{"id":6067,"date":"2013-06-05T08:35:35","date_gmt":"2013-06-05T14:35:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/manyvoices.soundstrue.com\/manyvoices\/?p=1137"},"modified":"2020-04-07T20:05:05","modified_gmt":"2020-04-07T20:05:05","slug":"washed-out-by-grace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/blog\/washed-out-by-grace\/","title":{"rendered":"Washed out by grace&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>We can be so hard on ourselves in so many ways: why did I choose the same kind of partner yet again, why am I not able to find more meaningful work, why am I acting just like my mother\/ father, why have I not become&nbsp;awakened yet, why am I not truly loveable by another. Recent research and clinical reports in the fields of attachment and interpersonal neurobiology have shown us that the way we\u2019ve come to see ourselves, others, and relationships was formed in the extended nervous system prior to the acquisition of language. As little ones, we lived in a non-verbal world, shaping our models of self and other according to our deeply wired need to survive, to receive love, and to be mirrored empathically.<\/p>\n<p>Fortunately, the realities of neuroplasticity have shown that it is possible to reorganize the way we see ourselves, conceive of this sacred reality, and interact in close relationships. By some unknown grace, it seems that we are wired for love; somehow we are supported by the unseen world to allow love to restructure our lives. While this journey is simple, we know it is not easy. We sense that it demands everything \u2013 and this can be scary. But through compassionate self-inquiry, authentic contemplative practice, somatically-alive psychotherapy, and especially through that ever-fiery crucible that is attuned, intimate relationship, the opportunity is there to give ourselves fully to this life and to receive the fruits of a wide open heart, a body and senses that are an offering of love, and an the clear wisdom of an intuitively-guided mind.<\/p>\n<p>It does seem that one thing is required though, and that is tremendous kindness to ourselves \u2013 an unconditional friendliness to who and what we are, and a deep respect for the journey from fear to love, for it requires everything we have \u2013 and more. Let us nurture and hold ourselves in kindness today, and to appreciate the difficulties and challenges in living a life beyond belief. Let us set aside the spiritual superego, our desperate need to be something other than what we are, and to allow the grace that is always and already here to wash down throughout this sacred body, pouring through these precious senses. And let us behold the miracle of this life as it is, seeing how lucky most of us truly are, and how we could only ever be in the exact right place, to take the perfectly-designed next step into love.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-1138\" alt=\"roserain\" src=\"https:\/\/manyvoices.soundstrue.com\/manyvoices\/wp-content\/uploads\/roserain.jpg\" width=\"620\" height=\"456\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We can be so hard on ourselves in so many ways: why did I choose the same kind of partner yet again, why am I not able to find more meaningful work, why am I acting just like my mother\/ father, why have I not become&nbsp;awakened yet, why am I not truly loveable by another. 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