gangaji on youtube about self-hatred and self-trust I recommmend.

Comment by Tijmen Brozius — January 2, 2012 @ 3:15 pm

One of Stanley’s many problems is related to anitya. Buddhist philosophy would say that this can be a problem for many. I don’t think this means that we don’t get it that things change. Most of us understand this concept by the time we are four or five. I think that the problem can be that we can get overly attached to what we love, be they people, objects, circumstances, beliefs, states or the like and suffer when we lose them. Then to add fuel to the fire the voice of self hatred arises to tell us that there is something wrong with us to have experienced loss. This can be an unpleasant state so we tend to try to get out of our pain by frantically trying to cling to what is pleasant and to push away from what is unpleasant. Many of us here are clever enough to try to push our pain into our shadow and project it onto others.

A practice in reducing this pattern of suffering to to proceed with a foundational belief that there is nothing wrong with us. It is a normal thing for humans to be as we are, complete with our tendencies for delusion or loss and failures. Cheri Huber is doing beautiful work in this area. Another practice might be to intentionally give away some things we love, watch our self respond with a degree of grief, and offer our self compassion for the whole process. Does anyone need my copy of “Integral Life Practice”?

Originally posted at http://integrallife.com/node/201758

Comment by Stanley — August 26, 2012 @ 7:40 am