{"id":9031,"date":"2021-05-18T21:15:11","date_gmt":"2021-05-18T21:15:11","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/?post_type=transcript&#038;p=9031"},"modified":"2021-05-18T21:15:11","modified_gmt":"2021-05-18T21:15:11","slug":"building-belonging-being-an-ambassador-to-the-earth","status":"publish","type":"transcript","link":"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/transcript\/building-belonging-being-an-ambassador-to-the-earth\/","title":{"rendered":"Building Belonging: Being an Ambassador to the Earth"},"content":{"rendered":"<div class=\"pdfprnt-buttons pdfprnt-buttons-transcript pdfprnt-top-right\"><a href=\"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/transcript\/9031?print=print\" class=\"pdfprnt-button pdfprnt-button-print\" target=\"_blank\"><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/resources2.soundstrue.com\/wp-content\/plugins\/pdf-print\/images\/print.png\" alt=\"image_print\" title=\"Print Content\" \/><span class=\"pdfprnt-button-title pdfprnt-button-print-title\">Print Transcript<\/span><\/a><\/div><p><b>Tami Simon:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Welcome to <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, produced by Sounds True. My name<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s Tami Simon. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m the founder of Sounds True, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">d love to take a moment to introduce you to the new Sounds True Foundation. The Sounds True Foundation is dedicated to creating a wiser and kinder world by making transformational education widely available. We want everyone to have access to transformational tools such as mindfulness, emotional awareness, and self compassion regardless of financial, social, or physical challenges. The Sounds True Foundation is a nonprofit dedicated to providing these transformational tools to communities in need, including at-risk youth, prisoners, veterans, and those in developing countries. If you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">d like to learn more, or feel inspired to become a supporter, please visit SoundsTrueFoundation.org.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re listening to <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. Today, my guest is john a. powell. john is the director of the Othering &amp; Belonging Institute, and professor of Law, African American and Ethnic Studies at the University of California Berkeley. He previously directed the Kirwan Insitute for the Study of Race and Ethnicity at Ohio State University, and the Institute on Race &amp; Poverty at the University of Minnesota. john and I talk about belonging, and what I can tell you is that his warm presence is such an elegant invitation for all of us to become ambassadors of belonging, to build belonging, to become belonging activists in our lives. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m so grateful I had this chance to talk to john a. powell and to share this conversation with you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">john, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve really been looking forward to this conversation. Just the preparatory work that I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve done has already been illuminating for me. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve learned so much, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m so grateful to have this chance to share you and your wisdom with the Sounds True audience, so thank you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>john a. powell: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thank you. You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re welcome, Tami. Look forward to the conversation.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, to begin, you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re the director of the Othering &amp; Belonging Institute, and I wanted to start by bringing forward your explanation of these words that are very powerful: othering and belonging. I noticed both of these words bring up a lot of feeling for me, a lot of energy. You talk about othering as a process, so let<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s start there. Why do you call othering a process?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, something that we do in practice, and we can do it ourselves, or we can have it done through the arrangement of our institutions and cultures. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not necessarily personal, interpersonal, although it often is. And basically, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s denying someone their full humanity, and denying mutuality, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a gradient. And that practice, so we can refuse say hello to someone, refuse to shake their hand in the old days. We can refuse to see someone. We can also lock them up. We can tell stories about them, make up stories about them. We can deny their voice. Or even more explicit, we might say they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re less than. They<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not part of the <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">we.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> They<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not to be accorded respect or empathy. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s something wrong with them. And oftentimes, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s associated with\u2014they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re a threat, and the reason my life is not better is because of them. So, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the othering process, and again, there are sort of soft expressions of it to extreme expressions of it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Belonging, and sometimes when people look at othering, the process, they think the solution to it is saming, right? To say, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to accord you respect and dignity because you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re just like me. Well, maybe I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m not just like you. So, it can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t be that the price to pay to get rid of othering is saming. And I often like to tell the story about James Baldwin, when he was invited to [inaudible 00:04:56] club, and this was back in the <\/span><b>\u2018<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">50s and early <\/span><b>\u2018<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">60s, and they said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Mr. Baldwin, we recognize you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re a profound writer, and so we want you to join our club.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And he wanted to join the club. And they said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But you know, you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have to bring up that you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re gay. And a lot of your friends,<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> meaning Blacks, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">are riffraff, so they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not really welcome here. But with those caveats and a few more, you can come.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And Baldwin declined the offer and went to France instead, and wrote a book called <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Price of the Ticket<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, sometimes we have kind of a conditional\u2014you come along as long as you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t talk too loud, as long as you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t remind us that you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re Jewish, as long as\u2026 in the military, right? Under President Clinton, Don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t Ask, Don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t Tell. So, if you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re gay or lesbian or trans, we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not going to ask you about that, and we don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t want you volunteering that information. The other extreme is that we say these people don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t deserve to be on the face of the earth, and we commit genocide.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, belonging is when our full humanity, as a group and as individuals, is embraced. We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re seen as of value. You know, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s interesting. I was teaching a class, and I referred students back to the Declaration of Independence. We set up the country as kind of a bad place, so we forget that there are these powerful aspirations associated with the country, and they may be further removed from us than ever, but they were there, and they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re still there. So, the second paragraph of the Declaration of Independence says, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We hold these truths self-evident.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Self-evident. Then it goes on to say, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That all men\u2014<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> obviously today, we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">d change that. <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All people are created equal.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What does that mean? That means that it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s given. You don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have to prove that you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re equal. Just by being human, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s God-given, from the Declaration of Independence, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s just there, and you have rights because you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re a human. You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re part of this human tribe, this human family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not how we live our lives. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s belonging. And belonging says, yes, you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re part of the \u201cwe,\u201d and as part of the we, you get to define the world that we live in. You get to have a voice, and I accord you human dignity. I accord you respect. I accord you acknowledgement of your humanity and equality, not because you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re smart, not because you have a lot of money, not because of your race, religion, but just because you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re a human being. You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re an expression of life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And South Africans have a word called <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sawubona<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, which means <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I see you.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It also has been interpreted to mean, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The God in me, or the Divine in me, sees the Divine in you.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And the response is, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I am here.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> So, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a sense of belonging, to be recognized, to be really seen.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know, I find this so powerful, john, and maybe I find it so powerful because for the longest time, just briefly being confessional here, I didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t feel like I belonged on Planet Earth. I always felt like I came out of some kind of alien spaceship and landed here, in terms of the things I cared about and the ways that I wanted to relate to other human beings. I just felt like a total outsider, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s been a huge journey to feel a sense of belonging as a human being. It took me decades. And I would love for everyone to feel that sense of belonging, so I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve been so inspired by your work, and your commitment to that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Part of what I learned in studying your work is this difference in using the language of inclusivity and the language of belonging, and so I want to check this out with you, because part of what I learned is that it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s one thing for me to say, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want to include you. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s my game, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s my world, I want to invite you in.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s another thing to say, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We belong together and we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re going to co-create this, and you have power and agency.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a real journey, because we hear a lot about, for example, a business being inclusive or an academic setting being inclusive. But what I learned from you is, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s different if it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a situation of belonging. So, I wonder if you can underscore what that difference is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re exactly right, and there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s\u2026 Some people argue or assert that we should stop saying that the United States is an immigrant society, and instead, they want to rewrite history, or their form of history, is to say we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re a settler society, and the settlers were the ones who actually created the mold and the conditions for belonging, if you will, and everyone else who comes is a guest. And because they are guests, if they don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t adhere to those norms and conditions, we should not be embarrassed to tell them to leave, to tell them they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re no longer welcome.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s inclusive, right? Is that you can come as a guest, but here are the rules. And you say, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">OK, great, john. Where do those rules come from?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b> <b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We made them up a long time ago, and you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t get to mess with the rules.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> So, as long as you obey the rules that I get to make\u2026 I might, I as the settler, I as the host, I can change the rules occasionally, but you can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t. And so inclusion, the way it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s generally practiced, whether it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a business or a community, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is the way that we do things here.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Interesting. Who<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the \u201cwe\u201d? <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t like your kind.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So the thing about belonging, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s exactly what you said, Tami, but it even goes further, because we say we are striving for belonging without othering, and our responsibility is not only to co-create a world and a space where I belong, but a world and a space where you belong. Our responsibility goes beyond ourselves. We have responsibility, and I would even say obligations beyond ourselves.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I would also say that the people who are othered because they don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have the right clothes, or they show up at the party, but there are other people that are othered, what<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s called durable. No matter what they do, they could change their clothes, they could change their crew, they could change their hairstyles but no, you still don\u2019t belong. And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s imposed by the state. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s imposed sometimes by laws. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s imposed by norms.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But I would also say that many people, when you examine it, have a sense of: this is not really my place. When you scratch the surface and talk to young people, often\u2026 In fact, a recent survey, 70 percent of Americans said, in a sense, they didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t feel like they belong. 70 percent. So, who does? Who feels like they belong? Almost nobody.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s no wonder. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m sitting here in California, worrying about the wildfires in May. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, when I see the way we treat each other, whose world is this? It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not my world. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not the world I would want to live in, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the world I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve been consigned to for now. And so, the responsibility becomes, how do I actually help this world come into being, where both I belong and you belong?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to make a leap here, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to make an assumption that the vast majority of people that are listening to this podcast, the people who listen regularly to <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, the Sounds True podcast, want to create a world of belonging without othering. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s what<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s in their heart. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s what they want. They want to create that. And now, to speak for myself, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m not making any assumptions here, I want to be a belonging activist.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">After reading and studying, I was like, I want to be a belonging activist. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s good language for me. And you talk about how there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a personal level to this, and there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s also a structural level, and I want to talk about both of these things together. The personal level feels a lot more achievable, and like I can start doing that. The structural level, and structural interventions, belonging interventions if you will, they feel harder for me to know how I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to be part of that, but I want to see if we can illuminate some of them for our listeners. So, let<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s start off. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m a belonging activist now. What are the personal actions I can take?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, there are a lot of things that people are doing now. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s really kind of beautiful to see it happening, both in the United States, but also around the world. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve actually gotten requests from as far away as China and Africa, people saying, to use your phrase, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I want to create belonging. How do I do that?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And many of us went to school where, at some point, we were outside the clique. And a clique is basically saying, these are the people who belong. If you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not in the clique, you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t belong. What are you doing here?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, part of it is, I sort of say we could almost be ambassadors to Earth. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, welcome to Earth. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not my planet, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s our planet, and Earth itself. Welcome to this beautiful planet. And I actually did this with a young friend of mine that I was mentoring for a while, because he felt like he didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t belong. He felt awkward. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, you know what I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m saying? A lot of people feel that to various degrees. And one reason we feel that is, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s almost like we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re all walking around feeling a little bit like, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m not being noticed. And so, I said, let<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s try something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I picked out this older woman, even older than me, and she looked like she was with someone, like her husband. She had on a hat, and I walked up to her, and she<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s White, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m Black, and people in the United States don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t oftentimes talk to our fellow species members on the streets. And I walked up to here, and I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Excuse me, Miss. What a beautiful hat. Where did you get it from?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And the sun just came out. She just beamed. She told me, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I made it myself!<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And then she went, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, it wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t the hat. It was that it was human connection. It was that she had been seen. And then she just chatted me up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I did that two or three times with my young friend, and I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, you try it.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And he said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, no, no, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m not going to do it.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">OK, this is the thing. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a little awkward, I know that, because we have these norms in our society. Do it with your sister when you go home. Just ask her about her day. Give her some attention. Ask to hear about a story.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> So, just connecting.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And because we live in a habituated life, whenever we break habits, it feels awkward. We always go home the same way. If we change our route, it kind of feels strange, right? If we always take that first step on our right foot, start with your left. This is like that. Just start doing something a little bit to extend yourself to others, to recognize others. And then, interestingly now, the research is quite powerful. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not only healing for them; they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re more likely to recognize you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I sometimes refer to some aspects that are called bridging. So, we can become bridgers, and the heart of it is empathetic and compassionate listening. Paying attention to others. Paying attention to the Earth. One of my happiest, or most joyous moments on the planet was spending an hour and 15 minutes watching a spider spin a web. I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t know if that spider was joyous that I was\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Possibly.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> But it was something. I felt connected. And part of being a belonger, building bridges, is connecting with people and situations where it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not necessarily the norm. And there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s all kinds of personal expressions of that, just, what do you mean? They do it now in the activist context, called deep canvassing. And deep canvassing, unlike traditional canvassing\u2014traditional canvassing is two, three, five minutes. <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s my issues. Here<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s what I think is important. Here<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the candidate I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to vote for. Who are you voting for? Here<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s some literature I read.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Deep canvassing, which acknowledges to some extent that building on work that we do in others around bridging, and about empathetic and compassionate listening, it goes something like this: <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Tami, how was your day today? Do you have any struggles? How<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s your family? Are you worried about anything? Is anything of any concern? What are you dreaming? What do you want to happen? How<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s your heart?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Right? And they found\u2026 And that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a much longer discussion. It can take an hour. But they found that approach, and this is somewhat of a contradiction, moves people 100 times more than traditional canvassing.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, the reason I say it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a contradiction is because when you really are listening, when you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re engaging with the other, and of course, there really is no other, but when you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re engaging with the apparent other, you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not doing it for instrumental reasons. You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not doing so you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll vote for my candidate. So, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m only really listening, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m only pretending to be interested in you because I want something from you. Well, I know organizers, and we just came out of a big political brouhaha, so we do want\u2026 I wanted it to come out a certain way.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But at its core, deep listening and engaging has a spiritual dimension to it, has a healing dimension to it, and you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not trying to convince the person, OK, great, so become a Christian. Become a Buddhist. Become a vegetarian. Maybe you want\u2026 That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s persuasion. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not empathetic and compassionate listening. Let<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s let the person waffle.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, I want to ask you one more question at the personal level, because in the last couple of years, one of the things I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve heard from a lot of people that I know and work with is that their biggest pain, when it comes to belonging, has to do with their own families, especially when within their families, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s differences on the political spectrum, where I can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t talk to my uncle or my cousin or whatever, because we just see this so differently. I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t even feel like I belong within my family.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Right, right.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you have to offer, in terms of building bridges in that specific context?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, I think it won<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t surprise you, but I had many of those experiences growing up myself. My family was just a lovely, lovely family. I love them to death. They<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re very conservative Christians, and long before Trump, I was made to feel othered. Literally, when I stopped going to church as young man, young kid, 11 years old, I would be left. I had eight brothers and sisters, and as the family would go off to church on Sunday and Wednesdays, they would leave a list of chores, because they wanted to make sure I wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t having fun. And my youngest sister, who<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s 13 or 14 years younger than me, she went, as I got a little older, went off to college and would come back, she would follow me around the house crying, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">d say, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s wrong?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And she said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t want you to go to hell.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Wow.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> So, we worked through\u2014and I call these short bridges, but they may not feel very short. And I call them short because there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s already this well of love and connection and affection that we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve acknowledged. Even in the midst of that pain, I never stopped loving my family. In fact, part of the pain was that I was being removed from the space of love. And there were many breakthroughs. But just to share one with you, I came home from college one time in the middle of some big political thing, and my dad, who was a Christian minister, took one position. I took a very different position. And we stayed up all night talking.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the thing: we didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t try to convince each other. We tried to really understand what<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s beneath that. He was quoting the Bible. <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The Bible says this.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> But it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like he was also letting me lean into his heart. And the next day, I came down to breakfast late, from being up all night. My mom said to me, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What did you and Marshall talk about? He was so happy this morning.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> He wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t happy because he had convinced me. He was happy because we had connected.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, part of the thing is that if we\u2014and, well, it can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t be a thing of check the box, you do these three things, you win\u2014but if we can really step back from, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s your position on climate change?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> As opposed to, I have a good friend who<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a minister here named Ben McBride. He said, if you ask him what you should do, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the wrong question. The question is who you should be, and how you should be, so we can be present with each other. And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s interesting. Again, my father and I and the rest of my family worked most of those things out. But it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s because we reconnected and reminded ourselves just how deeply we loved each other.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But oftentimes, we start with, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s your position?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You know? <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s your position on X? This is my position on X.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m not saying those things are unimportant. Climate is radically important. Earth itself is radically important. But again, to bridge.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve talked to, not only my own family, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m not a Trump supporter, but I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve talked to Trump supporters about the Affordable Care Act, and there is something you can do. So, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m there, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m flying down to a rural place, and it was Arkansas, to talk about trying to get them to sign up for Medicaid so they can\u2014I walked in the place, and my guess is everybody was a Trump supporter. There wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t another Black person in the place. There wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t an Asian in the place. There wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t a Latino in the place. It was all White. My guess is, most of them were evangelical Christians.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They all had their arms folded, and there was about 300 of them, and I wondered, why did they come? Because they obviously don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t want to be here. And I lied, because I opened up my talk, and I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s good to be here.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Not really. But what happened over the next 20, 30, 40 minutes, I asked them to tell me about themselves. I asked them to tell me about their pains, their suffering, their losses around health care. And they told stories about kids dying. They told stories about their spouse getting cancer and not having insurance. They talked about doctors prescribing medicine and insurance companies saying, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No, you can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have that medicine.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How did that feel?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And by this time, no one has their arm folded, and people are just being very effusive. They<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re talking loud, but they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not yelling. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m their friend now. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m their friend because I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m listening to their pain. And then I pivot, and I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All these things are wrong. These things are not treating you as a human being. They<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re seeing you as a statistic.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I could have said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">They<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re seeing you as other.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Those same phenomena is going on in the Black, Latino communities.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t lose one person. But if I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">d started with, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We need to support the Affordable Care Act, especially in the Black and Latino community,<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I wouldn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have gotten one person.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> So, I started with their pain, and not just their position, but what<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s underneath it. What is it they really fear? What do they really aspire to? What do they really hope for? And how are they similar and different to me? And once they really felt I could hear them, it was just phenomenal how much they opened up, and the host was amazed. He said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">A person was here a few months ago speaking on the same issue and essentially got booed off the stage.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, I have to say, my heart feels so, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s swelling, listening to you. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s actively swelling. OK, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to keep our conversation going to the next point, which is this notion of making a difference as a belonging activist when it comes to the structures of our society that actually promote othering. They currently promote othering. And I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m wondering if you can give some pioneering examples of some of the work that people are up to in this category.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Sure. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s actually very important. So, first I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll give some negative examples. I just read a story by a friend, Naomi Klein, about the Paradise fires out here in California, and it was a couple of years ago, and the wildfires were just terrible, and thousands of people lost their homes. The result of it is that people opened up their homes, people who still had homes. And some people became unhoused, and so Walmart actually let people camp out on its parking lot. And people brought food and water and diapers, and just came to check on people to see how they were doing. It was this real outpouring, this real empathy, if you will, this real compassion.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And what Naomi writes about is that two years later, Walmart<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s parking lot is now occupied by cars, and the people of the town are like, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re tired of people sleeping on the streets.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And so, the interpersonal effort to extend oneself didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t last. It didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t create any institutional support to help people do things. What institutions do by and large is create habits. They create collective habits. They create norms. They create collective norms. And they make it easy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, habits are important in life, good, bad or otherwise, but if we had to think about everything all the time, instead of things being habituated, we probably would not survive as a species. So, a lot of what we do, think, and feel is actually habituated. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s what the unconscious about us, it learns by habituation. So, structures is one of the forms which allows us to habituate and, on some level, we don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have to think about things, even though maybe we should.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, take, I was old enough to have started school when virtually all of the schools in the United States were formally segregated. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a structure. It was not thought about, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, I think I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll go to the White school today.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You know? Someone might call the police, because the police was there to enforce the laws. And when you first bump up against the structures, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s very awkward, even more awkward than the personal things, like, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why are you doing that?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And we see this all over.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have a very good friend. He is African American, as I am. His son came out 10 years ago, or something, as gay. It was really hard for him. He struggled. He loved his son. He still loves his son. And at one point, he said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know what? I figured out the problem was not my son, the problem was me. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m the problem.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That was a good discovery.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Very good discovery. He worked it through, and with help. He had counseling. It wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t easy. And he was very happy to go to his son<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s wedding. His son is now married to his partner. Then I was talking to him maybe two or three years ago, and it was like, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">OK, I get that I was basically being an SOB around the gay and lesbian issue. But this trans issue? When does it end, john? When does it end? I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve already\u2026.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It doesn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, part of it is that when things change, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not easy, and one of the things that helped a lot in terms of the marriage equality was not just people working on a personal level, it was our leaders, our courts, our military, also doing things at a structural level. It made it harder to stand in the face of that, when you have\u2014OK, I like my Apple watch, and Tim Cook is gay? Hmm. OK, I still like my Apple watch.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I think we have to do things on both levels. If we don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t do things at a structural level, the structural level will undermine what we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re doing at a personal level.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">In one of your presentations, you told a story about going to the University of Texas at Austin campus, and some changes they made as a result, it sounded like, from maybe some contribution that you and others made to help raise awareness around the campus. I wonder if you can tell that story, because for me, that was very illuminating.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yes. I was being recruited to come down there, and they were happy to the prospect of getting me there, and I was relatively happy about going. And I went down there. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a beautiful campus. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the flagship college in Texas, in Austin. And as we were walking around, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s all this Confederate memorabilia. And I grew up as a kid, sort of Davy Crockett, and thinking of all the stuff down there. But anyway, as I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m walking around, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m feeling uncomfortable, and my host I think at some point senses it, and he sort of turns to me, he says, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t worry or pay attention to all of this Confederate stuff. We fought on the side of the South. We were a slave-holding state. But that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s our history.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I know from doing work in mind science and spiritual work that my unconscious was screaming, like, get the hell out of here. And the people were nice enough. The structures were doing some work. And I didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t go down there, but not because of that, mainly because of my granddaughter. But later, students start talking about it, and the Black and Latino students were not doing well. And interestingly, again, it wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t that anyone said anything. It wasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t that anyone did anything. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s just, you had this constant reminder, and the people who felt a little more comfortable with it for a while couldn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t understand the discomfort. You know, what<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the big deal?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But those things actually do matter. And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s so interesting. They matter in both directions. They matter in terms of saying to people, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t belong.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> But in a distorted way, they also matter in terms of showing a particular type of White identity. Now, this is tricky and hard, because when you think about, OK, what about all those Confederate monuments? Shouldn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t we just take them down?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">First of all, most of them didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t happen right after the Civil War. They happened more recently than that. But it is true, we get attached to things, and not just in, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I like them,<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> but on some deep level, they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re actually helping to constitute who we are. So, if I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m taking down your monument, can I have any empathy for you? Even though your monument may be disrespectful to me?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And we see this all over. OK, just one other example. In the <\/span><b>\u2018<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">70s, when women were coming into the workplace in large numbers, they were going to the workplace, and there would be lewd, if not pornographic pictures of women all over the workplace.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And women complained. And the men was like, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve always had these pictures.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve always been a male-dominated institution. And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not that they weren<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t nice to their wife back at home, or they were mean to their daughter, but the daughter and the wife had a place that was consigned to them. And the women were saying, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m coming in here, I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t want these pictures. I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t want to be having to face pornographic pictures all day.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The first response was, women could put up their own pictures. If you want to put a picture of a naked man, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s fine. If you want to show a man with his genitals, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s fine. But interesting thing, this actually was still a male-dominated response, and that case went all the way to the Supreme Court, and a moderate Republican justice wrote the opinion, and said, no, this was a hostile workplace. And that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s where that concept came from. And they were saying like, why was it hostile? It had been there for 50, 60, 70 years. Very few men complained. But when women complained, the first response is, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s wrong with women?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You have to adjust.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, no one would even think about doing that. Or very few people, I should say. Maybe some of them would. But structures matter. Symbols matter. And while I think that decision was completely right, the men felt a loss. They felt something that they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">d valued was taken away from them. And that may be still the right thing to do, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s also, I think, appropriate to understand that people may feel a loss for the Confederate flags, for their pornographic pictures, for their symbolism of Black statues on the front lawn.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I went to Stanford. When I went there, it was called the Stanford Indians. They finally changed it to the Stanford Cardinal. But some of the alumni who were giving money said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll never give money again. You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve taken away my symbol.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> OK, but your symbol was dehumanizing Native populations. And still, I understand, OK, you have some pain around it, but I think it was the right thing to do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve noticed, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m feeling much more invested in the belonging gain than I am whatever the losses are involved for people. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not\u2014you seem much more sensitive and empathetic to the loss. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m a little bit like, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Come on, we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve got to go!<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re right. Well, I think you have to do both. I gave a talk this morning. I talked about the trial in Minneapolis. Derek Chauvin was convicted, appropriately. Keith Ellison is a friend of mine. He<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the Attorney General. He<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the one who structured the trial. He<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the one who actually orchestrated it, and he was being interviewed on television, and the announcer said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, how do you feel about this?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And he said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m not even sure we achieved justice.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> He says, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The right thing to do was a step. We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re talking about a system, not just a bad individual. We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re talking about a system, the way we do not just policing. The way we make laws. The way we do courts. The way we do\u2014it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a whole number of things, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a step in the right direction. And the verdict was the right verdict. This guy did something terrible. He has to be held accountable.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And then he did this interesting thing. He said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But I still feel a little bad for him.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And the interviewer said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you mean, you feel a little bad for him? This guy\u2014<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Keith Ellison is African American. He had a prosecutor, was Attorney General. <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What do you mean, you feel a little bad for him? This guy killed someone with people watching all over the world. And yes, he probably, maybe was a racist.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And Keith said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I think that may be true, but he<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s still a human being. He<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s still a human being.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, the thing that we sometimes miss, in terms of compassion, empathy, and bridging is that we think\u2014we misunderstand it. We think it means you forgive the person, or you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t hold the person accountable, right? You still have to hold the person accountable. In fact, some people will say that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s an act of respect, when I hold someone accountable. But you also hold on to their humanity. And if you hold onto\u2026 A lot of times, when people lose with a symbolic loss, or a more material loss, what they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re also saying is that <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m being told I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t count. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m being told I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m bad. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m being told I am less than.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And we have to be careful, because I sometimes talk about White supremacy, and I say that the operative word is not White, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s supremacy. What we have to be really dogged in challenging is the notion of supremacy. Any kind, whether it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s religious supremacy, gender supremacy, racial supremacy, national supremacy\u2014all of those are problematic.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I think, in fact, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s some data to suggest, people are more able to move if, when I say, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Get out of this place, but here<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s another place for you to go.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Right? It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s that we still are holding on to your humanity. White man in the workplace, we recognize you have some pain. Yes, this has to change, but we recognize you have some pain, and we want to\u2026 Restorative justice, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s partially what it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s about. And if that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s done, then the possibility of change is actually much greater. But if you say, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not only do your statues have to go, but you have to go with them, and you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re morally bankrupt and evil and bad.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, no one can swallow that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You know, this whole topic that I opened up for us about the structural changes that are needed so that we can have this future of belonging, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s so huge. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s so huge, and I wonder, when you look at it, do you have a sense of the priorities? When you think, this is my work in the world, this is what I do, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m on this mission, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m the director of the Othering, here are the priorities that we have to address.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Well, fortunately for us, we have a pretty decent size, and we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re working with people all over the world. I think, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s sort of interesting, the core is recognizing that everyone counts, that everyone belongs, that everyone has a voice that can participate. But now, to make that real, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s more than just saying that. For example, if I say everyone belongs, but you can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t vote, you can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t go to the store, you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have a house, you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have a pot to piss in, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s two political philosophers, one named John Rawls, and one that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s Amartya Sen. Amartya Sen was also an economist. He says that in any given society, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s things you need to actually be part of it, a full member of that society. And those things will change. It could be a cell phone. If you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have a cell phone in some societies, you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t belong. And what I said, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve written about this myself, is that the first and most important thing is full membership. And in that full membership, you decide what those other things are and how they should be distributed.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, to really recognize someone<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s full humanity\u2014there have been friends sometimes who would say to me, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re a professor at Berkeley and look at you, you dress like a homeless person.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Are you being disparaging toward people who are unhoused? The assumption that those people\u2026<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And we know this from the work of people like Professor, Dr. Fitz at Princeton. In our society, we don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t see homeless people as belonging. We don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t see them as human. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a part of the brain that lights up when we see another human being. As a collective, as a society, when we see homeless people, that part of the brain does not light up. For many Americans, a returning citizen, African American, that part of the brain does not light up.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve written about this, that it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s no way for us to get to good policy for people that we don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t see as human. So, we have to hold on to that humanity. We have to hold on to our interconnectedness. And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not always easy. But then, we have to make sure that our policies are right. And they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll change. I oftentimes give the example: I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m in a wheelchair. I come to a building, and there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s no ramp. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve just been othered. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve been institutionally othered. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve been told, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t belong here.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Even if people pick me up and take me in, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve still been othered.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, we need to actually constantly engage this. And I would say multiple levels, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, wherever you are, start there. Wherever you are. You don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have to be someplace else. You don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have to go across the world. Start where you are, and go as far as you can. And to me, this is actually a life journey, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a beautiful part of life.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">One of my favorite quotes that I got from you is, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it the journey? Is it the destination?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> You know what I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m talking about here, john? <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Is it the journey? Is it the destination?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I was like, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s definitely the journey! It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not the destination. But then, you had the punchline.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the company.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s who you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re with. You know, the people that you\u2026 The work I do is hard sometimes, but I have a really great group of people I work with. I get to meet wonderful people. And that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s what resiliency is. We sort of confuse that. We think it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, he<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s tough. He can deal with anything. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, no one<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s tough in that sense. But we are, sometimes we have this community. We have this family. We have this company. And with that, you can go all the way through life, and without that company, as demonstrated with the pandemic, when we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re isolated from each other, it doesn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t matter if you have a big house and a nice car. Literally, I have a friend who<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s quite wealthy. He<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s rich, not even wealthy. Private jets and the whole thing. He lives in New York, and he said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I miss seeing people on the subway. Not friends, but just, I miss human contact.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, I would like to see us, and one of the things that might happen as a result of the pandemic is, here in the Bay Area, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m sure in parts, people are out on the streets, and now restaurants have people sitting on the street, and there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s something very nice about that. Sometimes I literally just drive or walk down the street just to see other people out doing what people do.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, I just want to take a moment right now, because I feel blessed to be in your company, and I think our listeners probably feel the same way. And so, I just wanted to take a moment to underscore, thank you. Thanks for\u2014on the journey, the journey to greater belonging, for being in our company.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s one other big topic that I want to make sure we get to, because there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a section of your book, <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Racing to Justice: Transforming Our Conceptions of Self and Other to Build an Inclusive Society<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u2014this is a collection of essays that you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve written, all in one book, and the very last section is a chapter that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s called \u201cLessons from Suffering: How Social Justice Informs Spirituality.\u201d And this section was particularly meaningful to me, as someone who for 36 years now has run a publishing company all about spiritual wisdom. I immediately turned to this section, and what I got from it, a couple of things that I wanted to make sure I talked to you about. And one was this idea that you put forward that by engaging with the suffering of people, by engaging with the poor, by engaging with people who have been othered, our spiritual journey as individuals will be given an ingredient that we absolutely need. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s critical. If we don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t do that, we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re missing something. And I wanted you to talk more about this, and how you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re so convinced this is true.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s for the question, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a delight to be in your company, be on this journey with you. I came to that, I wrote that for a couple of reasons. I feel like, having been part of spiritual communities for a good many years, oftentimes it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the idea that people who meditate and do yoga and different spiritual practices, that they should help the activists, because activists sometimes are stressed out physically and emotionally, sometimes burning up with their own anger. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, we could help, right?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s oftentimes not an appreciation that people who are engaged with the suffering of others have something to teach those of us who organize around spirituality. And much of the spirituality of the West, in many respect, is quiescence. Like, I want to get away from the noise of the world. I want to go out to nature, because nature<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s everywhere. I want to go out to nature, and I certainly don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t want to get involved with politics. I mean, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s really dirty stuff.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Messy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Yeah, exactly. And if you think about the lotus flower, right? And what<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the representation of the lotus flower? It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s growing out of a muddy pond, this beautiful flower. And really think about Mother Theresa, or Gandhi, or Buddha. They weren<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t withdrawn from the world. And in fact, for the time Buddha was withdrawn from the world, at least by some accounts, he apologized when he came back. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yeah, I left my family. That was my code.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s so interesting, when you look at the major religions\u2014Christianity, Islam, Judaism, all of them\u2014they have these deep origin stories that very much deal with suffering, the thing that sort of drives people to religion in a way, even in quote-unquote <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">premodern<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> society, is that the suffering that comes with being alive. And we have different strategies for those. Some, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, well, you can suffer now, but later you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re going to get everything you need and everything you want and you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re never going to get old and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s going to be so cool. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, OK, do I have to wait so long? Yeah, you have to wait and then you have to die and then it happens, right? But people are hungering for something.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, I wrote that piece for two things. One, to say that wisdom is all around us, and if we can only be wise in the peace, in the quiet sanctuary next to a stream, we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re fooling ourselves. We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re fooling ourselves. It becomes so precious that everything disturbs it. Oh, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a bird that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s messing up my silence. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a car that just went by or my kids are crying. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m trying to be enlightened. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m trying to be quiet. And not to knock anyone<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s practice, but I feel like, as I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve been in my own practice, things come through. I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t necessarily have to grab onto them. It can be whatever. And I can be angry and still have joy and love.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dr. King talked about righteous indignation. Righteous indignation. So, what is that? Well, the way he explained it, as I understand it, is that God is sometimes angry at the way we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re treating each other and nature. God is angry because we are, what I call, visiting surplus upon each other. And we should be, too. When we see how we treat kids at the border, or how we treat Asian Americans, or how we treat Muslims in China, we should be hurt and angry.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s something there, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not, I think, when we put things away, right? When we push the suffering away, when we push the feelings away, we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re pushing all the lessons that go with it. And so, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m saying there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s lessons in suffering. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a way in which we can actually be in a relationship with suffering that teaches us. And so, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not just to get away from it, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s to learn from it, and that sometimes what we think of as spiritual is really just an effort to get away. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s close to escapism.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">What capacity do you think it takes to be with suffering, and to not just be like, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Please get me away from this ASAP, thank you very much.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I think it helps\u2026 We all, everybody needs somebody. And sometimes suffering is personal, right? It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, something happened to me. And sometimes it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s collective. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s very good data showing that when a Black person is killed, the Black community in the immediate area of that whole country goes into trauma. But part of, from my perspective, part of the family, part of loved ones, part of the spiritual community, is to help us get to that. So, we help each other, and that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s what I mean by our resiliency, is the collective support.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I remember going to talk to my dad, and it was one of those days when I was feeling burdened and overwhelmed, and I said to my dad, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I just can<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t do this by myself.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And my dad<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s response was, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re never called to do anything by yourself. God is with you.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And he<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a theist and a Christian minister, but still, that was very comforting to me through it all. I said, yes, I was closed to my own little circle, and I maybe had some <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">hubris<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, thinking I had to do it by myself, and recognizing that there are other people, some of them I know, and some I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t know, who are on the same journey. Somehow that was very helpful for me. And so I try to remind myself that, is that there are people, things larger than us that are engaged in the suffering. We don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t know how it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s going to turn out, but there are a lot of people, a lot of energy, a lot of life that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s leaning in the right direction.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, before we close, though, you said when you were growing up, like, you didn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t belong. I wonder, if you feel like you belong now, what happened to change it, if you do feel like it?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Yes. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m happy to share that with you, john, and then I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to ask a challenging question. Not challenging you; challenging me and our listeners. But to answer your question, I think when I discovered meditation, and I started feeling like I could inhabit my body, and I could handle intense, painful emotional states, and I started developing a real relationship with the Earth and my very own body as being part of the Earth, I started feeling like it was OK to be here, even if it hurt a lot.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s great. That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s beautiful.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Now, here<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s my question. In my own life experience, and in the experience of plenty of people I know, through spiritual practice, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s been a recognition of our interdependence. You could say that I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m here because you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re there. The tree doesn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t exist without the soil and the sun and the water. Everything<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s connected. You watched a spider for an hour and a half. The web of life. I get that. Yet, for many people, it hasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t been necessarily an intuitive leap to engage in all of the structural ways we other. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s been like, yeah, I get it in my meditation. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a cosmic web of life. But that hasn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t translated into being a belonging activist. What do you think has been the gap there?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp:<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> That<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a great question. I think there are a couple. One, I think for many of us\u2026 I spent a lot of time, I lived in India for a while, I lived in Africa. I spent a lot of time in Latin America. And I think the individual ideology in the West, particularly the United States, even when we engage a spiritual practice, is very strong. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like bodhisattva\u2014we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re not bodhisattvas, right? We want to be enlightened. We don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t want to be bodhisattvas. I get, bodhisattva is like, I could be enlightened, but I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to stay here until everyone<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s suffering is relieved. I take that on. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, nope. I want to get rid of my suffering, and I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m done with it, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m out of here. I care about other people, but\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I think the ideology of individuality as separate sneaks in in really insidious ways. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll give you just one example. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, how do you know if something is true? I feel it, right? The source is still hyper focused on the \u201cI.\u201d And I think that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s hard to break. And so, I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t think there are many\u2026 There are growing examples. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like peace fellowship. And I read a lot about Buddhism and other religious expressions. Almost all of them have the danger of being captured by the dominant society. The Samurai, the warriors, but they were also religious. So, what happens in different countries when the Buddhists attack the Muslims, and Muslims attack the Buddhists?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, I think there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s something that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s easy to sort of veer off into. Into myself, whatever that is, or into my tribe, whatever that is. So, I think it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s hard. I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t think there are many\u2014there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s some\u2014but many powerful lessons. And we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re constantly\u2026 There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s this story that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s supposedly true, where a holy man in India in the <\/span><b>\u2018<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">60s and <\/span><b>\u2018<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">70s, when Americans were making the trek to India, and the holy man says, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Why are so many Americans coming to India? We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re a poor country, and it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s dirty.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And the American says, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We come here looking for God.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And the Indian person responds, the holy man responds, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No God in America?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">So, I think the impulse\u2026 I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t know. Tami, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m just meeting you. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m glad I met you. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s been too long. When you talked about becoming a sense of belonging, it was through connection. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like connecting to your body, connecting to Earth. I think a lot of people<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s spiritual journey is, without being judgmental, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s escape. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s too much pain, there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s too much this, so I need to get away from it, as opposed to holding space for all of it. And I think if you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re pushing things away\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a song by Leonard Cohen. I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m trying to think of the line. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s something like <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You who leave everything that you cannot control, it starts with your family, and then it comes around to your soul.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And I think for a lot of us, we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re leaving things. We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re still trying to get away from the suffering in the world. And I get it. There are still times that I feel this overwhelming\u2014so much sadness, so much pain. So, I think that contributes to it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">OK, well, I said I was going to ask a question that was challenging for me and our listeners, but now I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to ask one that I think would be challenging for you, but we<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll see how you go. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s our final question. We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re embedded in each other. We<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re interdependent. Given all of that, how do you, john, now answer the question, what is the self?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Well, I think the self is largely an illusion. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not that there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not something, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s certainly not what we think it is, and if we pay attention to it, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, you don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have to read a book or whatever, you see that. You see that this image keeps changing. No matter how hard we try to hold onto it, it keeps changing. And then, we construct\u2026 People oftentimes ask me, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">How did you get into this work?<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And my response is usually, first of all, I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t know, and secondly, why wouldn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t I? Wouldn<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t everybody get into this work?<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">But I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ll also say that sometimes I construct a story. I like to say, when I was three years old, I knew that I would be director of the Othering &amp; Belonging Institute. Not. But there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a piece of me that actually believes that, right? There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a piece of me that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, when I tell the story of my life, I stitch all these threads together, so they seem continuous. But I also know that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not quite real.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And so, I think that living together creates this sense of this permanent, stable self, and that if we are attentive, if we are a little quiet, we actually see that there are gaps in these [inaudible 01:02:27]. And then, we can actually start seeing them even faster. And then, they become interesting. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, OK, what<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s happening when there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not the john that I normally project into the world? What happens when there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s this awareness, and there are no thoughts, and there are feelings, and they<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re just\u2026 But within language and stories, and our society basically really believes in a permanent self.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I have a friend who<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s an accomplished psychiatrist, and he says, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">No matter where I am, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m the same person.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> And I said, <\/span><b>\u201c<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t think that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s true.<\/span><b>\u201d<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> I think when you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re in different situations, you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re actually slightly, and sometimes radically different people. The ideology in America, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, no, I see myself. And it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s actually coming together now with the mind science. As we study the unconscious, we find out that there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a whole bunch of things going along that we never become conscious of, that affects the way we feel, the way we think. And we can measure it. We can see.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And for a lot of Americans, it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s very uncomfortable to suggest that there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s part of me that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s working behind my conscious back and affecting the way I feel and see the world. And to me, that<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s one of the potentially beautiful things about a mindful practice, is that you get a glimpse of some of that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">OK, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to sneak in a final question. What was going on for you when you were watching that spider? What was happening?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">We were spinning a web. I mean, I think, like anything, when you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re deeply engaged, that space shrinks. It was just lovely. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a feeling. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a video, which I suggest your listeners try to find, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s this mother takes her baby to a zoo, and this just happened the last couple of days, and there<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s an ape in the zoo who just had a baby. And the ape is like, so loving. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s the glass between them, but the ape is trying to stroke the baby. There<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s not too much objection. You can see the joy in the ape<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s face of recognizing. And then, the ape go gets its baby and comes back and shows him to the woman. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">ve got a baby, too!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And I think when we are living those connections, and not just an idea, then it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s hard to know where things stop and start. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s hard to know where the spider stopped and where john starts. So, I think in those moments, something happens. We don<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">t have a good language for it, but it<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s a wonderful feeling.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">All right, I<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">m going to let you go. john powell, you are so warm and gorgeous. What a gorgeous human being. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s been such a great joy to get to spend some time with you. Thank you so very much.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>jp: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">I appreciate having time to spend with you. It<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s like another part of life has sort of unfolded, so thank you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><b>TS: <\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">john a. powell, the director of the Othering &amp; Belonging Institute. Thanks, everyone, for being with us, and I know, I feel it, being belonging activists together.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Thank you for listening to <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">. You can read a full transcript of today<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">s interview at SoundsTrue.com\/podcast, and if you<\/span><b>\u2019<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">re interested, hit the subscribe button in your podcast app. And also, if you feel inspired, head to iTunes and leave <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Insights at the Edge<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> a review. I love getting your feedback, being in connection with you, and learning how we can continue to evolve and improve our program. Working together, I believe we can create a kinder and wiser world. 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