{"id":6281,"date":"2017-11-20T08:00:53","date_gmt":"2017-11-20T15:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/manyvoices.soundstrue.com\/?p=3453"},"modified":"2020-04-07T18:06:45","modified_gmt":"2020-04-07T18:06:45","slug":"we-dare-you-to-rest-this-holiday-season","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/blog\/we-dare-you-to-rest-this-holiday-season\/","title":{"rendered":"We Dare You to Rest This Holiday Season"},"content":{"rendered":"

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When to say “No” & “Yes”<\/h5>\n

One of the most exhausting stress loops for women starts with saying “yes” when we feel “no”. Becoming your most authentic self is the first step to learning what a “no” and a “yes” feel like in your body. We often tell women to say no more, but equally as troublesome is that we also don\u2019t feel and then follow our yeses.<\/p>\n

Here’s a quick way to practice sensing what “yes” and “no” feel like to you:<\/p>\n

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  1. Put your hand on your heart and gut.<\/li>\n
  2. Place your attention at the space between your eyebrows (your third eye).<\/li>\n
  3. Inhale from the space between your eyebrows to the base of your spine, while mentally saying \u201cSooooo.\u201d Then exhale from the base of your spine to the space between your eyebrows while mentally saying the sound, \u201cHummmmm.\u201d Repeat twice more.<\/li>\n
  4. Be still as you rest your attention on your third eye for 20 to 30 seconds.<\/li>\n
  5. Call up a question you want an answer to, and see if you feel a “yes” or “no.”<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    For women who have lots of decisions to make, like mothers, I often suggest making a list of all the things stressing them out, and then, on the same day every week, doing this practice, seeing if they get a “yes” or “no” for each item on the list. This is also a great practice to do weekly when you\u2019re pregnant, because giving birth centered in your true self, knowing your “yes” and “no,” is the best gift you can give your baby.<\/p>\n

    Using this practice to help make decisions will help you stop overdoing. You begin with feeling, drop your ego, and then, from your true nature, make decisions that end the worn-out feeling. Beware of mistaking things you love to do as a “yes.” For example, many of the creative moms I work with love to cook, but when they use this practice to ask whether they want to stay up cooking cupcakes late at night for their children\u2019s school when they have work the next day, the answer they get might well be “no.”<\/p>\n

    Sometimes you may be faced with a difficult “no”: your inner wisdom will tell you that saying “no” to something will liberate time, but saying “no” may not feel good right away or may disappoint someone. If this happens, I encourage you to say “no” anyway. If you want to feel well-rested, you need to make the choice that supports your wholeness.<\/p>\n

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    Love Yourself First<\/strong><\/h5>\n

    Most of us have heard flight attendants on an airplane say, \u201cPut your own oxygen mask on first, and then secure your loved one\u2019s.\u201d This is an important message that well-rested women get in every bone of their bodies: love yourself first. The first thing your loved ones need is a healthy you. Here are two ways to do that.<\/p>\n

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