{"id":23520,"date":"2024-10-18T11:29:27","date_gmt":"2024-10-18T17:29:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/?p=23520"},"modified":"2024-10-18T11:29:27","modified_gmt":"2024-10-18T17:29:27","slug":"turning-to-my-filipino-roots-to-tend-to-womb-loss","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/blog\/turning-to-my-filipino-roots-to-tend-to-womb-loss\/","title":{"rendered":"Turning to my Filipino Roots to Tend to Womb Loss"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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October is a meaningful month for me as it honors two important parts of my identity. It is <\/span>Filipino American History Month<\/span><\/a>, a time to acknowledge and honor the presence and contributions of Filipino Americans. Although my parents immigrated to the United States from the Philippines in 1980, records show that Filipinos were present here as early as 1587, landing in present-day Morro Bay, California as part of a Spanish galleon. In an interesting moment of alignment, I am writing this to you from Morro Bay, feeling the palpable power of the land and seeing the sacred 600-foot-tall <\/span>Morro Rock<\/span><\/a>\u2013known as Lisamu\u2019 in the Chumash language and Lesa\u2019mo\u2019 by the Salinan people\u2013standing proudly just outside the window of our Airstream trailer. October is also <\/span>Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month<\/span><\/a>, a time to increase awareness about and honor those of us who have endured such loss- what I often refer to as womb loss.<\/span><\/p>

This October is particularly meaningful with my book, <\/span>To Tend and To Hold: Honoring Our Bodies, Our Needs, and Our Grief Through Pregnancy and Infant Loss<\/span><\/i><\/a>, officially launching on October 22. In it I share how my identities as a Filipina American and bereaved mother intertwine, and how valuable it can be for survivors of womb loss to turn to their cultural traditions for support as they grieve and as their postpartum bodies return to a non-pregnant state. How I came across this <\/span>online essay<\/span><\/a> and found solace in the language of my ancestors who use terms to describe miscarriage as \u201csomeone from whom something was taken away\u201d rather than placing blame with the prefix mis- which means wrongly or badly. I did not carry my pregnancies wrongly or badly. Loss was something that my body experienced.<\/span><\/p>

The following is an excerpt from <\/span>To Tend and To Hold<\/span><\/i> that I hold dear as it shares a traditional Filipino dish I grew up eating and that I share now as a postpartum doula to offer comfort and nourishment to those who are postpartum, both with living children and after loss. I hope it may offer you comfort as well, no matter if your experience of womb loss was recent, in the past weeks, months or even many years ago. My heart is with you and please know that you are not alone as you grieve and as you heal- at your own pace and in your own way.<\/span><\/p>

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I recently cooked this recipe for <\/span>champorado<\/span><\/i>, a Filipino rice porridge, for my beloved friend Katrina on a very tender anniversary, the due date of one of her children and the death date of another. Her child, Zeo Thomas, would have been born that day had he not died in the womb at five months gestation. It was within the same year of his death that her second child, Solis Vida, died in the womb in the first trimester. In truth, Katrina had been bleeding for over a week to release her second pregnancy, but as she bled through Zeo\u2019s due date, she felt an intuitive pull to honor this same date as Solis\u2019s death date. I thought of my friend as I made my way slowly through the grocery store. Though it was crowded and busy, I felt cocooned in my thoughts and intentions for her\u2014how I wanted to help her feel seen and held during this difficult time\u2014and I found myself gathering each of the ingredients in a mindful way that felt like the beginning of a bigger ritual. Knowing I was going to cook for her to honor her, her babies, her grief, and also her longings added a layer of reverence to what would otherwise be a standard grocery run. Later as I cooked the porridge in her home, I channeled my love and condolences into each step. And when I finally brought the warm bowl of champorado to her and saw her reaction, it was my turn to feel honored. Honored\u00a0 to be there with her. Honored to tend to her. And with a dish we both knew from our childhoods. She dubbed it \u201cpostpartum champorado,\u201d and so it shall be known.<\/span><\/p>

Warm and soft, rice porridge is one of the best postpartum foods as it is easy to eat, warming to the body, and gentle on the digestive system. Its very nature is to offer comfort. In my opinion, champorado, a Filipino chocolate rice porridge I grew up savoring, is one of the most heartwarming dishes, with the cacao tending as much to the emotional heart as to the physical body. It can be offered any time of day for both a filling meal and a gentle reminder that there is still sweetness in life even amidst grief.<\/span><\/p>

In this nourishing version, cacao powder is used in place of cocoa so that we may benefit <\/span>from all that this superfood has to offer, including iron to help rebuild red blood cells, flavonoids to improve blood flow, and magnesium to ease anxiety and depression. In addition to being nutrient-rich, cacao is also known to lift the mood. If the thought of preparing food feels beyond your current capacity at this moment, consider sharing this recipe with a partner, postpartum doula, or other support person and asking them to cook it for you. Additionally, if you are currently pregnant, please consult your health-care provider before consuming cacao as it contains caffeine.<\/span><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t

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Champorado: Filipino chocolate rice porridge<\/b><\/center><\/p>\n