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Grieving a cat\u2014or any kind of grief\u2014is not a one-size-fits-all experience (as though any experience or emotion were?). Some people can\u2019t stop sobbing, while others reflect quietly. Some are comforted by hugs and rituals; others need solitude to process their loss.<\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s no \u201cright\u201d way to grieve, and there\u2019s no \u201cright\u201d length of time. In fact, I don\u2019t see a loss as something we \u201cget over,\u201d but rather something that becomes a part of our life experience. When our skin is gravely injured, it doesn\u2019t go back to looking the way it did before; it heals, and we have a scar.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

Loss changes the fabric of our lives; it changes the way we perceive and interact with the world. And like a scar, walking through grief (not trying to circumvent it) makes something in us stronger, more resilient. Grief is something to be healed, not to transcend.<\/span><\/p>\n

Grief is nonlinear, too. Our human minds would love to make grief into a process that has a distinct beginning, middle and end\u2026but in my experience, that\u2019s just not true. Grief, like life, is messy and unpredictable. As Jon Kabat-Zinn writes, \u201cYou can\u2019t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

We all grieve, and for each of us, our grief is as unique as a fingerprint. If we try to avoid grief, it will redouble its strength and burst forth anyway. However you need to grieve, that\u2019s the right way for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

An original post by Sarah Chancey, the author of <\/span>P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna<\/span><\/i><\/a>, the first gift book for people grieving the loss of their feline friend. This originally appeared on <\/span>morethantuna.com<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"sarahSarah Chauncey<\/b> has written and edited for nearly every medium over the past three decades, from print to television to digital. Her writing has been featured on EckhartTolle.com and Modern Loss, as well as in <\/span>Lion’s Roar <\/span><\/i>and <\/span>Canadian Living<\/span><\/i>. She lives on Vancouver Island in British Columbia, where she divides her time between writing, editing nonfiction, and walking in nature. Learn more at <\/span>morethantuna.com<\/span><\/a> and <\/span>sarahchauncey.com<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Grieving a cat\u2014or any kind of grief\u2014is not a one-size-fits-all experience (as though any experience or emotion were?). Some people can\u2019t stop sobbing, while others reflect quietly. Some are comforted by hugs and rituals; others need solitude to process their loss. There\u2019s no \u201cright\u201d way to grieve, and there\u2019s no \u201cright\u201d length of time. 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