{"id":21679,"date":"2024-06-18T10:55:46","date_gmt":"2024-06-18T16:55:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/?p=21679"},"modified":"2024-08-06T16:59:32","modified_gmt":"2024-08-06T22:59:32","slug":"how-to-mental-stack-your-way-to-a-new-chapter-in-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/blog\/how-to-mental-stack-your-way-to-a-new-chapter-in-life\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Mental Stack Your Way to a New Chapter in Life"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Most people feel trapped in a thousand ways. But more often than not, this sense of entrapment us into putting our heads down and getting the things we are expected to get done, done. We can\u2019t often see the entrapment, especially if it looks like the result of our own choices in life. But were they truly our own choices? What if some of the choices we made in life have never really been ours to begin with? <\/span><\/p>\n

I want to take us back a little. Back to when we were younger. When we had to rely on the wisdom of our elders, and those who have been in this life much longer than us. In my upcoming book <\/span>Invisible Loss<\/span><\/i>, I write about that time in our lives when we were at our most rebellious:<\/span><\/p>\n

Disobedience\u2014as a child, as a teen, as an adult in the world of work and home\u2014is an act that creates invisible suffering. We learn to survive that repeated pattern of being commanded by our elders to be \u201cgood.\u201d In order to be good and obey, we may create a life closer to that command but further away from our Original Self. We may work hard trying to be good, trying to please and fit into the mold created for us, but that only helps to build our Waiting Room life.<\/span><\/p>\n

But time in the Waiting Room doesn\u2019t need to last forever. And you don\u2019t have to die inside it. There are parts within you that can bring forth a life worthy of your human existence. Places within yourself that have no shame.<\/span><\/p>\n

As long as we have been alive, creating a life that aligns closest to the wishes of our caregivers and protectors blinds us to the life that we could choose for ourselves. That life is completely hidden even if we think we know our wishes. Often, only when we go through tragic or <\/span>invisible losses, <\/span><\/i>do we start to question those choices. Dare I say, these moments are opportunities to exit the loop of being \u201cgood.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

It is time to interrupt our regular transmission. It is time to be clear when it comes to what it is we are trying to communicate to the people in our lives. It starts from no longer trying so hard to fit into the mold that was created for us.  No matter how old we are, we can always break outside this mold and align our choices with our true values and desires.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is not an easy task. I understand that. At the core of my book, <\/span>Invisible Loss,<\/span><\/i> I\u2019ve created tjos easy practice to help set you on the right path to your Original Self. I call it <\/span>Mental Stacking:<\/span><\/i><\/p>

What Is Mental Stacking?<\/b><\/p>\n

Mental Stacking is the ability to intentionally layer your thoughts to replace unconscious, Survivor-based<\/span><\/p>\n

thinking with Wisdom-based thinking. In doing so, these Wisdom-based thoughts can more easily be converted into real-life action. This Stacking practice allows you to access your true and authentic self (your Original Self) and entrust it with the controls of your life. Here is what a basic Stack looks like:<\/span><\/p>\n