{"id":20556,"date":"2024-02-02T14:34:05","date_gmt":"2024-02-02T21:34:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/?post_type=transcript&#038;p=20556"},"modified":"2024-02-05T14:02:04","modified_gmt":"2024-02-05T21:02:04","slug":"experimenting-with-becoming-gandhi","status":"publish","type":"transcript","link":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/transcript\/experimenting-with-becoming-gandhi\/","title":{"rendered":"Experimenting with Becoming Gandhi"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"pdfprnt-buttons pdfprnt-buttons-transcript pdfprnt-top-right\"><a href=\"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/transcript\/20556?print=print\" class=\"pdfprnt-button pdfprnt-button-print\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/pdf-print\/images\/print.png\" alt=\"image_print\" title=\"Print Content\" \/><span class=\"pdfprnt-button-title pdfprnt-button-print-title\">Print Transcript<\/span><\/a><\/div><p><b>Tami Simon:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Hello friends, my name\u2019s Tami Simon, and I\u2019m the founder of Sounds True. I want to welcome you to the Sounds True podcast, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. I also want to take a moment to introduce you to Sounds True\u2019s new membership community and digital platform. It\u2019s called Sounds True One. Sounds True One features original, premium, transformational docuseries, community events, classes to start your day and relax in the evening, and special weekly live shows, including a video version of <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> with an after-show community question-and-answer session with featured guests. I hope you\u2019ll come join us. Explore, come have fun with us, and connect with others. You can learn more at join.soundstrue.com.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I also want to take a moment and introduce you to the Sounds True Foundation, our nonprofit that creates equitable access to transformational tools and teachings. You can learn more at soundstruefoundation.org, and in advance, thank you for your support.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In this episode of <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, my guest is Perry Garfinkel. Perry is an accomplished journalist, editor, speaker, and author of the bestselling book <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buddha or Bust<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Since 1986, he has contributed to many sections of the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">New York Times<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and has written for <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">National Geographic<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Los Angeles Times<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and other outlets. With Sounds True, Perry Garfinkel is the author of a new book, a book that has a foreword by His Holiness the Dalai Lama. It\u2019s called <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi: My Experiment Living the Mahatma<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2019<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s 6 Moral Truths in Immoral Times<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Perry, welcome.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>Perry Garfinkel:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Thank you very much, Tami. I\u2019m very happy to be here with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let\u2019s start with what inspired you to do your own experiment living the Mahatma\u2019s six moral truths and the writing of this book. What inspired this?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There were two factors. One was personal and the other was external. Personally, I felt I had hit a wall. As I write about in the beginning of my book, I had descended into a kind of dark place and acting it out in different ways. So I thought, it\u2019s time to reset, reboot. Looking for Perry 2.0.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The other was that as I looked around at the world, I saw we had lost track. We\u2019d lost our moral compass. And I was looking around for someone who represented a high level of moral integrity. I landed on Gandhi because he was such a figure. I\u2019ve been to India many, many times, and like many people, I didn\u2019t know enough about the man. I didn\u2019t know about the broad strokes of his interests and his philosophies. So I undertook this mission.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I really started in the fall of 2019, and it was the end of December 2022 that I finished writing the book. But over that course of that two-and-a-half years, almost three years, I was following these six principles and exploring what Gandhi meant by them all.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Six principles. How did you distill Gandhi\u2019s life and teachings into six principles?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, there are 11 that people point to that he prescribed. I reduced it to the six that I thought I could handle the best. As I joked about, was it laziness or book deadline that brought me to taking on six? But, I think six was an ambitious experiment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And, we\u2019re going to talk more about those six principles and how you explored \u201cbecoming Gandhi\u201d in your own life, embodying those principles. But right here at the beginning, you\u2019ve talked about this sense of Perry 2.0. I\u2019m curious how the work on becoming Gandhi changed you, what it left in its wake after you completed the writing of the book. Now, a year, year-and-a-half after that, how are you changed by this?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I knew the test results would be in how much I had changed. I also knew that this would be one of the first questions people would ask me, even before I finished. \u201cHas it changed you? How are you changing?\u201d I think in the beginning of my book, I talk about the fact that I laugh more and I cry more. I am more empathic, so I feel more. For some reasons, these six truths I followed, plus traveling to three countries in the world to be where Gandhi was, maybe made me a more sensitive person and kinder to myself, because this was a lot of inner work, Tami.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> That\u2019s very interesting. I was not expecting you to say something like, \u201cLaugh more and cry more.\u201d When we talk about these six principles, I\u2019ll just state them here so people know what we\u2019re talking about: truth, nonviolence, vegetarianism, simplicity, faith, celibacy. We\u2019re going to go into how these became applicable for you in a contemporary way. But how did any of this help you laugh more and cry more?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I just began to see the poignancy of the human condition. As we were talking about before, laughter is an elixir for me. It enables the cessation of pain. Norman Cousins wrote about the power of laughter in his book. I grew up in a family, Jewish humor is famous, and that was both our dagger and our salve. It was natural to me as I looked around. You have two choices when you look at the universe and the way people are with each other. You either laugh or cry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One response of laughter seems inappropriate when you see death and dying, old age, and all the difficulties we have. But, sometimes, laughter loosens you up to go deeper into, where\u2019s the pain? and to let it go. The crying, also\u2014I\u2019m a super-sensitive guy, and sometimes I would cry watching <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Lassie<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. It all came up that these multiple dimensions of the human experience all came to me much more clearly. So, yeah. I laughed, and I cried. Even as I\u2019m walking around now, Tami, I have thoughts to myself that would have triggered an inner laugh, but now I laugh out loud. I\u2019m walking alone in my three-mile hikes every day and I think of something that I go, \u201cHah.\u201d I just laugh. I get teary-eyed, as well, about things that I see that upset me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Right here at the outset, Perry, I want to address the listener who perhaps had a similar halting response that I had as I started reading <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> and reading about things like celibacy and vegetarianism. I\u2019m not celibate. I\u2019m not a vegetarian. I thought to myself, these principles and Gandhi as a model, as an exemplar, are going to be unattainable for me. I\u2019m just going to feel terrible about myself reading this book. How do I even enter Gandhi\u2019s life as having lessons for me? And, I wonder if you can address that here, at the start.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Perfect question, and I can tell it in an anecdote. As you know, the original title of this book was <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. As I looked at his life, more and more I thought, what he was seeking? And in many ways, what he has attained is unattainable for most human beings over the course of many, many generations. But in this time, where we are witness to more violence, more lying, less simplicity, I was troubled. So, I realized I should change the title of this book to <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, because the attempt was enough of an achievement. The trying was a success. I feel that you can take some of these principles and basically taper down, or taper up, into them step-by-step. We try and we fail, we try again. As the old Zen saying goes, \u201cFall off the cushion nine times, get back on it ten.\u201d So in thinking about how to proceed, I just realized step-by-step will get me somewhere in an improved way than what I previously was. And, that\u2019s enough, Tami.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It\u2019s interesting this phrase, \u201cTaper up, taper down.\u201d I think as I engaged in contemplating each of the principles, I was trying to understand what\u2019s at the core, what\u2019s really happening here? Not so much necessarily the details of the behavior, but what\u2019s the inspiration at the essence of the moral principle? I wonder what you think about that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Mm-hmm. This is a good question. I think it comes down to, if we look at, let\u2019s say, Gandhian faith. All of these six principles are interwoven, they\u2019re additive. It\u2019s like the Tao of Gandhi. I think that the core is the question that intelligent, sentient beings ask, \u201cWho am I? Why am I here? What\u2019s my purpose?\u201d Each of these, I think, drives us down to a simpler state of being in which we can ask this core question: Who am I? What can I do for the world? What has the world done to me? How can I course correct some of these things? So, I think that\u2019s the through line, Tami, that bring us down to our essence in each of these. Then, let\u2019s look at these principles and kind of move up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want to make a point about the tapering part. I had an autoimmune dysfunction about ten years ago. The disease was called polymyalgia rheumatica, and I was taking prednisone. The idea, coming from new age, natural everything, it was repugnant, this idea to take prednisone. I heard there are many side effects, but my rheumatologist said, \u201cLet\u2019s taper down. We\u2019ll start with 20 a day. Then, we\u2019ll go to 15. Then, we\u2019ll go to 10. And then when we get down to 5, 6, 7, 8, let\u2019s just refine what you can tolerate and what benefit it will show you.\u201d I took the same approach with each of these principles. I don\u2019t have to go cold turkey, vegetarian. No pun intended. I just have to eat less meat, less meat, less meat, until I have no craving for it. That\u2019s exactly what happened, and I applied the same principle to each of these other five.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Let\u2019s move into the first principle truth. You write about how Gandhi coined the term \u201csatyagraha,\u201d an insistence on and holding firm to the truth. Help us understand what satyagraha is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Satyagraha is a higher principle related to\u2014let me start by saying, Gandhi, when he talked about truth, the first phrase he coined was \u201cGod is truth.\u201d Then, as he got deeper in his studies of the different kinds of truths, which I enumerate, he changed it. He flipped the script to \u201ctruth is God.\u201d In other words, truth can be the guiding force, the guiding principle, that can lead you to God.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think the biggest truth here is, when we look in the mirror\u2014this was the hard one for me, Tami\u2014you cannot lie. That\u2019s a kind of superficial way of being in truth. You can acknowledge a higher force than you. That is absolute truth, or the unconditional truth, that we read about, the nondualism of Buddhism. For me and for most people, I think looking in the mirror and looking at your foibles, looking also at your strengths, acknowledging them, working with them, dealing with them, is the kind of truth that I think of. I think, for Gandhi, satyagraha was that, as well.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, of course, Perry, Sounds True has true in the title. This whole notion of holding firm to what\u2019s true, it\u2019s really important to me. When I think of your book <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">appearing right now, during this time that we\u2019re living in, it seems like, for me at least, this notion of our respect for truth, publicly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don\u2019t usually go directly into talking about Donald Trump on <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. At the moment, I just want to talk about him as somebody who I see has normalized lying in the public. This is my own perspective on it. It\u2019s come to be where there\u2019s just this sense of, we can\u2019t count on being given what is true when we read the newspaper, the world of fake news, when we listen to politicians. This is really where I resonated with your subtitle of <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Immoral Times. I\u2019m just wondering how you see that specifically in relationship to this notion of truth and what it might mean for us to resurrect satyagraha in our time.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> As soon as you brought this up, knowing the history of Sounds True, knowing the body of the titles you\u2019ve published\u2014just FYI, I was familiar with you and Sounds True long before you started publishing books. I knew you as an audiobook publisher. So, yeah. Would she bring up Trump? Are we going to go there, so to speak? But, it does loom large and more, unfortunately, from my perspective, he created this energy that questioned truth and flipped it. It\u2019s very unfortunate.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Michiko Kakutani\u2019s book, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Death of Truth<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014I mentioned it in my book. She really goes into the issues that Trump brought up. This is my perspective. Yes. He brought in this idea of fake news, but is he and all of that movement, a reflection of what 50 percent of Americans who voted for him believe in?\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is something in our nature that wants us to question the truth. So as a journalist, I\u2019ve always been looking for the truth. There was a line that you need two or three sources to verify a truth. I think it was Jesus who said, \u201cWhen two or more are gathered in my name, there I am.\u201d In a way, our truth is based on a consensus. I, as a journalist, again, rely on evidence-based facts, so my sources are NIMH and other institutions that study any kind of phenomena as scientists. The truth will be out in the evidence.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, we\u2019re in a time where people are questioning, and I partly, also, blame the internet. I was working for Rodale Press in 1995, publishing company you\u2019re probably aware of. That was when the internet was introduced widely to big publications and then the world. So, they taught me how to study websites looking for the truth. You look to the bottom of the page and see who\u2019s saying this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think a lot of Americans, and people around the world, just take these things for granted. I have a niece who deals with some medical problems, and she cites Reddit as a source for her information. I said, \u201cSweetie, that\u2019s not a reliable source. That\u2019s a conglomerate of other people\u2019s thinking on these things.\u201d I feel that, again, we\u2019ve lost our way to truth.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even when the media saw Trump lying, there was some kind of taboo about calling it a lie. That worried me. That made me think that even those who were the seekers of truth, the media, are being pulled in this direction because as a courtesy to the President of the United States, they were not going to call him a liar, which in fact, they are lies. The cautionary lesson here is, check your sources, find out, get a consensus on what the truth is, and then come to your own conclusion and attribute your conclusion to your sources. That\u2019s one way to get to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Perry, there are several things in <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">that made me very fond of you, I have to say, as I read that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Aw, thank you very much.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It\u2019s true. It really evoked that in me. One of them is, you dig into \u201cWhat does it mean to me,\u201d as you put it, \u201chow to Gandhi? How am I going to Gandhi when it comes to truth?\u201d In your own reflections, you write, \u201cThe place where I need to start is, \u2018The truth is, I lie.\u2019\u201d The truth is, I lie. I thought, I\u2019m going to give Perry a hug, right about now, right here at this point in <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Tell me how you came to that discovery, the willingness to make that statement, and then how it impacted you in your own, if you will, process of moving into greater truth telling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I\u2019ve always been quite honest about my feelings. I\u2019m vulnerable, I\u2019m sensitive, and this all comes from me looking within, asking myself,\u00a0 am I who I\u2019m projecting I am? Because we all play this game. I also mentioned that we wake up every morning with a lie, in a deeply existential way. We invent ourselves as soon as we wake up. I\u2019m a wife, I\u2019m a child, I\u2019m a student, I\u2019m six foot four, I\u2019m too short. All of these ways we identify ourselves in a very deeply spiritual way. These are not the truths. This is the costume we wear. I\u2019m citing my first spiritual teacher, Ram Dass, who talked a lot about how we recreate ourselves as the reflection of what others are seeing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So when I strip this down, I have to cop to the fact that I do lie, and that these ways I invent myself every day is part of the big lie, Perry\u2019s big lie. I\u2019m comfortable in my skin with my vulnerability. So why, then, do I lie to others when, I\u2019m saying tongue in cheek, I say I am five ten when I\u2019m really five nine. This is a true fact. I lie about my weight and my age as a kind of cover up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I looked at these things deeply and said, why, Perry? Why are you doing that? Let these lies go. It was so freeing, even to write this down on the page, so to speak, on the screen and share it with, who knows, we hope millions of people. It somewhat frees you from the web of lies. That\u2019s the clich\u00e9d expression, because one lie leads to the next. And if you can un-lie, then it all is like a house of sand that crumbles down. So, it\u2019s in my nature to lie and not to lie. I get caught in that vicious circle. I think over the course of the period of this book, I came to understand that whatever I am, that\u2019s good enough. Maybe, that\u2019s the title in my next book, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good Enough<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. That gives you a little answer to it. Does it not?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It does. I\u2019m really glad you brought in this notion of \u201cgood enough.\u201d This is a further reflection on what I said in the beginning of our conversation, which is that I found, wrestling with each one of these principles, I had feelings come up of guilt, of my conscience being tweaked in this way or that way. I was like, how did Perry do it? How did he take this on for three years? Really, Gandhi? How did he do it and face himself in these different ways?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> He will try to answer. I kind of had to withdraw. This is where we\u2019ll talk about simplicity, too, in the context. First, I had to withdraw into myself even more than I am. I\u2019m a kind of loner, and I live alone. My daughter and husband and granddaughter live about eight blocks from me, but I had to cut myself off. Just like a science experience, I had to isolate the problem. We are contingent on, we are all Taoists, in that we are interconnected with each other and we\u2019re interconnected with our external environments.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So first was to isolate myself, and it was very difficult. I mean, then came COVID. I was coming back from my visit to South Africa, where Gandhi spent some 20 years, when rumors of this viral disease were going around What was it? March 6 that the world shut down?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Many people thought, oh, what a grace period for a writer who\u2019s going to write a book and isolate himself. It didn\u2019t work out exactly that way. I went into a kind of dark mood. I don\u2019t want to call it depression. It was difficult to write, let me say. I drew solace from an interview I saw. John Lithgow wrote a children\u2019s book that came out, and he was asked, \u201cHow did you do it?\u201d He said, \u201cIt was really hard.\u201d Every writer he knows is depressed now.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I had COVID as an excuse to isolate myself, and it didn\u2019t work out that way. I can admit to you, since I\u2019m all about admitting everything, this was the hardest book I\u2019ve written. This is the fourth book I\u2019ve written, and the fourth coauthored book I\u2019ve written. <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buddha or Bust<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> was a challenge, because the history of Buddhism around the world, every country had its own wrappings about the type of Buddhism that it follows.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gandhi was difficult because he was unattainable. At first I thought, I\u2019ll try to emulate him. I\u2019ll get the wire-rim glasses\u2014what we now call the John Lennon glasses. I\u2019ll wear a dhoti, the Indian garb. I\u2019ll learn to spin with a charkha, the spinning wheel that Gandhi made popular. I\u2019ll do all these Gandhian things. But it didn\u2019t work out to be beneficial. It was, OK. I\u2019m learning to spin with cotton into yarn. But it didn\u2019t bring me to that place I thought I was going to get to. That was very frustrating. To be more confessional, it was so difficult, I almost gave up twice. I thought, I can\u2019t write this book. It\u2019s too big a subject. Who am I to try to become Gandhi when\u2014you know? Many millions before me had followed him in India. He was a role model to Martin Luther King. He was a role model to Barack Obama, Obama tells us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But as I eased into it and it became harder, there\u2019s a quality in me that says, never give up. You can do it. It\u2019s like the\u2014what is that Nike slogan?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Just do it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Just do it. I came to the realization, if I go to my keyboard every day, something will come out. I\u2019ll further admit that when I wrote the first chapter, I thought, this is schlock\u2014a great Yiddish word, by the way. This is not really anything like any of the other books I had read. I read something like 32 books by or about Gandhi, and I thought, this is way off tone. Yet, it turned out to be what you and my editors liked.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So I really came to the conclusion then that, wow. Telling the truth gains you something internally. Also, people, as you just said, feel a kind of camaraderie or admiration and the willingness too. OK, if this schnook from New Jersey can do it, so can I.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yeah. Connection and affection. OK. Here\u2019s what I want, Perry. I want to go through the five other principles and have you share one powerful insight of how you were able to embody it in a practical way in your life that made a difference.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Great.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> So, let\u2019s move to nonviolence. And you talk about nonviolence in thought, word, and deed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yes. And, nonviolence is, I think, the longest chapter in my book, because it\u2019s both so important to Gandhi and so important to what the world needs to hear now. For me, in the \u201cHow to Gandhi\u201d section, I talk about \u201cDon\u2019t hit a pillow\u201d like the\u2014who\u2019s the psychologist who promotes that?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yeah. Fritz Perls, Gestalt.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Fritz Perls. Yeah. I say, \u201cDon\u2019t hit a cushion, sit on it,\u201d so meditation. But again, just to double back, the violence that we see in the world is the violence we feel inside. So while practically, I stopped watching movies that have a lot of violence in them\u2014and by the way, that\u2019s a lot, a lot, a lot of movies. I stopped or at least tapered down, shall we say again, from watching the news. I remember when the presidential debates came on, they were so violent, so triggered by this kind of feeling of tension that I stopped watching them. So, I eliminated these external influences of violence, which have nothing really to do with us in our daily life, for large part. Eliminating those brought me a little more peace.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Then, the hardest one, again, is to look at the way I\u2019m violent against myself. I do write about the kind of, oh, Perry, you messed up again. I spill things. I\u2019m a bit of a klutz. So, every time I would spill something I used to say, \u201cPerry, you F\u2019d up again.\u201d Now, I say, \u201cAha, there it is again,\u201d and I clean it up. I clean up the mess, and that became a metaphor. Nothing is unfixable. So the violence I showed myself about being so self-critical, I began to let go of those. That, I think, was the biggest takeaway.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It feels to me, I\u2019m going to share this sentiment, that in the experiment of <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, a kind of purging was needed to find Perry 2.0, this purging of exaggeration. Do you relate to that notion? That\u2019s how it felt inside of me, engaging.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, explain a little more what you mean by purge.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Purging, I mean, this kind of vomiting, so it\u2019s quite literal when I feel it. It\u2019s detoxifying. So, letting all of this toxicity in me, including the violence that I\u2019ve watched in films and other things, pour out of me like a cleansing of some kind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I see what you mean. I would use the word filter out. I would situationally and with discretion do less of this, less of this, and more of that. Somewhere in my \u201cHow to Gandhis,\u201d I do talk about taking things step-by-step. So, you eliminate one bad thing today, and you add one good thing. Or, you just in your head you say, I\u2019m going to stop using curse words. I\u2019m going to be more creative with my words. Then, with the words come the feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sometimes feelings leads to words. Sometimes words generate a feeling that we\u2019re not always identified with, because they carry so much baggage and so much emotional history. So I wouldn\u2019t call it purging, because as I write about and as I\u2019m explaining, you can\u2019t completely purge yourself. You can taper down. You can systematically eliminate the toxins, as you put it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> No. One thing, once again, to talk about the \u201cimmoral times\u201d that we live in. One of the things I notice is, even talking about something like our moral compass and Gandhi\u2019s moral compass, and how do we embody that more, that it could bring forth in people a kind of eye rolling, if you will. Like, \u201cOh, my God. Really?\u201d Meaning, our culture is so built around interesting slang words and our favorite movies, the popular movies, of course, having violence in them. So it\u2019s like, \u201cReally, Tami? You\u2019re having this conversation now?\u201d I wonder how you address that, that response that some people may have of eye rolling, even as we talk about this.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, anecdotally, to speak to the eye rolling, one of the last interviews I did in South Africa was a professor of sociology who wrote a book about Gandhi in South Africa. At the end of all the interviews, I would turn to these experts and professionals, book publishers of Gandhian materials, and I\u2019d say, \u201cOK, fine. But, how do you, yourself, follow any of these principles?\u201d The guy I interviewed in South Africa, I rattled off what I\u2019m doing, and he laughed. He jumped up, he interrupted the interview and said, \u201cAre you kidding? These are not Gandhian principles. These are principles. These are values since time immemorial of how we should live a life with integrity.\u201d It took me aback, and he was right. I\u2019m calling them Gandhi\u2019s principles, but they\u2019re the principles of mankind.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If the eye rolling comes from the fact that we\u2019re pinning this on this guy from the late 19th century into the 20th century, an Indian who eschewed formal clothing to live in a simple Indian garb, the eye rolling is, \u201cMeh. Such an esoteric character and has nothing to do with my life today.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Let\u2019s eliminate Gandhi from the equation. I use Gandhi as a prism to look at these things, and it just happened to work. If you\u2019re anti-Gandhi for some reason, and there are enough people who are, then take him out of the equation. Let\u2019s just look at these isolated values and see how they fit for you. That helped me.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> OK.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You think that\u2014<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> That\u2019s helpful. Let\u2019s move to vegetarianism and how you took that on your own tapering down, if you will, to use your language.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, I come from a family that was real meat and potatoes. Every weekend in the summer, Dad would grill a steak. It wasn\u2019t a meal in my family unless there was meat on the table. So, it came to tapering down, again. I remember, actually, when I signed this contract. I took myself out for a last supper, so to speak, at one of those steak houses. I was in Jersey City with my agent. I ate alone, and it was a steak.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I discovered that it\u2019s the anticipation of this piece of meat that tastes better than the meat itself. As a reviewer of restaurants, I\u2019ve eaten in a lot of great restaurants in the world. When I\u2019m with people, we start eating and the food becomes secondary. These could be expensive dinners, but I\u2019m the one at the table going, \u201cWas there cardamom in there? What\u2019d he do there?\u201d But everyone else is distracted by the company they\u2019re keeping, which is a nice thing. We diminish the actual taste of things.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I was surrounded by these rituals. Once I unwrapped them, it was easier to eliminate them. I had indulged throughout the three years to eat meat. I was actually writing a book for an Indian chef. He made such great food, I had to taste everything on the menu. But the enjoyment of the chewing of the meat and the taste did not feel great. Then, the repercussions of my digestive system. They shouted at me, \u201cDo you need this? This is not good for you. Your stomach is not prepared to digest and excrete this much.\u201d Experientially, it was easier. Mentally, it was harder.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And Perry, for those of us who don\u2019t know that much about Gandhi, maybe we saw the film and we\u2019ve learned a little bit. Did he write and teach on each of these principles, or is it more looking at \u201cMy life is my message,\u201d the famous quote attributed to Gandhi, and saying, oh, we\u2019re deriving these six principles from his life?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Or, did he declare, \u201cThese principles are the principles by which I\u2019m living?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I will answer that in a second, but going back to the vegetarianism. I had explained that now I eat fish, so I\u2019m a pescatarian. Another example how this experiment helped me modify my eating experience, and I feel healthier and cleaner because of that. Gandhi\u2019s was a strict vegetarian. So, in answer to your question\u2014can you rephrase the question a little bit?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Sure. I\u2019m wondering, did he write and declare, \u201cThese are the principles by which I\u2019m living my life and I recommend for others,\u201d or is it more just looking at how he lived\u2014<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> No.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2014that you derived the principles?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> He wrote and he read voraciously. He was a deep thinker. I think he contemplated too much, in my opinion. He was so diversified. He burrowed into each of these subjects. Eating\u2014in fact, with vegetarianism, when he really became a student of vegetarianism, aside from the vegetarian eating habits of his strict mother, was in England. He became a secretary of the Vegetarian Society of London, which still exists today, with another name and another place.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He was a student. As I hope your listeners know, he was a lawyer. He studied law in England, and he passed the bar and he became a lawyer. In reading his things, I always am realizing, this is a lawyer looking at everything with a 360 degree focus. So he wrote extensively. He started a newspaper in South Africa, and he started another newspaper in India.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Basically, as far as I can see, he wrote whole magazines, newspapers, I should say. He was working out his philosophies through his writing and his reading. He was a voracious reader. In the Mani Bhavan, which is the house he lived in when he was in Mumbai, writing what became the constitution of the independence from England, he was practicing these things. He worked it out. It was like a scientist cum lawyer, working out how this works.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have books on each of these practices. He wrote treatises on health, on education. I didn\u2019t get into education in my book, because I didn\u2019t see it as one of the principles to follow, but he was an innovator in education. He was an innovator in the use of the homemade, handmade, natural fabrics. Each of these came from extensive research and thinking. Then, put them into practice. So, you could sit in your room and think of all these things, but then he found ways to apply them in the real world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I also read in <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that Gandhi was quite the walker, and that he walked many miles a day. That was one of the practices you also took on in your own How to Gandhi experiment.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yes. It said, and I\u2019ve read it in many places, that he walked ten miles a day. He walked at a fast clip. I tried to calculate what that would mean and how many hours a day. It\u2019s impossible to do unless you\u2019re an athlete in training. I started training and building up. I was walking five or six miles a day, before I went to India, as a kind of ritual. Now, I walk at least three miles a day. It\u2019s like forty-five minutes to an hour. Nowadays, I wonder, Tami, how am I fitting this in? I mean, I got a lot to do and more that I should be doing, but I always, and I say this underlined, I religiously walk at least three miles a day.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What difference does it make? One, it clears my head. It oxygenates me. It\u2019s an aerobic exercise, because I do walk at a faster clip. I work my arms and my legs. It frees my mind to free associate, when I\u2019m walking. The tricky thing is to have a notebook and stop. Now, I have my phone where I can talk into. I found that in writing, you can be stopped on a line and you can\u2019t figure out the right way to write it. You can be paralyzed by this line, and you can give up for the day. Then, I discover if I walk away from the keyboard and take a walk, I swim frequently, it\u2019s then that this perfect version of the line I\u2019ve been spending an hour trying to polish comes to me full-blown. Then, the trick is to write it down, speak it to myself because ideas are ephemeral. They come and go, like your mind. So, yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The irony is when I worked for Rodale Press, which publishes health magazines and books, I became aware of lots of little factoids that I follow. One of them, back in the day, was that even 20 minutes of walking is good exercise if you can do nothing else. There\u2019s science behind it. So, I realized, this is a good thing. I shall do this. I\u2019m not Gandhi now. I\u2019m still becoming Gandhi. The walking was a powerful addition, and it sounds superficial a little bit. Just as now I eat oatmeal for breakfast because Gandhi ate oatmeal. He ate oatmeal because it was the cheapest kind of breakfast he could have, but it turned out that it was a good value add. It was good for my digestion. It was simple.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I found that the more ritualized I became, the less I had to think about what I\u2019m going to do. As an example, I don\u2019t have to think about, will it be eggs this morning or French toast or something else? It\u2019s oatmeal and fruit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Which leads us, Perry, to principle number four. I want to see if we can at least touch briefly on six of the principles. Simplicity, it sounds like you\u2019ve simplified your breakfast. Tell us something else about how this teaching impacted you, has changed you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> The first thing I did was go into my closet and simplified my closet, which is, again, a wonderful metaphor for all your emotions and your life. So, I took out clothes that I never wore. They were cluttering my closet, and I recycled them. I gave them away.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That also held true to things in my apartment that I keep. I\u2019ve traveled a lot, as you can imagine, throughout my career. For that period I was following Gandhi, I was on the road two different times for ten weeks at a time. Then, a few three-weekers in there. I\u2019m really adept at packing everything I need into a carry-on. When I come home, I unpack this carry-on on the living room floor to separate out what to wash, etcetera. I look around in my closet, even my stripped-down closet, and I think, wow. I have so much stuff. What do I need all this stuff for? I seem to thrive very well on this one carry-on suitcase. So, it made me look at ways I can just simplify.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The other one is, I mentioned Marie Kondo\u2019s book, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spark Joy, <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">keep only things that really give you joy. I think many of the things we keep are tied to memories. Some of them are not great memories, so you can discard those.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The other thing was spend less time online. Now, there are hotels that will invite you and your spouse, your traveling companion, to leave your cell phones at the front desk. It\u2019s a great challenge for most people nowadays, where the cell phone seems to be embedded in their palm. It\u2019s valuable, because the less input you have from time to time, the more you can go inside and look at what your issues are, what you love and what you don\u2019t love. So, yeah. I fall victim to this. I get in bed at night and I have my laptop in my lap in bed, and those are the last images I look at. So, I\u2019m bombarding myself with more data, more information that I don\u2019t necessarily need. So, I can get a night\u2019s sleep that is not being distracted by the last images I saw.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Powerful, good, clear, simplicity advice there, Perry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Thank you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> We have two more, faith and celibacy. Let\u2019s tackle celibacy first. How\u2014<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Let\u2019s do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> \u2014could this be at all meaningful to you at this point in your life?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> As I wrote, I\u2019ve been virtually celibate because I don\u2019t have a significant other, a girlfriend, in my life. So, it was not hard to be celibate, but still sex lives in your head. So, I began to eliminate sexual triggers. Whether walking in the street and seeing a beautiful woman and turning around and looking at her again\u2014why was I doing that? Why did I need that? Taking my filter, as I said before, and looking at ways in which we are also bombarded by images of sexuality. The clich\u00e9, \u201csex sells,\u201d is true. So the commercials on TV, the ads in newspapers, the ads we see online, often have somebody very pretty, whether it\u2019s a man or a woman, to promote the sale of this whatever. So, I began to do that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I had been going to porn sites. I eliminated those. There\u2019s a wonderful movie. What\u2019s it called? <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don Jon<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. About a guy who has the most perfect woman in the world. It was Scarlett Johansson. She caught him looking at a porn site the night he was with her. I thought, this is too close to home. How am I sabotaging my true appetite for sexuality?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I was challenged by your editor, Haven Iverson, to address, how does celibacy have a moral\u2014why does it fit on this plan for living a more moral life? I was pulled up and could not really answer that. Gandhi\u2019s explanation is, it\u2019s a purification process. So maybe, from the yogic position, it\u2019s like not going into your lower chakra. We should be moving up the chakras into ultimately our crown chakra. So, the pull of sex can distract you from the mission to find your purpose, unless you\u2019re a porn star, I guess.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">For me, of the six, it was questionable. How does this bring me to a more Gandhian lifestyle? At the end of the day, I\u2019m not sure I would have included that. Of the 11, it was always up there in the top six. In Hindi, it\u2019s called Brahmacharya.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I should say, personally if I may, my ex-wife, God bless her, gave me this beautiful daughter. At the time, we were studying with Ram Dass, who was encouraging brahmacharya. So, Iris and I tried Brahmacharya for a while, but we were young. We were in our 20s, and our sex drive was still alive and well. One night, in bed, we probably touched elbows, and it triggered our desire to make love. There\u2019s a difference between having sex and making love, I want to point out. We made love, and we both think that was the night I impregnated her with this beautiful being, Ariana.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I would not prescribe celibacy, unless you see it as a kind of experiment with abstinence. Then, go for it, go back to making love with your lover.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Thank you. That\u2019s a beautiful explanation, the love making and the notion that as we explore Gandhi\u2019s life and teaching and what we can learn from it, we can find our own way here, in terms of a creative interpretation. Healthy lovemaking might be our interpretation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I\u2019m also always surprised by these phrases, like you and I are saying \u201cmaking love,\u201d but having sex is one that sort of dissolves its meaning. Or, I went to bed with her or him. OK. What did you do? Sleep. It\u2019s our way to kind of obfuscate the fact that sexual intercourse is an expression of our love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Moving to the last principle, because there is one more thing I need to talk to you about, Perry. So, we have a lot to cover. So, let\u2019s touch on the sixth principle, faith.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yes, and this was a really interesting experiment for me. I grew up in a Jewish family. I was bar mitzvahed. At the time of my bar mitzvah, I was actually turned off by the rabbi, who I discovered, through rumors and actual experience, drank alcohol. It turned me off to Judaism. The other thing that turned me off to Judaism was the fact that I didn\u2019t have a direct experience of God through prayer and attending services. That\u2019s why I move toward Hinduism, and then Buddhism. In Buddhism, if you meditate deeply, the absence of everything else brings you closer to godliness. I\u2019m not going to say God, but godliness has a different kind of meaning. So the universe, the force, whatever you call that thing that holds this whole world together, I had less of an experience of it. So, I moved to the Eastern philosophies and spiritual practices, which I did find gave me more of a sense of my spirit.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gandhi grew up in a very devout family. Vaishnav is one of the esoteric branches of Hinduism. Faith drives our moral compass. It is the moral compass, the right thing to do. These phrases that we say and the leap of faith, I just explored more deeply what they mean, what do we mean, and what do they mean to me, and what can they mean to you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I am an empiricist. As a journalist, as I said before, evidence-based information is what convinces me to follow this path or that path. The leap of faith means that I have to accept this idea that there\u2019s something that I can see that convinces me there is a higher being.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cWhat is faith?\u201d became my koan, the Zen question that has no answers. I went around to my local community. Well, within my community, within a two-mile radius, there\u2019s many, many, I mean dozens where I live, and more so in cities. I went to leaders of several different churches, synagogues, temples, and practices of faith. I asked them, \u201cWhat is faith?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">To be honest, their answers seemed like the party line. They didn\u2019t really bring me to the answer to, what is faith? It\u2019s too intellectual an endeavor, I would say now. The experience of faith, in my experience, comes from\u2014I\u2019ll say two things\u2014comes from meditation practice. The other is I found that, in writing my last book, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Buddha or Bust<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, Buddhism is the religion of no gods. It\u2019s the faith of no faith. It\u2019s trust in what you see, hear, feel, experience.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I joke that I came from the religion that invented the one-god theory, and I moved to the religion of the no-god theory. But somewhere in-between, we all have to find, what do we have faith in? Oftentimes, it\u2019s faith in yourself. Faith in your ability to overcome obstacles, faith in your ability to believe in yourself, faith in your trust of others. I think that as we savor and nurture and water these vague ideas that even I\u2019m talking about now, but to contemplate what is faith will bring you closer to faith.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Would you say you\u2019ve made a leap of faith in your life, inside you?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> No. My faith has come from years of failure. Years of falling off the cushion have been more instructive to me than back on the cushion. I don\u2019t leap to faith. I slowly rise to faith. I don\u2019t fall in love, I rise in love. Once I fall in love, it\u2019s very hard to fall out of love. It takes me a time to fall in love, and I think the same thing about faith. It took me years, I think. But that said, intuitively, deep down, I saw in my grandfather, who founded a small synagogue in Queens Village, New York. The way he carried himself, the gentleness of his personality, the attention he would pay to me and my sister, these are so moving, right now, I\u2019m almost drawn to tears myself. That he, Grandpa Garfinkel, taught me what could be faith. So, he was my kind of guiding light in many ways.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That all said, I feel like from a very early age I was a spiritual expeditionary. I know you\u2019ll ask me, \u201cWhat is that? What do you mean by that?\u201d I think I mean that I\u2019ve always wanted to find out, what is the truth? What is my truth? Why are we put together here? Because I don\u2019t believe in God as a being up there in heaven. I continue to ask myself, what is faith? How do I find faith? How can I exhibit faith if I haven\u2019t taken a leap of faith? All of these questions. And the practice of becoming Gandhi has only amplified the volume of these questions I ask myself. And again, it\u2019s the asking that leads you to a sense of understanding. If you don\u2019t ask, you\u2019re never going to get there, wherever there is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And then the last thing, Perry, and I don\u2019t think it would be fair to this whole conversation of the practice of becoming Gandhi without bringing this up and understanding how you hold it. Even before reading <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, I had heard that there were criticisms of Gandhi, that there were some of his writings that people considered to be racist in tone. I\u2019m curious to know what you discovered in your research were the biggest criticisms and how you were able to take that in and make peace with it as you were practicing becoming Gandhi.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> OK. So, I\u2019ll speak to the two major criticisms. As I point out in the beginning of my book, and I\u2019ll just say for your listeners, it was difficult to isolate Gandhi\u2019s principles from Gandhi the man. And then again, Gandhi the politician who never called himself a politician. But, he was highly influential, obviously, to the history of India\u2019s independence from England. So that said, separating all that out, because the other criticisms may come from his political actions and the criticisms that he may experience from Muslims or zealot Hindus. There was a zealot Hindu who assassinated him.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So isolating all those, when he was in South Africa, he had called the Blacks \u201ckaffir,\u201d which at that time was a very derogatory term for Blacks: the Zulus and other tribes. So, he used that in some other derogatory phrases. My way to explain it and justify it is when I was a kid, maybe we use words that would not be used today, ever.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">He was in his 20s when he was in South Africa. So when the Black Lives movement latched onto \u201cGandhi was a racist,\u201d and they started vandalizing and pulling down Gandhi statues all over the world\u2014examples in many different countries\u2014it was that that drove it. I feel that I could forgive him if he had changed, just as my vocabulary had changed and my feelings have changed in the 40 years I\u2019ve been on the road. So, I forgave him that.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The one that I had trouble forgiving, there\u2019s stories and examples and writings about him having gone to bed and slept beside two of his nieces. They must have been in their early 20s, or teenagers. He did it, he said, to test his celibacy. It was a very flawed experiment. He spoke about it publicly, and he was publicly criticized for it. I explain it as his flawed thinking that sex comes from just sleeping next to a woman, in his case. We don\u2019t know what happened between the sheets. Were they naked? Were they dressed? Was he? The flaw, thinking that he would be sexually aroused by sleeping beside these two women, showed me that he had basically turned off his sexual chakra, that he was asexual by that point in his life, because it was after his wife had died.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, those were the two major\u2014and I have no excuse or an explanation for them other than what I just told you. But as I said, I saw this as a flaw and forgave it because we all have some flaws. So, that was how I dealt with it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And when you think of this beautiful phrase, \u201cMy life is my message,\u201d and you think of Gandhi\u2019s life, we\u2019ve talked about these six principles and you\u2019ve explained that, as a trained lawyer, he wrote about these in great detail and gave the argument, if you will, for these principles. But now, we step back and this will be the last question, Perry. We look at this question, \u201cMy life is my message.\u201d You told us so powerfully about your grandfather as a person whose life embodied this quality of faith. What comes up for you when you think of Gandhi\u2019s life as his message?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>PG:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> What comes up for me when I think of Gandhi\u2019s life as his message? What comes up for me is that he was not afraid to undertake these arduous experiments and kind of tried different things. He was an education reformist and all the other things we\u2019ve talked about. What also comes up for me is this question that always comes up as we talk about people in history: Did man make history, or did history make the man? Gandhi was a unique individual. Was he a saint? Was he an avatar? Was he a Mahatma, a great soul? He was a great man, and he moved the dial in so many significant ways by his simple life. But, for us to emulate that is difficult. I thought the question you were going to ask me, which I\u2019m going to pose to myself, how do I see my life? Is my life my message?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Because everything he said, we have to take as a kind of bounce back to, can you say that about your life? With humility, I would say my life\u2019s work are the books I wrote, especially this one. This book, I hope, helps people take on some of these principles and see how they improve their life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It has improved my life. My work is my message, but my relationships are also my message. In some ways, I fail at some of these relationships, and I work to improve them. I can only work to improve myself. I think my friends who know me say I\u2019m persistent. I\u2019m not going to be pulled down by defeat. You can say the same of Gandhi. He had great opposition to what he was attempting to do, but over time he was proven to be right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It\u2019s a hugely inspirational book, Perry, and one in which I feel so much warmth for you, the writer, and your journey, your experiment. Thank you so much for not giving up and completing <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Becoming Gandhi: My Experiment Living the Mahatma<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2019<\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s 6 Moral Truths in Immoral Times<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, a gift to us.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And, if you\u2019d like to watch <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> on video and participate in the after-show Q&amp;A session with our guests, come join us on Sounds True One, a new membership community, featuring award-winning original shows, live classes, community learning, guided meditations, and more, with the leading wisdom teachers of our time. Use promo code PODCAST to get your first month free. You can learn more at join.soundstrue.com. 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