E165: Living with Clarity Instead of Fear and Desire

Michael Singer: Jai guru dev, jai masters. People have trouble with life. People have trouble with decisions. People have trouble with relationships, people have trouble with work, business, finances, basically. People have trouble and what goes on in their mind, almost everybody, is how to stop having trouble. How to stop having trouble with fear, how to stop having trouble with desires, how to stop having trouble with work, having to stop having trouble with relationships.

What they mean by that is they’re not ready yet to truly understand what’s going on is the way you stop having trouble with finances is to get money. The way you have staff and trouble relationships is have a good one. The way you stop having trouble with fear. Is to keep it away from you so you don’t feel it.

Keep the things that cause you to feel fear. Keep them away. The way you stop having trouble with desire is to fulfill them so they’re not bothering you. You may not like it, but that’s the truth. That’s how almost every single human being lives their lives. I’ve always lived their lives. Why? ’cause they don’t want to feel fear.

They don’t want to feel unfulfilled desires. They don’t want to feel finances that bother them. They don’t want to feel relationships that aren’t working. In other words, I’m in here and the outside should make it so that I’m okay in here. And I’ve discussed this with you time and time again. It’s not the truth.

The outside has nothing to do with the inside. They’re not attached in any way, shape, or form, but if you attach them, then they’re attached. If you sit there inside and say, I’m not okay. I have fears, desires, anxieties, needs, romance, finance, whatever. Then what you said is the answer to those things is outside, therefore.

The outside is attached to the inside, A great being. Let’s just get that over with. There’s no relationship between the outside and the inside. The inside’s being fed from inside, the outside’s happening the outside. The reason they come in is because you have senses When you go to sleep, you don’t hear the world, you don’t do anything, you know?

Then you’re. Your inside is affected by the inside. There’s no outside. And so basically that’s the real spiritual awakening, but nobody wants to hear it ’cause they’re very busy trying to get the outside to be away, that they feel better inside. Find the relation that works, they respects you, treat you the way they wanna be treated, thinks the way you think, behaves the way you expect them to outside is necessary for me to be okay inside.

I don’t feel love. I need to find that I don’t feel secure in my finances. I need to find that. So you’ve tied the outside to the inside. A great being has gone, passed that a long time ago. A great being realizes The only reason I’m not okay inside is ’cause I stored the outside in here inside. I store all of it.

I stored the parts that really bothered me. I kept them for, I call it suppression, repression, denial, whatever you wanna call it. That’s inside. I stored them inside. Should I have done that? Why would you do that? I said all the time, why would you take the events that happened to you that bothered you the most and keep them?

That’s what you do, isn’t it? They’re still in there bothering you. Why? Because you held them in there. Why would you do such a thing? It’s a silly thing in the world if something happens and it really bothers you. It has a beginning and generally an end. Sometimes it’s not. I realize there’s compassion, but normally it gets too hot.

It’s this. A person says something you don’t like. You lose your job, things happen, and then you’re okay. Why? ’cause you’re okay inside. They didn’t determine your inside. What determines your inside? You’re inside. What’s in there right now? What you think is in there is trouble. What you think is in what you stored in there, your suppressions insecurities, your fears, your desires, unfulfilled.

They’re all stuck in there. A great being has nothing stuck in there. People tell, ask me what is enlightened being? They don’t store things inside. They let the outside take place. When it does, it comes inside. That’s why you have senses, you experience it. It may not be a nice experience, it may be a really nice experience, but whatever it is, it passes right through.

There’s nothing holding it in there except you. You say things like, I can’t handle this. I don’t want this to have happened. I don’t even wanna think about it. In other words, if you don’t even wanna think about it, it means you held it. Otherwise it’s not there. It passes right through. It’s called Be here now.

Be here now. Doesn’t mean stare. I see there’s a boy. I see there’s a nose. I see. No, no, no, no. That means you’re not here now, but you’re trying to be be here now. It’s very, very simple. What do you mean it’s happening? I’m experiencing it then It is not happening, and I’m not experiencing it. Be here now.

That’s what it means. But people dunno how to live like that. And people are not taught to live like that. They’re not taught that. Success is. That success is that you could move from moment to moment in your life. Experience whatever’s happening outside and have it come in and teach you, help you strengthen, you become a greater being ’cause you had the experience.

Instead, they’re taught, control the experiences outside so that you’re in control, happens to you outside so that only the things you want to happen come in. How you doing with that so far? Where do you think insecurity comes from? Oh my God, it might not be the way I want. Where do you think anxiety comes from?

Oh my God, it might not be the way I want. Where do you think post-traumatic stress symptom comes from? It is a terrible thing. I’ve worked with people that have gotten over that. It’s really beautiful, right? But as long as you’re saying I can’t have handled that experience, you’re not gonna be okay. Why?

Because it happened. When was the last time you went to war? When was the last time you had terrible relationship things? Right? 10 years ago, 15 years ago, three years ago. The point is it’s over, but PTSD says it’s not over. It can’t be over. Why? It left too much of an impression on me, and now it’s bothering me all the time.

Why? Because you held it inside. So that’s the problem. You all think the problem is the outside world. Listen, the things we need to deal with in the outside world, I wanna talk about that. What you end up doing is letting your fears and your desires, those are inside. Like if a lion jumps at you, protect yourself, makes you swing at you, protect yourself.

These are natural instincts, but if nobody’s swinging at you, but you thinks someday they might, don’t protect yourself from something that’s not happening. If you had a bad relationship in your previous marriage and somebody cheated on you, and now you have all this jealousy, but you’re trying to be good about it, you are not gonna have a good relationship.

You’re gonna look to see whether that person’s doing things and you’re gonna look to see that you might get hurt again. Alright, you did that. Hear me? So fear, I say this, there’s two levels. Fear is a terrible thing. Not the experience of fear, but holding onto it and building your life around it is a terrible thing.

’cause it will never go away. There’s always something to be afraid of. Do you understand that isn’t there? You’ve stored so many things in there that are sensitivity and sensitive, and you have fear they will happen again. You have fear that they happened. Somebody sit down. Lemme tell you what happened to me five years ago.

You don’t understand how bad it was. Is it still going on? No. When did it stop going on? Five years ago. But let me tell you about it, why it’s not relevant. It’s hard for you to hear. It’s not happening. Live your life. I can’t. Why? Because it’s happening inside of me. Why? Because you held it there. There’s no super glue in there.

I don’t care what they tell you. It left a deep impression on me. Yes, because you resisted it and it stayed in there and that made the impression. Otherwise it comes in and flows through. There is such a state as that, and you’re capable of that, and when you learn to live like that, you’re free inside.

There’s no fear. There can be fear. The lion’s jumping at you deal with it, but there’s not fear of what happened before or fear that something might happen again. You’re just making that up. You’re making yourself be afraid. It’s so funny, right? You’re afraid of fear, and so you keep it and you keep thinking about it.

Keep bringing it back up. Make sure it doesn’t happen. If you’re making sure that something you didn’t like in the past doesn’t happen again, you just devoted your life to the worst thing ever happened to you. What a silly thing to do. Doesn’t anybody see that? I don’t care if they tell you it’s natural.

Yes, it’s not. Yes. Here are your words. I’m only human. You are not. You’re a God descended, you’re a great being. You’re pure consciousness. You’re capable of doing anything, but nobody taught you. They teach you the opposite. They teach you wanna be okay. Get to work outside. That’s the success that’s measured as.

Your finances, your relationships, your children, your job, your respect, all that kinda stuff. It’s measured by that. If I have that, then I’m okay inside. Yeah. Good luck. Can people turn on you? Answer me right now. Has anybody ever turned on you? Has anybody behaved in a way you’d expect them to? Then you’re not going to be okay by trying to manipulate the outside world and make it be a way that when it comes in, it doesn’t hit your stuff well then what’s my choice?

Get rid of your stuff. The foundation of your stuff, and this is the deep teachings, but no one wants to hear ’em, is fear and desire. Is there something wrong with fear? No. If there’s a snake, you look at it, you’re scared, sh rattling. There’s a lying in. There’s this, the house is on fire. The kids are screaming.

Yes, of course you feel fear. It’s a natural thing to feel. It’s a good thing. You’ll stay asleep. All right? You feel fear, but when it’s over. It’s over, but it could happen again. So could anything, the probability your house catches fire again, is very small. It was no bigger than it was before, and you didn’t worry about it before.

So why, because it happened to you. Do you now say it’s gonna happen again? It’s not, I’m not saying it’s not, but doesn’t have a greater probability. Do you understand that? Take a coin, flip it. Five times comes up heads, but there probability comes up, tails or heads. 50 50. No matter how many times you flip it, it is always 50 50.

Anybody know about science like that? Okay. So you know you’ve been alive for 40 years, you have a house. It caught fire ’cause it’s something now you’re afraid. Yeah, I was gonna catch fire. Why weren’t you afraid before? ’cause the probability is the same. You don’t think like that, do you? ’cause it leaves these impressions and you think those impressions are real.

Just ’cause they happened, you think they’re gonna happen again. You have a higher probability and there’s nothing wrong if indeed you left an Elon and it caught the house on fire and now you make sure the oven gets turned off. That’s perfectly logical. That’s the reason. That’s a fear. That’s intelligence.

That’s wisdom. You learn something that’s beautiful. You’re supposed to learn from your experiences, but you’re not supposed to hold onto them and be afraid They’ll happen again. You just say, okay, I learned from this. I learned not to leave the stove on. I learned not to do this. Whatever heck it is that you learn and then you learn from it, great.

But to be afraid that will happen again. I’m telling you, you build up fear inside of you because that means every single experience that ever happened to you that you didn’t like is still in there and you know it is. And it keeps coming back up and you try to do things to make it go away. You want it go away, let it go.

But no one tells you that. And no one teaches you that. They don’t even tell you capable of doing that. If it happened and left a scar on you, a mark on you, that’s for life. You’ll have that for just cope with it. It’s not true. There’s only one reason that anything stays inside of you. You look at me. Only one reason that anything stays inside you after it’s over, you’re holding it in there.

Fear is natural. I do not teach against fear. There’s a natural thing called fear. Things happen and you need to deal with them and so there’s a natural reaction. Go, ah, call fear. I need to deal with it. Okay? You don’t ignore fear, but you deal with it. You use it to help you act, but when the situation’s over, that’s crazy.

Just sit there and say, I need to remember that for the rest of my life. So it doesn’t happen again. No. You’re gonna store that stuff in there and now you’re gonna fear in it all the time, don’t you? If fear in it all the time, both about what happened in the past and what you like, my favorite is that you think it could happen in the future.

Anything can happen in the future. Yeah. But I, we really don’t want that to happen. You just made it your life by not wanting it to happen. It might as well have happened. If you wake up in the morning scared today, what’s my horoscope? Morning’s gonna happen, I’m afraid. Okay, and so that’s fear. Again, don’t say, don’t ever say that.

There’s not such a thing as fear. Fear is an emotion, it’s a warning. The body has, has fear, throws up. The mind can have some fear that throws up, but only if it’s real, only if the situation’s actually there and it needs to be dealt with. If you’re sitting there making it up and thinking how terrible it could be, which is what you do.

You generally think the worst that could happen is gonna happen. How many times have you been afraid of something that never happened? Just stop for a second. Your entire life, childhood, all the way through. How many times have you been afraid that something might happen and it never happened? Oh, about 98% of every single thing you’re ever afraid of.

So you wake up. Now, what about desire? That’s a harder one for you guys. Why is desire a problem? It’s not a problem. Things are not problems. It’s what effect they have, right? If you’ve had a situation and it was pleasant, that’s beautiful. Don’t ruin it by trying to make it happen again. It will not happen again.

It can’t happen again. You’re a different person because you had that experience. I hope you grew. I hope you liked it. I hope you became a better person. But to sit there and say, I liked it so much, that’s what I wanna devote my life to, that it happens again, right? Because it’s not gonna happen again.

Every Adam moves all the time. There’s nothing stays in the same place for everything. There’s a season time for every person under heaven. Yes, you had a beautiful experience. That’s really, really nice. I love it. Nobody’s talking about enunciation. Nobody’s talking about don’t have nice experiences.

They’re natural. Just like fear is natural. You have a nice experience. Your heart opens it match well for you. You felt this is really beautiful and met somebody and they were so special and they felt so much shock to you and so much love and beautiful. God, they gonna call me again. What should I wear when I go next time?

You just ruined a beautiful experience by trying to make it happen again. It’s not natural to talk about this is it. You think, no, go out there and make it happen again. It can’t happen again. Go to a restaurant and have the best meal you’ve ever had. Italian, Chinese, whatever. It’s has amazing thing that the menu was exactly what you like vegan and this and that.

Alright? And it is just unbelievable. Okay. And the music was perfect, and it’s just, everything’s perfect. I’m, I’m warning you, I. Do not go out there and tell your friends, oh, let’s go there again. It was so perfect. ’cause you’re gonna say things that, oh, last time I wasn’t like this. Oh, last time there was no smoking.

Oh. Oh, no, no. Last time was a different waiter. Oh. Last time I had different specials. Unbelievable. He just ruined the beautiful experience by trying to make it happen again. You’re driving down the road, you got stuff on your mind that’s normal. You turn the corner. OMG. The sun is setting purple and violent, and pastels the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen.

It blows you away. Your mind stops. You just, you’re stunned looking at that. You say things like, it touched me the depth of my being. It did gets, the mind got outta the way. You had a deep experience. Sometimes you say, I felt like I was in the presence of God. You were. ’cause you weren’t in the presence of you.

Okay? And all of a sudden, what’s left? Mayor Baba said, man, my mind equals God. Alright? And so basically you had this experience. That’s beautiful, that’s unbelievable. Thank God you had that beautiful experience. I hope it helped you. Hope it taught you how beautiful you are. If you don’t have your mind bothering you instead.

You see there’s a for sale sign at the house right above that hill. I can watch this all the time. That will make my life so beautifully. You wanna bet I would. You wanna bet? That it won’t be the winner is like that. And the house has got problems and the husband’s got problems and he hates the sunsets, and like it is not going to be the way you think it is going to be.

That’s true of every single thing in your life. Your relationship will not be the way you think they’re gonna be. Oh, but it was so beautiful. I never felt so much love. Wonderful. Celebrate, enjoy it, but don’t try to make it happen again. You’ll sit there and say, well, what did I wear last time? She was so impressed with it.

Do I wear the same thing? No. It would probably smell, I don’t know what to ever have trouble deciding what to wear. Come on. ’cause you’re trying to impress somebody and please them. As opposed to this was spontaneous. It was a spontaneous event. Love is spontaneous. You can’t make it happen, but you try.

Let’s go to our restaurant, our favorite restaurant, alright, after the divorce. No, I don’t go near that place. It’s just will you please understand it is you, that’s making it special. It hit you just right and it didn’t hit all your bad stuff and it’s some of the nice stuff and all of a sudden just love at first sight.

It doesn’t last. I’m not trying to be non-romantic, alright? I’m not. I’m not taking, you don’t make love away. Those a beautiful thing. But the fact that you want it and you try to clinging to it, and the fact that you try to make situations happen, that will make you feel it and say things like, I don’t understand.

You used to open the door for me and now you don’t anymore. To which the husband says, well, I don’t know. You’re into a woman’s living. And I, I thought, you think I’m a chauvinist? You can open your own door. How do I know what to do? I don’t know what you want. And the next thing you, you arguing yes or no?

Okay? That’s what fear does, and that’s what desire does. Doesn’t mean there’s not such a thing as a beautiful experience. Of course, it’s beautiful. Enjoy it, love it. Appreciate it. Totally let it go. Let the mind not clingy. Let the mind not clinging to something that you think I can make it happen again.

’cause this is what I liked say Thank you. I said why is being does see the whole thing about renunciation? No. The thing about fearlessness, no. You feel fear appropriate to feel fear helps you go, helps you do stuff, makes you act if. If a car falls down on top of your kid, for God’s sakes, get scared and run out there and do whatever you can and scream, yell, we’ll throw your arms around and pick it up.

You hear me? But when it’s over, it’s over. No, you’re never to go near a car ever again. You have no idea what you put me through. Do you hear me? That’s what we do, don’t we? Alright. And desire is exactly the same. I’m being very open. It’s not about renunciation. Renunciation is saying desire is a terrible thing.

I don’t wanna ever feel it. No. Desire is a very nice thing when it, when it’s being fulfilled. Hey, our desire desires really nice. Alright? Let’s say you fell madly in love and he or she is going off to the army tomorrow. You won’t see them for three years. How’s your desire feel right now? It burns you. It doesn’t feel good at all.

Okay, so it is not that fear is terrible. A desire is wonderful. It’s that life unfolds and you interact with it as real as you possibly can. Very hard for people. They try to push away fears. They try to cling the desires. In both cases, you held them inside of you instead of allowing the next event to take place.

Who says the next event will be nicer? Who said the next event will be scarier? And you’re busy protecting me from this one. I don’t know what to tell you. That’s not how you live your life. That’s not how a great being lives their lives. That’s how a neurotic human being lives their lives. And so you sit there and say, why can’t I enjoy what’s happening?

Because it hurt. Okay, now, you know, it hurt. Feels like. Because I felt this tremendous love. Okay, now you know what love feels like Earth is a place of souls, of sin to evolve. Earth is a place that souls are sin to evolve. How are you doing? Well, if I’m trying to make it be the way I need it to be, ’cause I’m not evolved enough to handle what is, then I’m not using it properly.

Otherwise, I’m learning. I’m learning from every single experience. I’m evolving. Are you evolving? Or you’re trying to make it be the way you want so you don’t have to, I don’t wanna evolve. I don’t wanna evolve. I want things to be the way I want. I don’t have to evolve. That’s ridiculous. Things should be the way I want.

I remember so looked in the eye, I said, why can’t things be the way I want? Well, let’s see. ’cause they’re atoms and they have nothing to do with you because there’s this quantum field down there vibrating, creating the whole universe. And since every single thing that ends up up here. Came from there. You know, physics, right?

You know enough of it. It’s these wavelets. There aren’t even particles. There’s little wavelets down there interacting with each other. Corks left tongue boons, and then they create atoms, and they create electron proteins on the, and then they create the world. Well, why can’t it be the way I want? Go out to the ocean, you know, San Francisco Bay, look over the ocean.

I went there the entire day. I didn’t see a wave that was big enough to surf on. Or there’re all these little wavelets, right, and, and I couldn’t see the seals. It’s not supposed to be the way you want, is it? You’re supposed to appreciate the way it is, yes or no. Okay? Not my will, but I will be done. I’m not getting religion on you.

I’m a nice Jew that loves Christ. I love Christ’s teachings, and so you just get down to the point where you understand life is not difficult. You make it difficult by wanting it to be what you want it to be, and then you get all upset. Why is it have to rain today? It’s my birthday. Why would it rain on my birthday?

It doesn’t know it’s your birthday and you’re making yourself miserable for absolutely no reason at all. It makes no logics, no sensible or anything. Fear. Desire first I taught you deeper. A lot of teachings say Get rid of fear. Get rid of desire. No. No Fear and desire. Natural reactions for a human being.

Alright. You do what you’re doing at that time. I’m just asking you that if the moment is over that you don’t clinging to it and you don’t fight with it. I saw a snake. Really? How did it make you feel? Well, it could have been a rattler. It looked like some diamonds on its back, and so I, I got scared. Okay, good.

Don’t pick it up. See, fear is a very good teacher. Don’t pick it up. Alright, but how about three days later? You wanna go for a walk in the woods? No. Why? There could be snakes three days ago. There could be snakes too. Your life, there could be snakes. You let that leave an impression on you that’s ruining your life.

Now, do you understand what I’m telling you? Fear is natural when it is appropriate. Fear is not natural when you’re afraid of what happened that isn’t happening or when you’re afraid that something could happen That hasn’t happened yet, and that covers a lot of your stuff, doesn’t it? Okay. That’s what be here now means.

So nobody’s denying that there are human emotions. But you’re not making them be the reason for your life. I’m never getting married. I will never get married. I’ll never have children either. Why? I grew up in a broken household. I didn’t like my stepmother or stepfather. And when was that? When I was five.

And I don’t wanna put my kids through it. You don’t have kids? Yeah, but I’m not gonna have kids. I don’t have to go through it. That’s ridiculous. Is it not? That is not the basis for decision making. I’ve made my decision. I love you. Yes, and, and I wanna get married. I don’t have children. No, he didn’t wanna have children.

Why? Because my mother did this and my father did that 30 years ago, and I’m not gonna have kids and put them through that. I hope this not sound logical to you. You just ruined your life and your spouse’s life. Because you got this stuff going on in there. Does that mean you have to have children? No. It means there’s a natural unfolding of life.

You may decide, yes, we wanna have children and you can’t. One of you’re infertile or something like that. Is that a problem? No, it’s a fact. Are you okay with it? I better be You understand that? I better be okay with it because it’s real. Well, what do I do? Accept it. Honor, respect it. Maybe you adopt children.

Maybe you don’t have children. I don’t know. It’s not my business, but it is my business to say that that stupid stuff that goes on in your head that already decided, be some movie you watched when you were young, turned you off. Imagine if when you’re young you have to watch a birth a.

Are you kidding me? I ain’t doing that. No way. And it could leave an impression like that, can’t it? There are literally people that make decisions based on that, based on what they felt when they were six years old. In fact, psychology tells you all your decisions are based on that. It’s all your formative years.

It’s absurd. You’re a very high being. Things happen. You experience them and you let them go, but nobody teaches you that. They teach. You cope with it. You have to cope with it, and they teach you. Work hard to attract yourself, get for yourself so you don’t have to go through that so that you’re independent enough, you’re strength enough to do it.

You, I did it my way and you, and you call that success. All right, that these are neurotic people nowadays. There’s a lot of rich people around. Real rich, alright. Do you find that their lives are the way you’d like to exchange? Doesn’t it look like they’re all having a great time? Like so how dare you think that that’s success?

They’re struggling. They’re causing everyone to struggle, all kinds of stuff. So you wake up and you realize the outside is the outside the inside’s, the inside. Where do you live? Inside? How do I know that? Because you are given sensors, sight, touch, taste. So to pick up the outside. Otherwise you don’t know it’s there.

If your S are not picking up the outside, it doesn’t come in, what’s that telling you? Outside is outside, inside’s inside what you do with it. When it comes in a great being, when it comes in, the first thing they do is not resist, no matter what it is. Hear me, my house on fire. Don’t freak. Because you got kids in the bedroom, you got animals, you got, they call the police.

Freaking doesn’t help. Does it calm? Allow reality to come in first, relax so you’re clear, and then decide what to do about it. So that was the main point I wanted to talk about is this decision making. There are no good decision makings that are made based on fear or desire. And that’s what everybody does in business, in relationships and everything.

I’m afraid that a competitor will do something. Go make a decision based on your fear that a competitor will do something that’s not a good decision. Your decision should be made on positive, constructive, positive things, not reactive fear. Same thing in a relationship. Like, okay, he didn’t come home one time.

What’s he up to go on? Let that be what you say when he shows up at home. Where were you? Well, what about her? How long was she there with you? Like made for a good relationship? You don’t allow fear to run your life. Well, what do I do? You let it go. It comes in, you let it go, your thought happens. You let it go.

You, you just be disciplined to understand if fear does not make good decisions, do you know that? Have you made decisions based on fear? It’s, it’s like. Something in the Bible says something like the seed that you throw out is the one that will grow. So you’re throwing fear out. It really is true. You wanna talk about spiritual?

The world is energy. You inside have energy. When you throw negative energy, destructive, fearful energy out there, you pollute your environment worse than throwing junk into the water, you’re polluting your environment. And it, they told karma. Of course it comes back. You sat there and checked out, where were you?

We alright. It’s gonna come back. ’cause you threw it out there. And so a wise person says, no, no, no. I can handle. The environment that comes in, then I can deal with it. My experience is, and I’ve been doing this a very long time, that if you took that position, you would find that 95% of the things that you were afraid could happen, don’t.

And you would’ve been better off not talking about ’em, but letting them go. Let your fear go. Somebody’s driving in front of you 20 miles an hour below the speed limit. And you’re in a rush. Okay. Not always 20, but I do it. Okay. ’cause I like to get there and so I’m driving and so I pass the person. It happens in my life.

They were driving 50 miles away, swim. I can pass them the road’s fine, right? I pass them. I drive down the road at my 55 mile speed limit. And then sometimes I see the sign 55. My mind says, see it’s 55, how honest you wanna be? Alright? And I drive down there and I hit the main highway. There’s a stop sign and the person pulls up right behind me.

I learned from that. I love it. Life is your teacher, so you’re willing to experience and to grow and to learn. That’s what it’s all about. And so this thing about making fear or desire the meaning of your life, no. So fear does not make good decisions and desire to make good decisions. Do you understand that?

Look, he’s got a nicer house than I do. Oh, when I looked at a house like that, but I can’t afford it. Yeah, but I could get a second job. But then you can’t be home with your family. It’d just be for a while. And next thing you know, you’re making these decisions based on desire or fear. I’m telling you, desire to make good decisions and fear does not make good decisions because it becomes very focused.

Your desires are, there’s 8.3 billion people on the planet Earth, and there’s all kinds of things going on. I want this to happen. Well, one stupid thing for one second that pleases you. You just ruined your life and ruined everybody else’s by talking about and desiring and creating all this energy. So what do I make decisions based on clarity.

What is clarity? You wanna know how to define clarity, not fear, not desire. What’s it like to be in there and you’re clear? I mean, there’s not fear pulling you one way and there’s not desire pushing you another way. There’s just, okay, there’s a decision to be made here. I let go of the fear. I’m able to do that.

I let go of the desire. I may able to do that now what you will see, what’s actually there. Otherwise, you’re looking at your fear and your desire. There’s this veil that these emotions create that you have to look through. So if you look through the veil of fear, you’re not gonna see what’s actually happening.

You’ll see the reason for fear. Make perfect sense to you. Of course, I’m afraid. ’cause you created fear with your, with your aura or same thing with desire. Yeah. I know exactly what to do. I want this, I know how to do this. Alright. Instead of I’m clear, they can let go. Relax, relax in the face of them. I think one of the deepest thing people understand my teachings, I’m not saying that there’s no fear and there’s no desire.

I’m saying you are deeper than that. You’re the one experiences, the fear, you one, experience the desire, you’re capable of relaxing behind them. Do you hear me? Not suppressing them, not denying them, not renouncing them. Just relaxing. In the face of them. That’s a very deep state, especially if for strong desires or fears, little ones.

You need to learn how to do it. You need to learn how to relax in the face of these little fears or little desires so that you can make better decisions when you’re able to relax. The veil is not there or it’s there, but it’s not quite, not quad. You understand? I’m trying to be fair with you. There’s a part of you that’s a human, but you’re the one who notices.

Have you noticed there’s human tendencies? I even notice that there’s jealousy and fear and insecurity and self-consciousness and embarra, yes or no and guilt. Okay? You don’t want those running your life. You did something 10 years ago. It didn’t work out so good, and you feel guilty every morning. Every time you wake up, you’re scared to death that they have to do it again.

In a way, God, how apologize. That’s ridiculous. It’s over. Don’t let it determine your life. We do do that, don’t we? So yes, you have immune emotions, but the fact that you stored these past things caused the emotions to be like that. So you learn one, I don’t wanna do it again. So I’m gonna learn to let go as much as possible so that when I make a decision, it’s not filtered and tinted by fear or desire.

Well then what’s left? Clarity. I don’t what to tell you. I’m clear. Here it is. I’m clear. Alright. Somebody passed me. I don’t, I don’t do this. Alright. But somebody passed me and they cut in front of me. Alright? And I feel this fear, I feel I’m like even whatever it is, thank God I don’t feel that right? But let’s just say people do alright.

They do right? And they beep their horns and they do all kinds of stuff. Alright? That’s not clarity. Working based on fear and desire, getting even and showing someone don’t, you’re not gonna treat me that way. So what do you do? You let that go. You put on your brake a little bit so you’re not tailgating and you give it some space.

And when you’re quieter, you know what you’re gonna see big feel you cut in front of me. It’s clear. There’s nothing to do about it. I don’t have to get even, I have to shoot my finger. I don’t have to yell. I don’t have to do anything. I’m okay then leave it alone. And the vast majority of your life, there’s nothing to do about the fact that it’s raining.

There’s nothing to do about the fact that it’s your birthday and somebody forgot to say happy birthday. There’s just all these things that the reason they’re bothering you, ’cause you said they should. There’s just natural things in life. Somebody got the raise you wanted. They got the corner office. Is that okay with you?

Well, I didn’t feel good for 10 seconds. I let it go. I felt congratulations and I meant it. Oh boy. Was me crying, right? Yes. I wanted the position. I didn’t get it. I don’t even have to know why I don’t have to run and tell everybody. I shoulda had that position and not like that guy. And every time I walk by the car office, I hate that office.

That’s funny. You hate it. You used to love it. Think you’re gonna get it. That’s crazy. So you give it a moment, you let it go, and then you look and say, what’s going on? Another person. Management felt this other person deserved this more. Alright? And it’s fine. Congratulations. I’m glad it did well. Hope it helps your family.

Hope it helps you. I’ll help you. I’ll work with you better, even more so to make sure you’re successful in that position. And let me cry, right? I’d like to be like that. You let go of fear, you let go of desire and you’re clear. Now you can make good decisions. And what’s funny is. Everyone will work better with you and you’ll work better with everybody.

There’s a whole story that someone started in the mail room that was sorting mail. They end up CEO of the company. There’s truth, there’s stories like that. They end a ceo EO of the company, of this giant company. Why? ’cause they put their heart and soul into whatever they were doing. They’re walk around pushing the mail card saying, I deserve more than this.

I went to college. My God, I guess there’s a degree and I shouldn’t be afraid of Mail Corps. It’s crazy, right? Okay. You’re not gonna go anywhere. But should you be pushing the mail card and saying, I’m honored to have this position and I can give mail. Look how excited they are when they get mail and next thing you know, everybody wants to promote you.

Everybody’s, oh, he’s good and right. You work your way up. So there’s a discussion about decision making. That was the one I intended, but we went the whole way and we ended up with, you’re in there. What are you doing in there? Because I know what you’re doing in there. You’re trying to avoid the fears that you stored inside.

You’re trying to make the desires happen inside that you liked last time, and that’s your life, and you’re letting them filter and affect all of your decision making, all your thoughts, and you know, you’re right. I’ve told this before. You know how you know you’re right. You say New. I had that experience myself.

Mm-hmm. My house caught fire. Yours didn’t. So I know about house fires. Yeah. You know, a little bit too much. They ran your life. You let it, that’s what you think that because you had the experience that all decisions we made based on that. No, you just had the experience. You learn from it, but you move on.

You move on. You don’t get stuck in these places. Life is a motion picture. It’s not a snapshot. And you just keep being open and permitting these things to unfold the best you can. Well, what do I do if I have trouble with it? You be honest. I’m having trouble with this. I’m having trouble accepting this, having trouble not desiring this.

Notice that be the witness. Notice there’s a part of your being that has fears. And leftover fears, isn’t it? And has desires. And leftover desires. Okay. I mean, literally you could meet somebody that when you’re in sixth grade, you dated a redheaded guy and, and he really got along really, really well. Great relationship, and the parents moved away.

You’re now 36 years old and you really like redheaded men. And you say, yeah, but I met one. He was so nice. You said one. This is absurd. So that goes for both fears and desires. They’re just leftover impressions of experiences that you had about the night you had the experiences everybody’s having. I like to ask you, at the time you’re having that experience, how many are you missing?

1. How many experiences are going on in every spot on the planet Earth and every other place in the universe you are not experiencing? ’cause you’re having that experience. How about 700 billion zillion quillian? But then why is that experience more important than all the rest? Because you owned it. You thought this, oh, this is my experience.

No it’s not. You were standing in a given spot in the universe and that’s what was going on. Do you understand that? It’s not yours, it’s not ego. It’s just an experience that you had you experienced. Good. Appreciate it. Say thank you and move on. That’s how a great being lives. I, I don’t wanna tell the stories about some of the really great ones, ’cause you won’t want to go there.

Robert Krishna, one of very, very great beings. They used to have to walk behind him. He had disciples, had devil TAs. One of the jobs was you save it. Clean the kitchen, you save it, do this. This is your work. You save it. Your safe is to walk behind the master. What? He’s a grown man. He’s 50, 60 years old. Your save is to walk behind the master.

Why? You’ll find out. ’cause at any moment during the day, he thinks of Krishna. He sees something, makes him think of it. The ARB goes flying up. Tears come pouring down his eyes and he falls over backwards in ecstasy. You have to be there to catch him. He literally was that way. He was that far gone. There’s a story told you the other day that he was picnicking in the park with his devotees and he’s an ecstasy.

He’s a great, oh my God, he’s always joy of glove. God. He starts whining and writhing in pain. Semester was wrong. He said The people are walking on the grass and I feel the pain of the blazer grass being bent. He was in tune with everything at that level. Isn’t that beautiful? He’s just completely open to what experience we’re taking place.

It doesn’t mean he doesn’t go to the park again. He got to feel that he got to be part of nature. He got to be part of the reality of all these things. These are the stories. They’re stories of all these great things that are unbelievable, right? So. We don’t have to worry about it because, we’ll, but we’ll get there if they’re not in this lifetime ago.

Alright. But what you sit there and say is, can I do better? Do I have to let fears of the past or fears that I make all your fear, by the way, do you have fears of the future? You know, you do. Where do they come from? You project them and whisper you, project them from your past. There’s nothing, you’re right.

Are you afraid of?

Alright. You’re afraid of things that you experienced in the past. You project them into the future, and that’s what I’m afraid of. I’m afraid of being poor. I was poor when I was younger. I don’t ever wanna be poor again. I’m afraid of being so rich that people don’t like me. They don’t be friends with me because they know that, right?

It’s like you had past experiences and you project them in the future. You gotta mess in the past and a mess in the future Now. First of all, is it true that you project that the region of fears of the future is ’cause the things happened to you in the past. So what have you made of your life? You ruined your life ’cause you had an experience you couldn’t handle.

You keep it so it keeps bothering you and you’re projected into the future that might happen again. That is not a way to live. And so you finally catch on, say, by the way, same thing with your desires. Do you have desires for the future? Yes. Based on what? Based on the things that hurt you in the past? No, it’s not.

My desires based on a movie you saw when you were 10 years old, snow White, married Mr. Prince, storming, and I always wanna meet a prince. Oh, a Duke. Oh my God. I don’t know what to tell you. So you project into the future that what you liked about the past? You want it to happen again or make it happen the first time, whatever.

And so you ruined your life. Now you can’t have a future ’cause you made one up and you’re not happy if it doesn’t happen. God, we’re having a deep talk. You’ve ruined your life and there’s no reason to do that. Life was unfolding. It has moments of joy. It has moments of sorrow. What’s wrong with that? Are you okay with that?

No. No. My mother died and it really hurt me. I don’t ever wanna deal with death ever again. Well, you’re in trouble ’cause you’re gonna, and if you don’t, you can be afraid of, but, but what if my father dies? Not what if he’s gonna No. But you have no idea what much hurt me when my mother died. I understand.

Yeah, but you have an obligation as an intelligent, wise human being to accept the fact that people die. No. Yes. Do I have to want them to die? No. You just have to be open to understand that life unfolds. Does that mean that if my father dies, that I don’t feel sorrow? No. You do feel sorrow. Appreciate the feeling of sorrow.

Don’t suppress it. Don’t deny it. No, your mother died. You experienced it and maybe you learn from how to deal with death better and now your father died and you, you’re better at it. You’re better at feeling the pain. You better have. I told you, the pain you feel of the loss of someone who dies is equivalent to saying, I love you.

It’s another expression of love. You turn these things into things that you can work with, that you grow with. Earth is a place of soul, of sin to evolve, not devolve. And so you learn to handle things. You don’t suppress them, you don’t deny them, you learn to raise them. You just keep raising everything negative, positive, and then the future when a great being.

What future does a great being? Have None. They have no concept of what’s gonna happen. Why? ’cause they don’t know what’s gonna happen. You’re making up in your mind, based on your past experiences, what you want to happen or don’t want to happen. That’s not your future, have ever noticed that? That’s not what happens.

Yes. Right. But you suffered anyways. But it could have happened. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I know. All right, I’m done. So this thing about fear and desire. They’re natural emotions. The more you feed them, the more you make them your life, the stronger they are. The more they grow, the more they take over your whole being.

So little by little you learn to let go of yourself. That’s what Christ meant by dying to be reborn. You let go of that aspect, that’s doing that clinging and holding and fighting and struggling and just sit there and say, I mean, here I wake up in the morning. Okay, I’ll stop with this. People want techniques.

I don’t teach techniques. I did. I just taught you a technique. A big one, didn’t I? How about That’s the technique. Practice it. How you wake up in the morning and you have stuff going on about, which is dreamt out last night. Let it go. It’s a dream. It’s something your mind made up. ’cause the junk is stored in there.

Do you understand that? But what if it happens? Okay, now you’re in trouble. You’ll be afraid for, but I dreamt I was in a car accident. Because when I was little, I got in a car accident. It really bothered me. That was 20, 30 years later, and I keep having this recurring dream. I guess I’m gonna have another car accident.

See how sure that is? Okay? You wake up in the morning and you say to the dream, hi, that was fun, and you let it go. It’s just a dream. And by the way, what if it was a psychic dream? A premonition dream. Then you’ll find out it’s gonna happen. You’ll find out what, if you have a dream that something terrible happens and you keep waiting and looking for it, that’s ridiculous.

It might as well happen all the time. Do you hear me? Even the psychic stuff? No. So you just get to the point where you say, I don’t need to know what’s gonna happen. I don’t even wanna know what’s gonna happen. What I wanna do is be okay inside so I can use whatever happens to help me grow. And so you get to the point where you’re open, you’re clear, you wake up in the morning, you let go of, well, yesterday, let go yesterday.

But no, no, let go yesterday. Don’t bring yesterday into today. Okay? Be clean, right. Sit, quiet down. End of the day. Sit down. Were you clean? No. I got all the junk going on my mind about what happened. Let it go. Do your best to let it go. That’s what meditation’s for. Let it go. Quiet down, let it go. Okay. It’s so funny is the Bible teaches us, let the evils today be sufficient on to today.

Just let things be what they are. Let them unfold, then be clear to deal with them. Alright? So I hope you understand because this can change your whole life, but you have to be willing to change your life.

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