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Tami Simon:<\/b> Welcome to the Michael Singer Podcast, presented by Sounds True in partnership with Shanti Publications. For more information about Michael Singer’s work, access to all prior episodes and information about upcoming releases, we invite you to join us at michaelsingerpodcast.com.<\/span><\/p>\n

Michael Singer:<\/b> Mm-hmm, jai guru dev, jai masters.<\/span><\/p>\n

The more you grow, really grow, the more the two things stand out. An apparent and actual opposition. One, we’re gonna discuss this, is this thing called reality. Don’t think that way, but reality’s kinda powerful. In one of the books, I think <\/span>Living Untethered<\/span><\/i>, it dares to define reality. Now, can you imagine?<\/span><\/p>\n

That could be the whole book. It was one sentence. Reality is that which already happened. Who can argue with that? It happened. Can you make it not happen? Will it ever not have happened? No. It’s never gonna not have happened. Is there something you can do to make it so it will not have happened? No. Is there anything anybody could do, the most powerful, rich, brilliant people in the world, to make what already happened not have happened?<\/span><\/p>\n

So reality’s a pretty powerful word. Man, that’s some serious stuff, right? No one could ever change it. It’s reality. That’s it. Then there’s this other thing that seems to stand in opposition to reality, and is the cause of all suffering, and we’ll talk about that, which is what you want and what you don’t want. Reality is out there.<\/span><\/p>\n

What you want and what you don’t want is in here. Do they always line up? Do they ever line up for any period of time? And the answer is you’re gonna find out that they don’t naturally line up. And I get ahead of myself here. Why would they? For things to, to mesh, to line up, they have to be equivalent forces that are causing them to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

What is going on inside of you has absolutely nothing to do with what happened outside of you. Things happened outside of you because of the forces that made them happen. People were in a bad mood, they said something not nice, people had a headache, people ate something bad, some people left you, some people found you.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t know. All kinds of stuff goes on. You don’t control that. If you did, everything would be the way you want. When was the last time everything was the way you want and you knew it was gonna stay that way, and it always was that way in the past? The big difference between what you want and what you don’t want and reality.<\/span><\/p>\n

So let’s start with reality. What is reality? It’s science. It’s this thing called cause and effect. There’s a law, a basic underlying law in the universe called cause and effect. Well, that’s complicated. No, it’s not complicated. That which happened causes the next thing to happen. Well, scientists try to isolate causes and effects so they can see how they’re related, so they can try to affect the future, okay?<\/span><\/p>\n

They don’t try to study cause and effect to say it didn’t happen. Science is about it did happen, can I see why? And the why is always the same. Because of all the causes that happened before it happened, that’s why it happened. Everything. That’s just how it is. Like, why does the sun shine? We’re gonna have to have a very long discussion if you ask that, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

Because it’s been going on for four point five billion years, and it was going on before that, which caused it to shine. Every single thing that exists is the result of everything that ever happened. You say everything that ever happened. The Big Bang, if it didn’t happen, there wouldn’t be the stars and the moons.<\/span><\/p>\n

They’re studying the Big Bang now to try to get down to the nanoseconds when it first took place. What was it like in the universe? And then they can trace what that caused the quantum field to manifest and how the waves took place, and then the atoms got pull. How, why do atoms get pulled together? What are atoms?<\/span><\/p>\n

Electrons, neutrons, and protons. Why did they get pulled the way they are? There are causes. They studied that. Oh, it’s very complicated. All right? They studied how close electrons can be close to each other, right? And there’s a distance that they, they, they repel each other, so therefore they can’t get too close, and that determines how the whole structure of the atom’s put together, all atoms.<\/span><\/p>\n

So everything is the result of the laws of cause and effect. There’s nothing that we have found, they just haven’t figured it out yet, okay? Everything is a result of cause and effect. There’s nothing that exists that did not have causes that came together that caused the next effect, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.<\/span><\/p>\n

So that’s what the outside world is. That’s how it got created. That’s how it’s getting created right now. I have a stomachache. Why? Have fun. Go to the doctor. What does he try to figure out? What could you have eaten? What could be wrong with your electrolytes? What could be this? What could be that? What are the causes of every single thing that’s going on?<\/span><\/p>\n

And that’s because the causes end up with the results and the effects. Now, why should you care about that? Because it’s reality. That’s the way it works. If you ask, for example, why is it raining on my birthday? Now, can we please take a moment and discuss how stupid that question is? Because the rain has nothing to do with your birthday.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your birthday has nothing to do with the rain, okay? You wanna know why it’s raining on your birthday? Go study meteorology at the university, spend the rest of your life figuring out what the weather patterns are, and they’re coming down from the north and La Ni\u00f1a and El Ni\u00f1o. Okay, have a lot of fun, and you’ll find out why it rained.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not on your birthday, because it had nothing to do with your birthday. They have nothing to do with each other. That is the vast majority of stuff you have trouble with, things that have nothing to do with you, except that you have made up in your mind how you want them to be. And if you understand the laws of cause and effect, that they are creating everything that ever was and ever will be, you wouldn’t do that.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s why the Third Zen Patriarch said, “The great way is not difficult for those who have no preferences.” In other words, if you honor and respect reality, you don’t have a problem. Do you? Not a single problem. Okay? Like, things happen because of all the forces that happened before that made them happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

Are you okay with that? The answer is, of course not. Of course I’m not okay with that. That’s exactly what I’m not okay with, right? But look what you’re up against. You’re sitting there pitting, and we’ll talk about where your preferences come from, you’re sitting there pitting these inner preferences that you made up, and you did make…<\/span><\/p>\n

Can they change? Can you like something one minute and not like the next? Wow, that’s pretty amazing. So what’s going on is reality is out there, reality is unfolding, reality is all around you, and not just around you, it’s everywheres. It’s not just the moments that are in front of you that cause the next moment in front of you.<\/span><\/p>\n

There’s all kinds of stuff that goes on. The weather, the this, the that, other people that affect the moments unfolding in front of you. It’s very, very big. Is it not? And your mind is very, very small. Why? Because reality is about everything. Your mind is about you. Every one of your preferences is what I want and what I don’t want.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, they could be about my daughter. I want my daughter to be better. I want my daughter not to do drugs. It’s still the I. Wait till you see how much your mind talks about I, me, mine. Just take the I, me, and mine. That’s the vast majority of all your thoughts, the vast majority of everything you do. And you’re pitting that against this thing called reality, and you wonder why you have anxiety, and you wonder why you have tension, and you wonder why you’re depressed, and you wonder why things don’t ever go your way, and you wonder why God is the way he is or she is.<\/span><\/p>\n

You, you dare to do that by pitting what you did in your mind against the whole universe. There are people that don’t think Saturn should have rings. They… No, they march with placards. Saturn is evil. Saturn should not have rings. All right? Well, there are people that think you shouldn’t behave the way you did, and people who don’t think you shouldn’t say what you said.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s exactly the same. The same reason Saturn has rings is why you said what you said. There were causes that happened from the past and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? It all culminated in ah, in what came out of your mouth. And it’s just, it’s so obvious, but we don’t talk like this. The way we normally talk is, “How do I make reality be the way I want?”<\/span><\/p>\n

Just struggle, fight, manipulate, yell, argue, scream. How do I get that out there to be the way I decided I wanted it to be? Does it cause trouble to be like that? Is that the cause of all suffering? That’s the cause of all evil? What is evil? Somebody that’s got a really, got a fixed way of looking at stuff and couldn’t care less about everybody else, and just goes out there, “Get, get out of my way.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t care what you think. I don’t care what you’re doing. I don’t care what, what you want,” right? “Me. This is what’s gonna happen.” And they cause a lot of trouble, don’t they? So I keep wanting to look at the difference between this thing called reality and this thing of what you made up in your mind.<\/span><\/p>\n

Okay, what do you mean I made it up in my mind? I’m gonna tell you something. There’s not a single thing that you like and don’t like that’s not based upon experiences you’ve had in the past. It’s because your stepmother wore blue when she was yelling at you or left your father that you don’t like blue or your stepmother or her name or any stepmothers.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you hear the word, you’re cringing. You hear me? It’s like you’ve had experiences. Those experiences left impressions inside your mind. That is how you decided. You didn’t decide. You’re programmed. That is the programming that is now coming up of what you like and what you don’t like. Don’t you dare think you made it up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Let’s say, wonder what I should do for my career? Be a pianist. No, I don’t wanna be a pianist. Why? Why? Because I tried to play the piano when I was little and I had a recital and everybody booed, right? Or whatever. It’s like you’ve had experiences. Reality comes in. I’ve discussed that with you many times.<\/span><\/p>\n

Reality isn’t just out there. It comes in through your senses. That’s why you have senses, and it comes back, and as it comes in, if you’re a very, very wise, evolved being, that’s what it does. It comes in, and you experience it, and you’re here now. That’s what be here now means. Doesn’t mean make sure you’re concentrating.<\/span><\/p>\n

It means you’re not doing anything. It is in here, and what’s happening out there, which is a result of reality always. There’s nothing that ever happened that wasn’t the result of all the forces that made it happen. How’s that for an absolute truism? Say it again. There’s nothing that ever happened that wasn’t the result of all the things that made it happen, that caused it to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

All right? So that’s what’s going on out there. Fine. A wise person, and we’re not there yet, says, “I’m not gonna fight with reality. How can I fight with reality? It’s really big. It’s everything.” All right? But when it comes in and hits you inside, you’re in there, right? You’re in there, you’re not out here. It hits you inside.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sometimes it feels good. Sometimes it feels bad. Sometimes it just goes right through. The white lines on the road. You know, you guys are enlightened about the white lines on the road. You drive by them every day. They don’t leave impressions on you. You don’t get upset. They’re not bothering you. You are be here now about the lines on the road.<\/span><\/p>\n

I challenged you before. Sometimes they’re yellows, you know that? Sometimes they’re solid. Sometimes they’re dashed. Can you handle it? You’d look at me like I’m crazy to ask the question. That’s a stupid question. Of course I can. There’s nothing to handle. They just are the way they are. But what if you couldn’t handle it?<\/span><\/p>\n

What if you just hated when they’re solid on both sides? ‘Cause you can’t pass, and you like to pass. Now you’re all upset because of how the lines are. Normally, that’s not how you are. There are- I once put a number out, 99.9% of every single thing that ever came in through your senses went right through.<\/span><\/p>\n

Take a breath. Doesn’t seem like that, does it? Blades of grass, leaves on trees, cars driving by, people you don’t know. How much goes in that just goes right through? That is what be here now means. So the problem is not be here now, it’s why are you not? Because that’s a very small .1 or .01% of everything.<\/span><\/p>\n

Everything else made it through, but it doesn’t matter, does it? You see someone who looks like your boyfriend holding hands with someone who looks like your best friend. Turns out they’re not, okay? But it doesn’t matter. Out of all the people and all the things that you’re seeing all day for years, that didn’t make it through.<\/span><\/p>\n

Okay? So you can’t be here now about that. Why? Because when it came in, oh, we’re gonna do this, when it came in, you in there, you are in there, got so distracted by it because you have jealousy or you have fear of loss. You, you have this human stuff, so it hits the human stuff, and it feels yicky. And so what you do, and I’ve, I’ve yelled at you for this many, many times, you decide that that which bothers me the most, I’m gonna keep.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s what Freud meant by suppression, right? You don’t suppress things you like, you love, right? You suppress things you couldn’t handle. So it comes in, and it just doesn’t feel right, and so what you do is push it away. That’s the most important thing I’ve ever taught you. You do push things away in there, don’t you?<\/span><\/p>\n

When it comes in, it doesn’t feel good, you just welcome it? No. You say, “I don’t want to have experienced that.” So you’re saying, “I don’t want reality to have happened.” That’s what you’re saying when you say, “I don’t want to have experienced that. It’s not right. I shouldn’t have had to experience that.” Was it reality?<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes. But I don’t like that reality. I don’t like that reality. We just talked about the fact that reality is what happened. It happened. There. Can you handle it? No. Okay, good. Let’s talk about that. What does it mean? No. By the way, what choice do you have if it happened, and it came in, and you experienced it, and you don’t want to have experienced it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Shh. This is deep, because I know what your choice is. Push it away. Out there? No, it already happened out there. Inside, I don’t want it coming all the way in. I don’t want it touching me deep inside myself, like when someone hugs me or when I see a beautiful sunset. I, I like that. That touches me to the depth of my being.<\/span><\/p>\n

This thing that just came in, there ain’t no way I’m letting that come back there. I’m gonna protect myself. Me who experiences, I don’t want to have experienced that, which by the way, I hope you hear those words. I don’t want to experience what I already experienced. Good luck. So your only choice is either accept it and let it pass through and get on with your life, or resist it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Use will. Use the power you have inside to push it away, and I hope you smile because you do this every single day about lots and lots and lots of things. You hear me? Not just big things, tiny little things. You just push them away. I don’t want it to be raining. I don’t want the driver to drive slower than, than I wanna go.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t want to not be able to pass somebody. Whatever it is, there’s all kinds of things, and what you do when you don’t wanna feel them is you think by pushing them away, I protected myself. That’s the right word. The experiencer protected itself from having the experience. But it did have the experience.<\/span><\/p>\n

What it decided to do was if it doesn’t touch me deep and I can keep it at a distance, then I didn’t have it. That is called suppression. That’s exactly what Freud meant by suppression. By suppression, repression, denial, you have pushed it away as if it didn’t happen. But it did happen, so what happens to it from thereon?<\/span><\/p>\n

The answer they already taught you. If you touch it when it’s coming through and push it away, it stays in there. Every single thing you ever pushed away is still there. You’ll find out somebody said something to you and you didn’t like it. You didn’t like what they said. My best friend, she said something that wasn’t very nice.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t know what she meant by that. Probably wasn’t very nice. I don’t know. I don’t know about it. Next time you see that person, you ain’t as open as you were before. It had an effect on you. You’re not open. You’ve pushed it away. So next time you see them, it hits what you stored in there, and maybe that goes on underneath.<\/span><\/p>\n

That suppression goes on underneath for years, right? Then the person does something years later. You tell your friend, “I knew, I knew I couldn’t trust her. You can’t believe what she said to me three years ago.” In yoga, we call that a samskara, something that comes in, all the energy, the whole experience that you don’t want to experience to…<\/span><\/p>\n

And you push it away. Push what away? You don’t push the thing away. It happened. It’s out there. You’re doing this inside. Something you do inside yourself. You push it away. It gets blocked in your mind and in your heart. What’s below you, you’re the consciousness who notices the mind and notices the thoughts and emotions.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re higher. I’ve said this before and nobody understands it. You’re the highest being that ever walked the face of the earth right now, not once you get enlightened. You back there are some holy stuff. The problem is you don’t stay seated back there. You get distracted and pulled down into the stuff that disturbs you.<\/span><\/p>\n

And what you do with it then is push it away and store it, and now everything hits it. And then soft spots. It hit my stuff. I like it. That’s very spiritual. Do you understand how powerful that statement is? What you said hit my stuff. What stuff? Where? I didn’t touch you. Okay? No, no, no, no. It came in, and it hit all this stuff I stored in there from my mother and my brother and the thing and my first boyfriend and girlfriend and, and every single thing that’s down there.<\/span><\/p>\n

And all of a sudden, all this hurt and anger comes up inside because it stimulated what you got stored in there. The only problem you have is the stuff you stored in there. You don’t have problems with the white lines. You don’t have problems with people you don’t know. You don’t have problems with the things that came in that you did not grab and push away.<\/span><\/p>\n

But you have problems with every single thing you ever pushed away. “Hey, let’s go out. What do you wanna eat? Chinese?” “No, no, no, no. No. I had this Chinese dinner about three years ago. It made me so sick. I’m never gonna have Chinese again.” Do you understand how absurd that statement is? You had one Chinese dinner.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of all the Chinese restaurants and all the Chinese dinners that people have that made you personally not feel well, now you never wanna have Chinese again? It’s very funny. And you don’t want anybody else to either, ’cause you’ll argue with them. You don’t understand how sick I got. Can… I wanna know, can anybody hear me?<\/span><\/p>\n

How absurd that is, and isn’t it true you do that? Pay attention to what’s going on in there. So you’re in there, it hits you wrong, it hits you in a way that’s not comfortable, and you do this thing, like I said, it’s the silliest thing I ever heard of. Because I didn’t like it, I’m gonna store it, so it gets to bother me for the rest of my life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Will it bother you for the rest of your life? Can it bother you for the rest of your life? Of course it is. So basically, you understand that that’s what’s happening. Comes in, has vibrations, different vibrations, different things, and when it hits you wrong, what does that mean? It means the consciousness is not able to stay open.<\/span><\/p>\n

I’ve never defined it clear as that before. You’re open, you’re conscious, you’re aware of all kinds of things, but that thing is a little different than the other ones, right? ‘Cause you couldn’t handle it. And so because you couldn’t handle it, you came down with the power of will-focused consciousness.<\/span><\/p>\n

You focused on it, and you pushed it away. Does it come back up in your dreams or when somebody says something? Does that stuff come back up? You ever have somebody hit your stuff? “I was doing okay till he said that. I haven’t slept for three days.” Oh, it hits your stuff. Why? Because it’s in there. Ever go visit your parents after a long period of time and find out you still have some stuff in there?<\/span><\/p>\n

I won’t make you raise your hand. Who still has stuff in there about their parents? Ha ha. All right? Because you went through your childhood with them, because you went through all these things and you stored all this garbage inside yourself. They’re just people like any other people. They got the same problems anybody else does.<\/span><\/p>\n

But that’s not how you took it. Do you hear me? “You didn’t let me go out and date on that other thing. You yelled at me this thing, and this thing. And then you all got divorced, and it hurt me so much.” Which is wrong. Whoa, and you’re 55 years old, and all that happened when you were eight. It’s still in there, isn’t it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Psychology says it’s still in there. In fact, psychology is something that is so powerful. It’s not the complete truth, but it’s so powerful that it supports every single thing I’m teaching you. It says, man, woman, man is the sum of his learned experiences. Your mind and your emotions are the sum of your learned experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

That is true. You’re not the sum of your learned experiences. You’re the one who notices that you’re the sum of your learned experiences. You are aware you have trouble with your mind, aren’t you? You’re aware of the stuff you push back down. You are the consciousness in there that’s aware, but what you are aware of is that your mind has been programmed by your past experiences, and your heart has been programmed by your past experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

So now your thoughts and your emotions come up on their own based upon your past experiences. Fair enough? Okay. And now you start looking at that. I keep wanna go back. What do your past experiences have to do with the reality of the moment unfolding in front of you? You grew up in New Hampshire, you’re in Miami.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re around a bunch of people that weren’t there when you grew up, but yet you’re coming into this moment with the sum of your learned experiences, and the moment unfolding in front of you has nothing to do with you. Y- you don’t like that, ’cause it seems like it does, doesn’t it? It’s because it hits your stuff, and you take it personal.<\/span><\/p>\n

The moment didn’t do that. The moment’s just going about its business. A hurricane might come. I had this terrible experience. My house blew down 10 years ago, and I, I don’t want a hurricane to come. The moment in front of you doesn’t know anything about that. The fact that you don’t like hurricanes has nothing to do with the weather patterns that are happening now.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s stuff you stored in there from your past and are bringing into the present and projecting it onto the really innocence of the reality of what’s unfolding in front of you, and that’s your entire life. And so when you fight with the outside world, you’re really fighting with yourself. You’re trying to make the outside…<\/span><\/p>\n

You have dreams, don’t you? Hopes, and dreams, and customs, and views, and, and dating sites that you explain carefully what you like and what you don’t like, and you’re just sitting there saying, “I want the outside that unfolds in front of me to match what’s going on inside of me.” Why would I not want that?<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t know, but it ain’t gonna happen, because the outside has nothing to do with the inside. Yes, it’s true, it left the impressions from before, but 10 years later, what’s unfolding in front of you when you’re in France and you walk into a restaurant and people are speaking Chinese, and you didn’t expect Chinese to be spoken in France because you don’t like the Chinese restaurants, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s like, like all of a sudden you’re in a totally different environment, and it’s hitting your stuff. It’s absurd. It has nothing to do with you. You think of yourself as the stuff you stored from your past. What’s happening out there is not related to that. It’s related to itself. Again, I don’t know if I said it too much already, but what’s going on inside of you is the sum of your learned experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

What’s going on out there is the sum of its learned experiences, and they ain’t the same as yours. You weren’t even here. They weren’t even with you. How different are those two things? They have nothing to do with each other. But they do to you, because you project your learned experiences in the form of like and dislike, desires and fears.<\/span><\/p>\n

You project them out there. Let’s say you saw a rattlesnake once, and it really scared you to death. You were young. It scared you terribly, right? And you’re walking around somewheres, and there’s a rope coiled up. Are you scared? How could a rope scare you? Because you stored it inside of you, but the moment it’s unfolding outside of you has nothing to do with…<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t know. I’m gonna cry to try and get it across. I know it’s hard for you because you are taught to try to make your life be what you want it to be. And you wonder why there’s so much disharmony, how much aggravation, and how much tension, and anxiety, and disharmony. Of course, because you’re the sum of your own experiences, she’s the sum of her own experiences, and your husband is the sum of his learned experiences, and you weren’t around for 25 years of his life, nor are you around for every experience he has.<\/span><\/p>\n

So if it’s true that what’s going inside of you is the sum of your own experiences, that’s true of everybody. So no wonder they’re not the way you think they should be. I don’t know if anybody can listen. If you’re willing to listen, it changes everything once you wake up. You know why the world isn’t the way you want it to be?<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not supposed to be. It’s supposed to be the reality that’s unfolding. Well, I don’t like that. I don’t know what to say. Oh, get me, get me a violin because it’s gonna be the way it is. Now, does that say you can’t do anything about it? I didn’t say that. There are two things you can’t do anything about: what just happened, it already happened, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

And the past. And that’s a pretty big slice what’s going on inside of you if it’s the summary of learned experiences, and so you finally wake up. Spirituality is about honoring and respecting reality, and then honoring and respecting the mess that you made inside yourself based on your past experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not your fault. You couldn’t handle things. You weren’t ready. You weren’t evolved enough yet. The tiniest little thing bothered you. You know, your sister got, got the bicycle you wanted 23 years ago and you haven’t talked to her since. Can it happen? You know it can, okay? And you just catch on that you learn to respect the reality that’s unfolding and that unfolded.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, I can accept what’s happening now, and I can accept what I think is gonna happen in the future, but I cannot accept what happened in the past. Well, then you’re in trouble because the past ain’t gonna change. Do you have things in the past you wish didn’t happen? Well, you’re wasting your time, your energy.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s where all your Shakti’s gone. Your Shakti, the energy inside, the beautiful spiritual energy, you’re using it to fight what you stored inside yourself and to try and rationalize how to make the outside look like it’s the way you want it to be. Instead of the world has the right to be what it is.<\/span><\/p>\n

It is what it is. Your past has the right to have happened. Show me a person, and I’ll, I’ll show you one, me, right? Who sits there and says, “Not one single thing I would ever change what happened in the past.” Why? Why bother? It’s, it’s not gonna change. All it’s gonna do is give me ulcers and have me not like things.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not gonna change, so why do that? Doesn’t make any sense. And so you get to the point where you start to realize what I’ve been talking to you about, the difference between the causes that make the outside world, not just in front of you, everywhere, there’s Mars, there’s Jupiter, billions of galaxies, they’re all the result of whatever happened, and they’re all affecting each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

The stars affect the balance and the black holes eat something, I don’t know, right? It’s just the whole universe is a whole, including the moment in front of you. The moment in front of you is the result of everything that ever happened. You get to a point, let’s do it quickly, where instead of fighting it, you respect it. You just inside say, watch this, “You had the right to happen.”<\/span><\/p>\n

And it’s very big of you. That which happened had the right to happen, right? There, you’re starting to get some wisdom behind you. Why? Because it obviously did have the right to happen because it happened. Is it good? There’s no such thing as good. Is it bad? No such thing as bad. Is it right? Is it wrong? Is it better?<\/span><\/p>\n

Is it worse? Those are judgments that you’re making. Based on what? What she thinks is wrong, you think is wrong. Right, like that. She stole your husband. You think that’s very wrong. She loves it. Right? Everybody has different experiences. So you just get to the point where you start to at least understand that when you look back at your past, the highest thing to do is to honor and respect it.<\/span><\/p>\n

To say, “Wow, I’ve dropped down on a planet in the middle of nowheres, and these moments unfolded in front of me.” There could’ve been any other moment. I could’ve not been paying attention, then I didn’t have that moment. Right? I could’ve looked to the left, looked above. Somebody called me on the phone, and I was busy talking, and I miss some negative thing that happened or some positive thing that happened.<\/span><\/p>\n

Come on, there’s all kinds of stuff going on. But you only pick the ones that affected you. And so if you do that, you will build inside of you this thing called an ego. That’s what the ego is. It’s the stuff you stored inside from your past, and they don’t fit. Nobody says that everything fits, right? The, the moments didn’t talk to each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

They just happened. All right? And plus, they didn’t even happen in sequence. Right? Something happened three years ago that hit what was happening today, and you’re very personal inside. And so you then put together a concept of yourself, and that’s what the self-concept is. And speaking like this, I don’t know if you can hear me.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s what the ego is. “I like my ego.” Well, then there’s, there’s just something wrong with you, right? ‘Cause that’s like saying, “I like what I made up. I like what I made up based on the experience I happened to have in the moment when I was there.” There could’ve been any other moment, anything could’ve happened in that moment.<\/span><\/p>\n

I, I, I sometimes really challenge you. I don’t like when I go that far. When you’re having an exper- Have you had experiences? How many experiences do you have? Every moment you’re having an experience. At the same moment you’re having that experience, how many experiences are going on that you’re missing?<\/span><\/p>\n

What’s the ratio between the one that you’re having and the 700 billion that are going on everywheres else that you could have had? And you put 100% weight on that one experience that you had, and you couldn’t care less about all the other ones going on everywhere, not to mention Mars, not to mention South Timbuktu, not to mention a particular house that you’ve never been.<\/span><\/p>\n

You hear me? How many things have you missed? And you collect this one, link them together, and say, “That’s me. I’m the one that had this experience.” I’m sorry, so what? It’s like a ri- that’s absurd. It’s absurd to sit there and hold inside of yourself the one experience you had, and you missed 700 billion, ’cause you could’ve had any one of those.<\/span><\/p>\n

You could’ve been late for dinner and you didn’t have those experiences. You could’ve sn- nodded off. Anything can happen, and you just get to the point where you understand, “I’ve made a mess in here.” By doing what? By saying, “The experience I had is the most important thing in the universe,” and you do believe that.<\/span><\/p>\n

You believe the experiences you had are more important than every experience that everybody else had, and more important than the ones you missed, ’cause you don’t think you missed anything ’cause you’re so fixated on the experience you had. Look around. How many were going on at the same time? This is how you free yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

You learn right thought, right action, and you start to understand. Boy, have I made a mess. I have an experience, I couldn’t handle it, so I kept it, and it blew up my whole world and blew up everybody else’s, too. Right? Ever met people that behave a certain way when you think you know them, and then they change, and they become, like, a totally different person?<\/span><\/p>\n

They do things you never thought they would. Yes or no? Every one of you have. Why? Because they are the sum of the learned experiences. You understand that? And they’ve suppressed a bunch of them, and all of a sudden something happens. You don’t even necessarily understand it. I’ve seen it amazingly, right, how fast people could change.<\/span><\/p>\n

And if I don’t ask why anymore, oh, I guess they had past experience that was suppressed, and then they came up and ah. Right? Yeah. How does that happen? Because they had suppressed all this stuff from their past. They put on a front called your self-concept, your ego. Here it is, a mask that you put on, and somehow it didn’t last.<\/span><\/p>\n

It broke down. Do you hear me? For whatever reason. Okay? And all of a sudden, this stuff comes up inside, and you ever think differently based on s- different stuff that happened? You could change your way of thinking. It can change so fast. And it’s just, you catch on that, yes, you’re the sum of your learned experiences, and from a spiritual point of view, that’s irrelevant.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s meaningless. Those are just the tiny experiences you picked up, and you held them, and you built a you out of those experiences, and then you presented the world to say you should be the whole world. You should be the way I want you to be. Otherwise, it’s wrong. You literally say, “You’re wrong. You shouldn’t have said that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Can’t believe you said that. You’re wrong to say that.” I don’t know. I’m the sum of my learned experiences. You’re the sum of your learned experiences. And your learned experiences say, “No.” My learned experiences say, “Yeah.” Who’s right? Nobody. There’s no right or wrong. There’s just the world unfolding and you making a mess by storing inside of yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

You wonder who’s right? The one that doesn’t store it. The one that has learned, let’s get down to the nuts and bolts here. The one that learned that storing this stuff inside is a non-starter. Well, okay, let’s get this over with. What if I don’t store it inside and I don’t act to try and make what I want to happen?<\/span><\/p>\n

What will happen? You will start to see the reality of what’s unfolding in front of you. Not what you want to be unfolding, not what you don’t want to be unfolding, not what you’re afraid might be unfolding, and not what you wish hadn’t unfolded. They’re not there anymore. Well, what’s there then? You.<\/span><\/p>\n

Clarity. Pure consciousness. The one that has the experience, not the experience, the one that has the experience, the one that has had every experience that you’ve had, and it comes in and you let go and you find, we’ll talk about how in a moment, that it can pass through. Not all at once, but you can learn to let it pass through.<\/span><\/p>\n

If it’s not stimulating inside your mind and heart, like and dislike, what’s it doing? It’s, you’re just experiencing it and you’re in harmony. It’s called the Tao. That’s what Lao Tzu meant by the Tao. You’re now in harmony with life. You’re in harmony with what’s actually unfolding, not what you want to be unfolding, not what you don’t want to be unfolding, not what you’re afraid might unfold.<\/span><\/p>\n

All of that is just noise that can’t see reality. It’s busy seeing you. You lay yourself, you lay the sum of your learned experiences on top of reality. You can’t see what’s going on. It’s too polluted and distorted by what you want to be going on, what you don’t want to be going on, what happened before, which has nothing to do with what’s happening now.<\/span><\/p>\n

You hear me? Okay. That’s the thing. You hear the word clarity? That’s clarity. That’s where a great being lives, in a state of complete clarity. And what happens when they have that clarity, they’re able to see things better, and they see solutions. They see harmonies instead of, “I don’t like what it is,” so where do you see what’s gonna go on, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

What I call harmony is what matches me. How’s that? You guys are not in harmony with me. Okay. Okay, very good. We’re in harmony with us, we’re not in harmony with you, right? And that’s where all the arguments come from. That’s where all the disharmony comes from. That’s where all the disturbances come from.<\/span><\/p>\n

And you all do it ’cause you want the outside, when it comes in, to match what you built inside yourself. You literally say things like, “How could you say that? I would never have said that to you. I can’t believe you said that to me. I didn’t think you would ever do that.” Ever talk to somebody like that? Of course you wouldn’t do it.<\/span><\/p>\n

You have totally different experiences than them. You hear me? But you… Guess what? You don’t care. You want to manipulate them so that, “I don’t care what your past experience is. I want you adjusting to mine.” Smile. “I want you behaving the way I think you should be behaving.” You do it to your children, you do it to your spouse, you do it to your boy- you just do it to everything.<\/span><\/p>\n

The way I look at it is how it should be. Why? Because if it’s not that way, it bothers me, and it must be wrong if it bothers me. And eventually, you get to the point where you realize there’s something wrong with me, that that’s the way I think, that everything should match me, as opposed to my ego’s the sum of my learned experiences and theirs is the sum of theirs. Can you handle that?<\/span><\/p>\n

People talking about surrender and acceptance, that’s what we’re talking about. But they think that what I’m teaching, and I’m not, is that surrender means don’t touch the world. Just leave it alone, whatever it is. No, no, no, no, no, no. And acceptance means they’re doing a terrible thing, just accept it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Somebody walks up to you, says, “Hey man, I’m a drug dealer of heroin and cocaine. You want some?” Well, you better say yes, ’cause Mickey said accept things. No, no. That’s not what the teachings are. The teachings are first accept that it’s reality. There are people who do and pump drugs. They can stand on a street corner and come up to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

That can happen. Can you handle that or do you freak out? Or are you so upset and depressed that you say, “Well, maybe I should try it”? Like in other words, are you able to handle the event that took place, or is it gonna be a personal thing for you that you just don’t like it, or you like it, or whatever it is?<\/span><\/p>\n

If you’re in a position where you can handle it, then you can handle it. Well, and people write me, “Well, what would I do if that happened?” I don’t know. I’m not gonna tell you what to do. I would never tell you what to do. But if you’re clear, you’ll know what to do. You’re in a situation where the event took place, and what happens?<\/span><\/p>\n

It takes place, and you can handle it. I can handle the fact that this guy came up and did that, or somebody yelled at me, or this happened or that happened. I can handle it. All right, now what? Now you look, now that you can handle it, and look to see is there something you can do to bring harmony into the situation, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

Maybe the right thing to do with a drug dealer is just walk on by with a smile. Not, “I hate you.” Okay? Or you may stop and talk. I don’t know. The situation will tell you what to do. It has a vibration. But right now the only vibration you feel is yours. Do you understand that? So don’t, be careful calling yourself psychic because a lot of noise in there.<\/span><\/p>\n

You hear me? And your likes and dislikes really distort your ability to feel what’s going on. When that’s not there, when you’re not there, man minus mind equals God. When you’re not there, the consciousness, the beautiful, pure consciousness is there. It then sees, it can see what is the highest thing to do in that moment, and it’s not based on what you want to happen or don’t want to happen.<\/span><\/p>\n

So I started the talk by saying there’s two forces. There’s the outside called reality. What’s that? I’m telling you, it’s everything. I’m gonna cry, right? There’s nothing that’s not reality. The very fact that it happened means it… I don’t like to say it was meant to happen because it isn’t about good or bad, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

But the fact that it happened meant it was a result of all the forces that made it happen, and you’re not gonna change that, okay? And then there’s this inner thing that you built inside based on your past experiences that fights with everything and doesn’t like things and likes things and just tries to figure everything out.<\/span><\/p>\n

And you’re always trying to figure things out, aren’t you? What should I do? What’s the decision should I make? Et cetera, et cetera. You can’t. You can’t. Why? Because it’s all based on you. It’s based on what you like and what you want and what you don’t want. You get to the point, I don’t usually talk about it, you, you think you’re psychic.<\/span><\/p>\n

You think your mind knows what it’s talking about. The only thing your mind knows is the sum of its learned experiences, and you put so much weight on the minimal experiences you’ve had. You say, “No, no, I don’t wanna do that. No, I, I don’t wanna do that.” Well, why? “Because I’ve, I’ve had that experience before.”<\/span><\/p>\n

I’m speechless. You had it 15 years ago when you were 12, and you’re still gonna do that. You understand that? Aren’t you putting a little bit too much weight on that one experience of which 100 billion were going on at the same time, but the only one that matters to you is that one? And you’ve literally put your entire future based on what your mind feels about things.<\/span><\/p>\n

Do you see how absurd that is? And you just get to this point where you realize, “I got some work to do in here,” because what I’m watching in here is the sum of my learned experiences, and it ain’t got squat to do what’s going on out there, and the fact that I’m trying to make the outside match the inside, that’s quite a battle, isn’t it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Got some stress and tension and anxiety and fears. Okay? And you just start to do what? Okay, so now we get down to what can I do about it? Well, the first thing you do about it is stop storing stuff in there, right? I’m gonna say let go of your stuff. Stop storing stuff in there. The stuff you stored in there is the cause of every single problem you’re having.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you didn’t store that you had a bad Chinese dinner five years ago, you’d be perfectly happy to go on a date and have a Chinese meal and see what it’s like and not even bring back that five years ago I had one dinner. Then all of a sudden, you’re an open being. You’re open to having new experiences.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re open to have experiences. You’re not judging everything. You can do that. I gave you the example of the driver in front of you. You can’t handle the driver in front of you. They’re driving slower than you want them to. They step on their brake lights all the time. They don’t use their blinker. I watch him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nice blinker, buddy. You’re just, you’re just judging everything, and you just get to the point and say, “Okay, start with the small stuff.” Start practicing not storing things just because they didn’t hit you right. You don’t want to store them. You want to let them go. How do you let them go? There we go. Now we’re down to the real teachings.<\/span><\/p>\n

How do I let go of the driver in front of me who’s driving 50 miles below the speed limit, and I’m in a rush? How do I not talk to him? He doesn’t hear you. How do I let go of that? You notice That it’s coming up inside of you. What is? A yicky feeling, discomfort, weird. You feel it, don’t you? It’s energy.<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s not the event. The event’s out there. The driver’s out there. The car’s out there. It had to come into you, and it brings with it a vibration, and you’re the one who judges about it. I, I used the example the other day. What if you didn’t wanna go to work or school and you’re caught behind this driver and you got to call your boss, say, “This idiot’s driving 15 miles below the speed limit.<\/span><\/p>\n

I can’t pass. I’m gonna be late for the meeting.” Right? It’s whatever you say it is in there, and so when you feel it starting to get weird in there… People ask me this all the time. They wanna get right down to, what do I do? Can it feel weird in there when it comes in? Of course it can, right? Can it hit stuff that was even weirder?<\/span><\/p>\n

“I remember the time two, four years ago that I was late for work and I, I got fired, right? And now this idiot’s driving so slow. I wanna…” Right. Now, now not only is it happening and you don’t like it, but it’s hitting stuff that’s already in there. Does it do that? Okay, what do I do? You notice, you notice, and you remember talk like this that says if you store it, it’s gonna bother you again for the rest of your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you don’t store it, you’ll have some clarity about how to deal with it. So it comes in, I feel it, it feels yicky, and the most important part is I feel the tendency to push it away. You do do that, don’t you? I feel, I feel it. I feel the tendency to protect myself from it. That is called storing it.<\/span><\/p>\n

There’s no way you protect yourself from it that you’re not storing it. It didn’t dissipate. It doesn’t just disappear, right? It’s just it had to go. Energy neither created or destroyed. The energy came in, and you opposed it with your will, and it stayed inside. And you ask yourself right then when it’s happening, “Do I want to do that again about what somebody said or somebody didn’t say?”<\/span><\/p>\n

Just anything. These tiny little things, right? The weather. “I can’t believe it’s raining out.” Right? You’re gonna see how resistant you are to reality and therefore you’re not okay inside ’cause you store all that stuff. And so what do you do? Ultimately, you notice it and you feel this intention, this commitment.<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t wanna do that again. I can handle this. Something inside of me doesn’t want to. You hear me? How do I make it so I wanna handle it? You don’t. A part of you doesn’t wanna handle it because it feels yicky. But if you store yicky, it can be there forever, okay? It’s like people getting divorced, “But I thought we were getting along and, and I had no idea.”<\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t remember when you did this? You don’t remember that that happened? You don’t remember the thing and when you said this to… So we stored a whole lot of stuff in there, and it built up, didn’t it? Next thing you know, you think it’s time to leave. They don’t know anything you’re talking about. They didn’t see any of it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Can it happen? All right. Please listen to me. You don’t wanna store that stuff in there. And so when it comes in and it doesn’t feel comfortable, you have to say to yourself, “I can handle discomfort.” If you can’t handle discomfort, don’t play sports. Football? Forget it. All right? You have to be able to handle, “I don’t want a job.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Why? “I might get fired.” Well, okay, you’re not gonna do very well in life, are you? You have to be ready, willing, and able to say that this is not comfortable. Okay, I can handle discomfort. I can handle discomfort. Do you see what happens if you can’t handle discomfort? You won’t do anything. “I’m not gonna play the piano.”<\/span><\/p>\n

Why? “Because I’m not good at it.” Of course you’re not good at it. You didn’t even try. “Yeah, but if I hit a note and it’s not good, I won’t like it.” You have to be willing to handle some discomfort. Not all, but at least some discomfort. And so it comes in, it’s not comfortable. What do I do when I feel the tendency to push it away?<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re not gonna like this. You relax. What do you mean? I don’t want to feel it. Relax. Who? Relax. It won’t relax. It feels icky. It won’t relax. I didn’t tell it to relax. I told you to relax. You, who’s about to push it away. You feel that tendency to push it down? Instead, relax. Relax. Let it come up. Let it pass through.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ew, ew, ew, ew, ew, ew, ew. Okay, it’s gone. All right? Th- there’s a thing in yoga, very deep, one of the deepest yoga teachings, called transmutation of energy. Ever heard of it? Transmutation of energy. I don’t know what you think it is, but I just described it to you. It’s not, “I’m gonna make anger love.” Good luck.<\/span><\/p>\n

“I’m manipulator. I don’t want to feel anger.” Okay, fine. Anger do squat when it’s all said and done. All right? If it starts off as fear, insecurity, or anger, and you feel it, are you willing to not resist it? Are you willing to honor, respect its right to be the sum of your learned experiences, and it got hit, it’s coming up.<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you relax in the face of that energy coming up? Then it will transmute. Literally. You learn it. It becomes second nature to you once you learn how to do it. All right? It’s, it’s easy, but it’s not to start with. And it comes up, you tend to resist, and you just step back and let it pass through. And all of a sudden, I’m telling you, that which was anger can become love.<\/span><\/p>\n

That which started off as resistance and I can’t handle it, is like, whoa, what a rush. Anger’s got a lot of energy in it. Jealousy got a lot of energy. Insecurity got… Everything got a lot of energy. What if that energy came up and fed you instead of you pushing it away and fighting with it? That’s what non-resistance is.<\/span><\/p>\n

That’s what surrender is. That’s what acceptance is. It’s something you do inside, way deep inside, where right where you would’ve pushed it away. There’s this border that comes up and you go, “No, no, no, no, no.” And instead you say, “Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes.” But you’re not trying to change its nature. That’s a big mistake people make.<\/span><\/p>\n

I shouldn’t feel anger. No, you feel anger. That’s part of reality. Cause and effect, all right? The outside was cause and effect, now it hits your inside. They’re different because it’s the sum of its learned experiences. Yours inside’s the sum of yours, but it doesn’t matter. It came up. Can you handle it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you handle that it came up? No, I’m gonna go out there and make you not have said what you said that made me angry. There we go. That to me, that’s suppression outside. You push it away before it comes in. Don’t you even think about saying that or doing that. You’ll be so sorry. Very good. You pushed it away out there as opposed to it came in and you push it away inside.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is deep stuff. You hear me? So it comes in and it feels yucky. You don’t try to make it not feel yucky. You have to do drugs or do something, right? Or, or use rationalization. He didn’t mean that. He didn’t mean he doesn’t like me. He really does love me very, very much. Stop it. You trying to neutralize it or make it be different than what it is?<\/span><\/p>\n

I don’t know what he meant or didn’t mean. I don’t care. The fact that it bothered me, that’s what I care. Probably I projected it out based on what my mother said. She smirked just like she used to. I can tell. Look at your body language. I had a stomach ache. Leave me alone. You hear me? You stop looking for solutions.<\/span><\/p>\n

The solution is let go. The solution is let go of you because you’re the problem. So it comes in, you feel it, and you catch yourself back here and you say, “Relax. Relax.” I don’t wanna relax. I know you don’t wanna relax, but we’re gonna relax. Just like in yoga, you stretch, relax, relax. It hurts. Relax. Relax through it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Is that what they say? Inside, relax through it, where right where you would’ve pushed it away, the part that would’ve built that resistance, let go. What do you mean? Let go. Don’t put energy into it. Just step back inside. It’s not something you do outside, even outside the feeling, all right? Something you do…<\/span><\/p>\n

The one who feels the feeling, honor and respect the right for the feeling to have existed, and when it comes in and you feel a tendency to resist, relax. It’s not even about don’t resist, just relax. Don’t resist is something you try to do. Relaxing, you don’t do anything with relaxing, you just relax, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

And you’re gonna find that over time, stuff passes through that didn’t used to. It doesn’t even hit you anymore. Things happen that you would’ve got all upset about, and you don’t even notice. They become like the white lines on the road. Why? ‘Cause you learn to handle this feeling of disturbance and let it go, and it does.<\/span><\/p>\n

So ultimately, what happens is all the energy, listen to me, all the energy, the Shakti, the Qi that you used to use to push that stuff down and keep it down your whole life, it’s in there your whole life. I’m not talking about… Now we’re talking big stuff. You have to keep it down there. So you’re expanding your energy subconsciously to push it down and keep it down.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tries to come back up, you push it back down. Now what you’ve said is, “I don’t wanna use my energy to keep that inside of me. Why would I wanna do that? Well, what do I do? It’s there.” Let it go. How? It’ll come up by itself, don’t worry. How do I know what’s down there? It’ll, it will let you know. And by the way, it will come back, eventually you’ll see, in exactly the right order.<\/span><\/p>\n

Exactly what you’re capable of handling will come up. Not that you wanna handle, all right? It’ll always be with your face against the wall or the, you know, the tendency, right? It will come up, and you’ll find that if you let that go, the next one, the next one will be related to the ones you let go before.<\/span><\/p>\n

The world is perfect. It’s your perfect teacher, and it comes up, and you just keep relaxing through. Well, what ha- happens if something comes back, I can’t relax through it? Then you can’t. That’s fine, right? Then you get all screwed up, and then you come back. But what do I do when I come back? Don’t judge yourself.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t feel shame. Don’t feel blame. Just say, “I’m back. Okay, we’ll do better next time.” That’s how you handle it, your growth. That’s real growth. You understand that? No self-concept, no ego about it, no spiritual ego about it, no anything. No, no spiritual bypassing, right? No, you’re st- you’re not bypassing it.<\/span><\/p>\n

You’re standing right in front of it, right? It’s, it’s coming through you. You’re not bypassing it, right? And you’ll find that what happens eventually is this flow of Shakti that was busy down there doing all that is released. And every chakra will open by itself. Master once wrote a s- a song. One of Yogananda’s songs?<\/span><\/p>\n

He wrote a lot of songs, all right? A chant. All the doors do open themselves. All the light do light themselves. Darkness like a dark bird flies away f- he’s talking about the chakras opening by themselves. You understand that? That’s what happens when you’re not blocked. So as you let go, every block you let go of, more energy is free to flow up, and it opens all your centers, and you start feeling all this energy pouring out of your being until eventually that’s all you feel, is feel all this Shakti pouring inside of you, right?<\/span><\/p>\n

And that’s not even high. Why? ‘Cause you’re still there. Eventually, the great ones melt. Their sense of individuality melts away into the universe. They become enlightened. They become one with the whole universe, right? I, I rushed that part. I d- ran out, I ran out of time. But wait till you see how much Shakti you’re wasting inside.<\/span><\/p>\n

Can you imagine how much you store down there and how you keep it down there? Let go of the small stuff first. Learn to relax. It’s something you learn. You don’t… You were never taught this. Nobody ever talked to you like this, right? You’re taught to decide what you want and make it be that way. Don’t you let them talk to you like that, okay?<\/span><\/p>\n

And eventually, you start to practice letting go, and you get better at it and better at it, and eventually, you get really good at it, and really big things happen, and you look at them and say, “I can handle this. I can handle this.” You let go, and eventually, enough Shakti flows through you where it just blows all your centers open.<\/span><\/p>\n

You know, you feel love all the time. I’ll let Yogananda have the final word. He once wrote, “Oh, what hast thou done to me? Wave upon wave of endless ecstasy saturates me day and night, throng upon throng.” I’d like to be there. Okay. Two opposing forces: that which you built inside and that which is unfolding outside.<\/span><\/p>\n

They’re not opposing. You pitted yourself against them. Eventually, and that’s what Lao Tzu meant by the Tao, they harmonize inside of you, harmonize with outside of you. All right. Jai guru dev.<\/span><\/p>\n

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