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Michael Singer: Jai guru dev, jai masters.
Perhaps, many people don’t ever go there, but there is in truth, a place in your heart that never closes. I don’t mean sometimes closes. I don’t mean conditionally opens or conditionally closes. It’s not even a matter of keeping the door open. There are states you can reach where the Flo Shakti is so strong that it literally blows the door off the hor.
So there’s no longer any door. There’s nothing you can do about it. You need to learn to live with love. You all seek love. You all understand that love is a very beautiful and important state, but human love is conditional. Human love exists when the heart opens, but very, very few human reach a stage They’re capable of willfully allowing the heart to open and never letting it close again.
But they do. It’s, and you don’t blame it. It’s, it’s part of growing up is part evolving, is they realize at some point that the heart is capable of opening and it’s really beautiful. You all wouldn’t be if you didn’t know that would you? Right? It’s a very beautiful state. Just feel all that love to, feel all that energy pouring outta the heart.
We’ve just just discussed before. Have you ever been in a state where your connection with someone that you’re very close with, love that you can just sometimes sit there with this energy pouring. Out of your heart connecting with theirs, and they’re both just sitting intoxicated, just intoxicated with this flow of love.
Have you ever experienced that? I hope you have. It is a natural state that you’re capable of. The trouble is there are reasons that it doesn’t last. Even if you did feel it when you were younger or in certain situations, why? Because when the heart closes to that flow of energy, especially to that strong connection, whereas connecting two hearts together and just intoxicated with the flow between you, if anything ever goes wrong, the flow doesn’t know where to go, it won’t connect anymore with the other person.
And the next thing you know, it’s causing disaster inside your heart. That’s what it means to have a broken heart. That’s what it means to become overwhelmed with the pain. The pain of too much loving. There’s no pain of too much loving in the end because the heart never closes. When the heart is capable of conditionally closing and you’ve been open to it flowing and the connection’s not working anymore, and it doesn’t take much, does it?
Somebody has to do is say the wrong thing or not say the right thing or not wear the right thing at the right time. It doesn’t take much to close the heart does it. What it takes is a lot to open the heart. Why? Because it’s conditional person has to say the right thing that not tell me stuff about their past that I didn’t know about, and all of a sudden, oh my God, I didn’t know about that.
I wouldn’t know. It’s just there’s so much that has to be exactly right. For the heart to truly be open, but it can be. But we are so judgmental. What happens is third chakra. Closes because of all the judgmental stuff, ’cause of the ego does it all the time. It’s a normal state, always complaining about stuff, wanting stuff, not getting what it wants.
So we’ve got something going on there. But when third chakra is taking the energy, it doesn’t go up to the fourth chakra. So sometimes it’ll pop up. But then something will go wrong and you close, and it’s just absolutely unbelievable. There are people, you told me you’d meet me here at six, and I, I’ve been waiting.
I, I felt so much love, I felt so much yearning for you to be there. Then it was five past six and then yearning started to turn into what’s wrong, and it was 10 past six and it started to feel painful. It started to feel like, oh my God, you don’t love me. Why would you do this to me? Well clue in. When he or she shows up, they ain’t getting no love.
They’re gonna hear, first of all, where were you? Why didn’t you call me right or wrong? Because the flow of love. Got blocked by the third chakra and that’s what happens. They get blocked by the ego, got by blocked by expectations and judgements and fears and anxieties and, and everything that the third chakra does, which is pretty much everything.
Believe you live in your third chakra, you may not know it, okay? But that is like the permanent home. If you happen to get up to the fourth, it’s very special. You know that. You give it a name, love, right? But you live in the third and everything has to be exactly right for that fourth to open. And whoa, what it takes to keep it open.
We’ll talk about it. That’s what we’re gonna talk about, okay? But you have to be willing to understand what’s going on. The heart is always capable of loving. That’s what it does. It doesn’t do anything else. It doesn’t, no judgment, doesn’t know fear, doesn’t know anxiety, doesn’t know preference. It doesn’t know beliefs, it doesn’t know a thing except, whoa, that flow.
That flow, okay. And sometimes the flow goes out. When you’re really great, the flow goes up. So we’ll discuss that. We’ll talk about it. It’s all about the energy. It’s all about the shocks, but people don’t think it is. They think it’s about you and what you did to me and what you didn’t do. They think it’s about the outside world and the reason they think it is because the outside world is what needs to be a certain way for your.
Ego, you know, for that whole part of your psyche that has preferences and hopes and dreams and SSEs and views and beliefs and all that junk, if it satisfies that or you think it’s gonna satisfy that, the heart will open. You feel inspiration, you feel attraction. If for one second the ego says, oh, no, no, no, no.
Look how she’s sitting. She’s covering her third chakra. She’s not look at that. She’s protecting herself. She’s saying she loves, but she doesn’t. That’s all it takes. And all of a sudden you don’t feel much love. Truth of the matter is she had a stomach ache. I meant this body language stuff. I’m sorry, because it’s all you projecting.
What if your uncle was somebody you loved more than anything in the whole world? And he sat like that. He didn’t know about body language, but. If it doesn’t match your stuff you’re closing, just please understand you close because it didn’t make it past the ego chakra, which is the third chakra, right?
Preferences, hopes, dreams, concept, views, beliefs. They’re all third chakra. They’re all personal. It’s all about you. What do I like? What do I not like? What do I believe? What do I not believe? What do I think is right? What do I think is wrong? Every single thing the third chakra says has that little letter I, me or mine next to it.
Just look at your thoughts. Look at how you walk around all day. That’s all third chakra, but if something happens to happen outside that matches what it wants or what it thinks will help it, it opens. But it’s very rare, right? And then you can’t keep it open because nobody is gonna behave exactly the way you want them to.
Why? Because they don’t even know how you want them to, and you don’t even know you want them to, and how you know that they did something, you didn’t like your clothes. You know how you know they did something you really do like you open. If you write it on a piece of paper what you want here in the morning, write down.
You want somebody to behave. It’s the worst thing you could ever do. Now you set up an expectation, right? I even told you how I wanted you to be and you weren’t that way. That’s why relationships are so hard. That’s I love is so hard. Love is not hard. That was the easiest thing, the whole world. It’s always there.
It’s flowing all the time. You block it. With this lower center, which is your ego center, your personal center, and it’s hard to talk about because I use the analogy of a fish does not know it’s in water. It doesn’t have the frame of reference of anything outside of water. Therefore, it doesn’t know there’s water.
Most people, I’m not picking on you. Most people have no idea that it’s all third chakra, where they’re living, that everything they’re doing is about what do I want? What do I not want? What do I like? What do I not like? Who did what and why they do that, and how do I justify their rationalize? It’s just all ego.
This is all about me. Love can’t be about me. If you want love for yourself, yeah, you’re not gonna find love. Love requires you to let go of yourself and care more about something or somebody else more than you care about yourself. Then you can transcend the third chakra. But it’s hard. It’s a very strong chakra.
It’s very strong stuff, and everybody’s there. All your advertising is there, your parents are there. You understand that everybody’s trying to. Do something personal. I’m trying to build a big following. I’m trying to do this. I’m trying to do that. It’s all personal. It’s all personal. It’s so personal and it’s so big that frame of reference that I am pleased that you’re here and you come back willing to hear about it.
Otherwise, why are you wasting your time here? So go and get things the way you want, and you wake up and you realize there is no getting things the way you want. They change all the time. Let’s say you really feel open for somebody and you’ve been that way for a while, and tell every how much you love him is.
Love him for size is a beautiful thing. What does it take for one person to walk up to you and whisper in your ear something about that person to where you don’t feel that love again? So, and not right away. So they justify themselves. Find out whether it’s true. I don’t wanna be with anybody that ever did something like that.
30 years, I don’t care. Hear me? Is that not how the life is? Okay. And next thing you do gave away love. So that third chakra stuff, that personal stuff, really blocks the energy flow. And so it’s all about is transcending that. Not forcing love and not finding somebody to love you. Don’t find somebody to love.
Love cannot be coerced and forced to exist. It naturally opens, comes up to the next level because you stop stopping it, it falls down to, but you never stop. Stop. Even when you feel love, you’re afraid you’re gonna get hurt. Come on. Right. You’re really willing to just put it all out there and just bam, well, not till I know you better and not till this, or not till I’ve known you for long enough and until I see that you’re not gonna hurt me.
Yes or no? Well, that’s not an environment for love. That’s an environment for protectionism. Love cannot get hurt. The hurt that you feel in your heart is when you close your heart. Therefore the energy is hitting all this stuff and it can feel like razorblades in there, can’t it? That’s because you close your heart.
If you never close your heart, you don’t ever feel that, okay? There’s different flavors as it comes up. It’s all love. It’s all love. Somebody would’ve said to me, what is, but what if somebody you love dies and you really love them a lot, and now they’re not there anymore and you miss them? Right? You’re not supposed to feel that.
No, no, no. You’re supposed to feel that. Guess what you feel when you’re really open. That is equivalent to saying to that person, this is how much I loved you. That’s how much I love you. They wouldn’t be pain, they wouldn’t be lost if I didn’t love you that much, so I haven’t stopped loving you. That’s just another expression of the open heart that’s able to pour out bleed, but love it.
Love that expression. That’s asking a lot of you, isn’t it? ’cause ego don’t wanna feel that. It wants to protect this other people that end a relationship like that and they say, I’ll never have another one. I don’t care. I don’t need another relationship. I’m gonna live by myself from now on. I know I don’t wanna go through that ever again.
Okay, great. Don’t, that’s not a very high state. That’s equivalent to staying. My ego wins. I don’t wanna go through that again. So I’m gonna control my life to where I don’t get close enough to somebody. I don’t give my heart to anybody and so on. Okay. That’s how a human lives ’cause they live in the third chakra.
Is it possible to feel love all the time? Yes. How not to try and feel love, not to try to find somebody who makes in their presence. You feel your heart open. It’s wonderful. Believe me, it will not last. They’re gonna do something or say something or not do something or not say something at some point and you’re gonna wonder and you close and it doesn’t mess like that.
The only way it lasts is to let go of yourself. You have to let go. What’s below that and we’ll talk about that so that it has the right to unconditionally. That’s what I want you to have unconditional love. It never goes away, express itself in different ways, but it’s all ecstatic. I mean, believe it or not, the feeling of deep loss, it’s beautiful.
It’s just beautiful, but you have to be willing to feel the beauty. It feels different. The fulfillment, right? But it’s just a real, I guess it’s depth to it. Okay. Love is real. It’s a real thing, but you can’t handle it. So you protect yourself and you close off. And then there are people who never feel love again.
Oh, made me cry. I don’t want you to live like that, Jeremy. That’s no way to live. You’re here to evolve. You’re here to grow. But when somebody says, I’m too old to love you, not too old, are you kidding me? Has no age. It’s a flow of Shakti and it comes up and it feeds you day and night. It should be there all the time.
You stop talking about how you think it needs to be. There is this flow of energy inside of you that never stops at any time. Ever. You wanna feel love, wave your hand across your heart. It bursts open anytime you want. That’s who you are. That’s who you are. No matter what you ever did, no matter what you’ll ever do.
That is literally who you are. Just like the sun is always shining. There may be clouds between you and the sun, but that sun’s always out there. That love is always there. Unconditional ready to feed you is what Christ meant when he said, man does not live by bread alone, but by every word that leaves the mouth of God.
What does that mean? It’s inside, not outside. You’re not living just by what you get from outside. There’s an inner flow of Shakti spirit that literally when you’re ready, goes up and never goes down ever again for the rest of your, not just life existence. It will never stop flowing, but you, it can’t flow when you close.
It can’t flow if you’re willing to not have it flow, if you’re willing to sit there and say, I loved you, but you did that, I will never love you again for the rest of my life, I’ll never love anybody again for the rest of my life. You hurt me so bad. Okay, fine. You won’t, ’cause you decided to hang out with that level of energy.
Who decided you did. But look what he or she did. I, I don’t. I what to tell you, man. People do all kinds of things, yes or no? Can people hurt you? Yes or no? It takes two to tango no matter what that person said or did. It takes you being willing to give up that beautiful flow inside of you to close down.
Because they did that. Otherwise, I’m a nice Jewish yogi. I don’t know. I try to talk. All I hear is Christ, what did he say? Forgive them Lord, for they no know what they do. You who was without sin throw the first stone. In other words, yes, people do stuff, don’t they? That’s ’cause they have an ego. Same thing as you do.
And if that thing tries to get what it wants, it can walk all over you. So you do have the ability to close. But the deep teachings in Christ was taught, the deep teaching right are don’t close when never, no matter what. Okay, now we, we’ve laid the groundwork and you are capable. Don’t you dare think you’re not capable.
You’re not able to do it right now, if you wanna play the piano, you don’t sit down there and play Mozart or Beethoven. You play the scales and every time you sit down, you get better. It’s called practicing. Practice or sport, practice an instrument. You’re gonna get better. Doesn’t mean you’ll be a concert pianist, but you’re gonna get better every time you practice.
This is exactly the same. You practice not closing, you, practice not closing. That’s not natural. Natural tendency is to protect yourself. Natural tendency is to set borders and barriers and say what I like and what I don’t like, and you better behave. That’s what the instinctual lower self deals with.
Well, you are transcendent to that. You’re higher than that, but you have to work with yourself. And so now you get down to how can I get to a state? That’s always love. Now, before I go on, ’cause we’re talking about it. Just because you always feel love doesn’t mean you don’t deal with the outside world.
It’s not like do whatever you want to everybody else. And to me, ’cause I love you, it’s I love you. How can I help the situation? Hear me? I don’t give up the love. I bring the love into the situation and I look at the overall best way to raise the energy. One with my energy. With your energy. ’cause you’re bringing love into the situation instead of judgment and hatred and fear and then revenge.
That kind of junk. Okay? You’re trying to bring, you’re bringing love in, but there may be things you need to do. There are people who harm other people. They need to go to jail. Okay? But do it love, do it. The spirit of forgive them Lord for them not know what they do. I talked about that the other day.
Right, right. In words. Yes, they did terrible things. He couldn’t admit that. Forgive them Lord, for they not what they do. Yeah, well, they did a terrible thing with Hung on the Cross. That was just an example of how bad it can get. And his statement was, forgive them Lord, for they not know what they do. Not only they know what they’re doing, they’re filled with ego.
They’re filled with preferences and fears and anxieties and needs, so they don’t know what they’re doing. So you start. With openness, you start with forgiveness. You start by not closing your heart, but you have to learn how and we’ll talk about it, but you can reach that state. That doesn’t mean you don’t come down and help doesn’t mean just sit in the cave somewheres or in your room feeling, oh boy, great stuff.
Okay? The love actually drives you to act ’cause it wants to express itself, but it doesn’t ever express anger, not like that, or revenge or hatred or judgment. All the great teaching judge, not that she should not be judged. And so then patriarch to end the burdensome practice of judging. Judging is ego.
And what basis do you judge your ego, your past experiences, what you like and what you don’t like? You judge her ’cause she’s wearing a certain thing. Well, you like her ’cause she’s wearing something different. Who decided this? You. You’re the judge. Anytime you judge another human being, you’re judging from your frame of reference.
Surely not by theirs because they do what they did. Alright? But you’re judging by your frame of reference. Anything that’s personal, you know, I can feel love. Because it’s personal. It has to be the way Eagle wants it to be. Alright, so like I said, I wanna make sure you understand it doesn’t mean you don’t come down and interact.
There are very great beings like Gandhi, Martin Luther King. There’s different ones that literally faced terrible, terrible situations and their principle was love. The principle was don’t fight back. Don’t close. Bring energy into the situation that’s able to raise the situation, not get even very deep teachings.
Not everybody adheres to them. Alright, so how do you reach that state now that we understand the state exists and believe me, you want it and so does the rest of the world. They want you bringing that into your moments that you’re bringing a very high being. I once said, somebody asked me, what’s the highest state to live?
What’s the highest way to live? Every single human being you meet just met the most beautiful human being they’ve ever met. That’s your state. That’s your gift to the world. It’s your gift to yourself. It’s your gift to everybody in anything, no matter what. Then you see they need to help you. Just see what you can do to raise the energy.
You can’t fix everything. Christ didn’t fix the world. Put it didn’t change the world. Great beings, great teachings. Right, but we we’re not ready. You know this plane is not a very high plane and alright, so how does one reach that state? I told you, you are not gonna decide. I’m a totally open being and I’m never gonna close my heart.
Good luck because it ain’t gonna happen and there’s nothing wrong with you that it doesn’t happen. Just you decide. That makes sense. I should never close my heart. Good luck. Alright, you have to practice. That’s a great thing I learned over all the years. You are where you are. You must start where you are.
If you wanna go to New York, you better start with a map that starts where you are in Gainesville or in Florida. You can’t say, well, it’s so far away. What if I was in Atlanta or South Carolina? But you’re not. You can’t skip. You have to start from where you are. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t manage yourself.
Don’t feel guilty of where you are. Never. No, no. You accept where you are. Then what? Then you work with yourself on a regular daily basis, not just in meditation or retreats on a everyday basis. There are situations that tend to close you and situations that tend to open you. They’re your gateway heaven.
They’re your spiritual path. That is your spiritual path. You look at yourself and you see. Why did I close? Why did I feel the tendency to close? Why did I get so upset about this person, what they said or didn’t say? And you’re gonna see inside yourself that you did it. Yes, they did something, but you processed that with the garbage you stored inside yourself, across the course of your life.
I teach this all the time. You are not what you decided to be. You’re programmed by your past experiences. If you like Republicans or like Democrats or like independents or like women or like men or like older or like younger, it’s because you had experiences. And experience could include reading a book experience could be something, somebody told you something, you didn’t just make it all up.
You had experiences that left impressions in your mind and your heart, and now when you look down there, the sum of your learned experiences, that’s what psychology teaches you. You like what you like because something in your past means you like that. You just all of a sudden, Ooh, okay, and then it all gets stored down there and it almost jumbled together and you didn’t even know what you like or dislike.
Ever have trouble making decisions and anybody don’t have trouble making decisions. Well, of course you do. Why? Because at one point in your life this happened and it was good. The same thing or similar thing happened another point in your life and it was disturbing. You go back and forth. Well, this’ll be neat.
Uh, I don’t think so. I don’t remember when. Oh, okay, okay. Oh, we can try that. Nah, that’s why you have trouble making decisions. You stored all these different impressions inside programmed your mind and your heart, your emotions programmed your mind and emotions, and they are not consistent. It really is.
Freud’s teachings. Freud says, you’ve got the id, the superego means societies, what they laid on your head, your primal drives, what your body and all that stuff laid on your head. Now you’re gonna try and live in there. So you build this, this model of yourself that tries to bounce it all and that you can live with.
It’s hilarious. And you push the rest away and you get rid of that and grab this and change your mind, and you’re trying to be okay in there, but you have all these different impressions your parents told. You go to church or go to synagogue, and you decide, no, I’m gonna rebel. Then you meet somebody that did go to church and they did real well and they’re gonna talk to you about going to hell.
Maybe I screwed it up. I don’t know. You might do anything. Can it? It can change on a dime and it’s hard to live in there ’cause you’re trying to build a U that fits all the experience that you’ve had. Well, there’s no way they’re gonna fit all the experiences. That’s what ego said, difficult to live with.
You are a different person around your parents. You are around your boyfriend or girlfriend, then you are around your teacher. Different parts of you come out ’cause you wanna fit with the group you’re with. And that’s what you make up. You keep making up of you. I like when people say, which is the real me, none of them don’t.
You dare try to find your true self. You are the ones looking for it. I’m serious. There’s somebody in there looking to say, who am I? I was that yesterday, but I don’t feel good about that. Who is in there doing this? And the answer is, you’re in there. Who? You, the witness, the consciousness, the objective Observer.
You are aware that you screwed up yesterday and you feel guilty about it. How? Because you held onto it and you’re aware that that’s going on inside of you. You’re aware of everything that’s going on inside of you. You’re trying not to be as a suppression is. Before I said, if you’ve got something going on in there that you can’t make fit your ego, you push it away.
You so cute. You push it away, you get it outta your frame of reference. I don’t wanna think about, don’t talk about that subject. You know, I don’t like talking about that subject. I told you and I to talk about that. I don’t wanna talk about that. He, he is so cute. Anybody got some soft spots in there?
Those are the parts that didn’t fit inside your ego, and you tried to make it all be consistent, you, which are very, very difficult, and when things didn’t fit, you push it away. And the push away, by the way. Freud, he, it’s really Freudian. It’s very beautiful. He sat there and said, you suppress it. What does that mean?
I don’t want it in my head. I don’t wanna think about it. It is bothering me. Why is it bothering you? It’s not bothering me. It’s bothering the rest of your ego that it doesn’t fit. You gotta go back and forth and jump around. Alright? So just push it away as much as you can and then re, I forget whether suppression, repression is strong, it doesn’t matter, but re you get it even deeper down there.
But the one I know about. I love talking about it is denial. I know that’s the bottom line. Well, what is differe between suppression and denial and suppression? You know, you got that down there and it keeps trying to come back. You keep pushing it back down. Denial is, I pushed that thing so far away. It didn’t happen literally that the psychological state of denial means you.
It didn’t happen. It didn’t happen. It’s not true. It’s not true. I didn’t ever say that. You mean it. You’re not lying. Okay, so these are the different states of what? Who is denying it? ’cause somebody knows it happened. Somebody’s pushing it away fro. He doesn’t talk about who suppresses instead of suppression.
I wanna know who suppresses. Okay. It is the, the self, the consciousness. That’s who’s trying to pull the ego together. Who’s holding it together? Consciousness. It’s looking down at that messy energy in there. That’s the sum total of your learned experiences. And they don’t fit. And they sure don’t fit. When you go from nine to 12 to 18 to 43 and the same stuff down Earth, it is still down there.
That’s what Freud taught. It’s all down there, or you see with your mother, but now you don’t deal with it that way. You’ve pushed that away. I’m done with the dolls, I’m done with the mommy, and now I gotta deal with the husband or the wife or the kids, and it just. You. You’re a mess in there. Do you understand that?
And now you wanna feel love? It’s very funny. Hear me? Well, you’re a mess in there. You can meet somebody, you could have some relationship in which it seems like I feel so much better at your presence. It’s unbelievable. I don’t feel the turmoil you will. ’cause it’s not gone. You just distracted yourself from it because the energy flow is strong enough to where you didn’t have to deal with yourself.
It distracted you from yourself. You felt more attracted to somebody else. Do you understand that? There’s nothing wrong with it. Not dis this stuff. It’s all part of human growth, right? But that’s what’s happening. Does it stay that way? You tell me you’ve been around the block. Right. That initial infatuation where your heart blows open and your mind, I don’t care where we live.
We can live outside. As long I’m with you. Alright? Until the first time it rains or until enough of your friends dish you what? Are you crazy? Haven’t you seen what happens? So it doesn’t, it can’t last because that junk is still in there. You just manage to distract your consciousness from it. And while you’re distracted from it, everything seems fine, but it’s still there and you know it’s still there.
And you do indeed sometimes tell somebody you love. Don’t talk about that subject. It’s hard for me to be open to you when you talk about that subject. I, I don’t like it. Ever said that to anybody? Of course you have. That means your stuff is still in there. It’s conditional. So what do you do? You understand that it’s not gonna go away in two seconds.
It’s your work just like learning the piano or learning a sport. It’s your work. Well, I don’t have time to do my work. It doesn’t take time. Yo Shati Saint that gave us the drug stature once said there’s time within the time. That was years, 30 years ago, 40 years ago. I didn’t understand. Now I understand you mean there’s time.
Within the time while you are doing this time out here, it doesn’t take any more time to work on yourself. You don’t have to go somewheres. I’m just here. It’s happening. I love you. I feel this flow, but I feel it is starting to get weird in there. It doesn’t say, I don’t know where you were and I don’t know whether you said what I thought you might have said.
And plus I had a dream last night. And in that dream, I don’t wanna tell you what happened, but I’m looking at you. There’s always something right or wrong, your conscious being you notice that. That’s all I ask. I I’ve gotten a point where I didn’t even tell you to do something about it. Just notice that’s enough.
Notice is there junk going on in there? Doesn’t take much, does it? Okay. Are you willing to notice, oh, there it is. The some I learned experiences. There’s the event took place in the past. It’s coming up and you notice it and then you’d be willing to relax. That’s all it takes. I swear to you. The path is not difficult, but we won’t live it.
And we’re not taught it either. You don’t try to change it. If this is coming up inside and you start to close is there’s a reason it’s doing that. There’s stuff that you stored down there from the past that left impressions in there and it’s causing this stuff to come up and you feel the tendency to close.
You tend to protect yourself. If I had my way with you, I don’t. If I did, I would say to you, the only thing you can do when you see that is relax. How does that fix it? You’re not trying to fix it. You’re trying to release it. That’s a totally different thing. Fixing it means go away. I don’t wanna feel this.
I shouldn’t feel that. I’m not sure I love my husband anymore. I felt it before, but what am I gonna do if I don’t love it? That’s just your junk surfacing. You’re gonna go through different stages in your relationships. If you haven’t noticed, you don’t try to fix it. You notice it. Uhhuh. There it is. Haha.
And you know it’s the hard start to close. What do you do? Relax. You relax. In order to resist, push something away. Fight. You can’t relax. You have to tense. To push it away. To fight it. If you can learn to relax. Every time it starts to do that junk of closing or the tendency to close, relax. Relax your shoulders, relax your chest, relax your buttocks, relax.
Don’t fight. Don’t fight the mind. What if you have a bad thought? Has anyone ever had a bad thought? Has anyone ever had an X-rated thought across the stage of their entire life outta place? Totally out of the question. This, where did that come from? Yes or no? Okay. Alright, so what do you do with that? You understand that’s Freud’s in.
You just understand there’s the animal aspect of your being and it can relate to things that way, or anger or fear. It just can do that, can’t it? It’s not a problem. Stop defining your thoughts as problems. Define them as having roots. There’s a reason that this is going on. You don’t have to get into it.
Because you understand that, okay. It is. Okay. I have thoughts or I have a bad thought about my ex-husband. No, I’m not supposed to do that. Stop it. If you were left with these impressions inside and you haven’t worked them through, you’re gonna have bad thoughts. You are gonna see her name or see a picture, and next thing you know, it’s not gonna feel so good in there.
You may feel anger, you may feel revenge, you may feel whatever it is. It’s not wrong. You don’t wanna suppress that. You don’t wanna sit there and say, I don’t wanna have this feeling too bad. You just had it. So to not have it. I don’t know what to tell you because you had it. You can’t not have had it.
What you can do is honor and respect its right to pass through as it’s releasing. It literally can release whatever energy was stored down there that caused this to get stimulated and have those kind of any kind of thought. You understand that that energy can release, those roots can release, but not while you’re pushing them back down, not when you’re judging them, not when you’re saying, oh my God, I can’t believe I thought like that.
I don’t wanna think like that. No church is not to think, no, you’re not supposed to think like that. You’re talking to the wrong person, man. There’s a reason that every single thought you ever had happened. The reason is ’cause if your past, you stored stuff in there and it all rumbled and jumbled together, or throw the dice, right?
And at this particular moment you saw the color blue and this thought came up. That’s how it works. But you don’t like it. You don’t like that thought. You don’t like to think. You thought the thought. You know, I supposed to thought that thought. You know what? I thought you hear me and you suppress it.
That’s the worst thing you could possibly do. Just take the energy that caused it to come up and shove it right back down there. ’cause it’s coming back up again and spreading out like a virus deep underneath. You never wanna push it back down, but you know, there are times you gotta hold yourself together.
But I just wanna teach. If you are capable of not judging yourself and not hating yourself and not getting down on yourself because of some thought that comes up, and you just look at it and just say, these are the thoughts that are caused by the past experiences. I don’t have to explain why I don’t. I don’t care.
Again, I know the why, ’cause I stored stuff down there in the past. That’s why. How’s that? That’s broad enough for me. And what do you do? Relax. Whoa. Are you ready to do that? You ready to not judge yourself or anybody else you’re ready to relax in the face of what came up that you would’ve closed about and judged yourself about and got down on yourself about and remembered, oh my God, I’m not a good person.
Right? You’re not even a person at all. We’ll, get there. Forget a good one if it comes up. Honor, it’s right to pass through because what you’re doing then is releasing the root of why it’s down there. That’s how you grow. Do you understand that? And eventually it cleanses out and your costs get higher and higher and higher.
Naturally. Not because you said they were supposed to, not. ’cause you’re matching some pattern. Okay. And so what you do is you understand that if you can handle the energy within yourself, how, not by handling it, not by touching it, by releasing it, letting, but how do I get my hands up to release it? You don’t.
It does it by itself. It’s a totally natural process. That stuff does not want to be stored in your heart. Stuff, whatever the stuff was from your past that you shoved down there and made part of your personality and your mess in there, right? It doesn’t wanna be in there. It will naturally push its way back up if you let it, but you don’t let it.
You think you’re not supposed to feel that. I’m supposed to think that. I don’t wanna be like that, or I might act on this. I’m afraid of it. I don’t know what the heck you do, right? You have to change your attitude with the small stuff to start with. It’s okay. Your past, by the way, is okay. How can you say that?
I don’t know. Christ said it. He without sin, throw first stone. Okay, forgive. Let go be open, especially about your past. Don’t you dare judge yourself based on your past. That is such an absurd thing to do. Why You can’t change your past. That’s first. So now you’re screwed. Because you’re down there judging yourself, making yourself feel worse.
So you can’t raise yourself ’cause you push yourself down. And the second reason is there’s not a single thing that ever happened to you that you ever did or ever happened to your entire life that was not for your growth.
What did he say? If you did it, you needed to grow from it. Doesn’t mean it was right. Was optimal doesn’t, it was good, but the fact that the energies inside of you caused your mind and your emotions to behave in that way, to act in that way, both inside and out means they did. I felt upset and anger, and I hit somebody.
I felt upset and anger, and I left somebody who I was supposed to love and never got back with. Something happened, you hear me? But it did happen, didn’t it? By definition. You acted that way. Okay. Should I feel guilty? We’ll talk about that in a minute. Should I feel guilty? All guilt does is push it further down.
Whatever caused you to behave that way, when you feel guilty about it, you can’t live with it. You push it away. So now you got a new thing you stored down there. Mayor Baba once said there’s this tremendous difference between guilt and remorse. I never. Even looked at it until he taught it right. It was so beautiful.
He said, guilt is an a human emotion that judges the action that took place and causes terrible feelings and fears and anxieties and sense of non worthiness. Okay? Remorse is a totally different thing. It is. I can’t believe I did that, not I judge myself for doing it. I can’t believe now that I did that.
How could I have done that? That means you grew, you’re clearer. You would not have done the same thing again. When people come to me and say, what do I do without guilt? I ask ’em a very simple question. If the same situation happened again, would you behave the same? You know what they say? Of course not. Of course not.
Then. Guilt is not the answer because you already grew past it. You’re not the same person that did it. How can you judge yourself? I’m, I’m learning tennis and I hit the ball into the net all the time. I am now a professional tennis player and I’m playing against the great players. I should feel guilt that I used to hit the ball into the net.
Mm-hmm. I should be ashamed. Don’t show me those pictures where I’m showing to the net. You should look at the picture and say, God, look how I grew. You have the right to grow. So remorse means you grew enough to look at that behavior and no, you would never do that again. And you feel the pain and the sorrow in the heart that other people got bother or something like that.
That is the some scar being released to guilt. You push it back down this way you’re saying, okay. Come on up, come up. I wanna see come up. Just come up, let release. ’cause you’re not the same person before you couldn’t handle it. Now you can. And it’s, it’s just a cleansing of the heart. The heart has the right to cleanse.
Your body has the right to grow. Your mind has the right to grow. Your heart has the right to go through what it had to go through to learn the lessons it had to learn. And some of them don’t look good on paper or elsewhere. Kill does not help one aod. But however. If I ask you, okay, you hurt this person, you get a little upset, you hit him, would you do it again?
You damn right. I would. Okay. Then feel guilt. Thank then guilt can help mold your behavior to, maybe you’ll learn something later, but remorse is much deeper. It’s the heart feeling the release of what caused you to behave that way, and it’s cleansing. It’s beautiful. It’s just beautiful. As you feel that. I, I would never want to be like that again.
Alright. And let go of the part of me that caused me to be that way before. And it can leave, but if you feel guilty about it, it’s not gonna leave. ’cause you owned it. Can anybody hear me? So you start raising yourself on a, at a daily basis, a minute to minute basis. Okay? People say to me, but you don’t teach meditation.
I wanna teach you what to do when you’re not meditating. You are welcome to meditate. You’re welcome to use any methodology you want, but you ain’t. 2 24 7. I can say it right now. I want the rest of your life where you’re saying every minute of my life is an opportunity to evolve. That’s what’s happening.
How do I do that? By noticing what the heck’s going on in there and it ain’t pretty. Let’s get that straight. You put all the makeup on, you want, you behave the way you want, talk the way you want. It ain’t pretty in there. You know it ain’t pretty in there. You got a lot of work to do in there to try and make it acceptable and you don’t even know how to make acceptable.
’cause everybody wants something else from you, don’t they? True for everything. How you wear your hair, whether you use makeup, every single thing. And so you’d eventually get to the point, I ain’t living to make the way I am now. Match the way everybody wants. I’m evolving. I’m evolving. How do you know you’re evolving?
’cause it hurts. If you’re getting everything the way you want it to be, don’t bother being born ’cause you’re not gonna change. I think I’ll change the height of the net. So it’s so far down that I never hit the ball into it. Okay? I figured it out. You to learn a single thing. You don’t want to make things be the way you want them to be.
You wanna find out why things have to be a certain way for you to be okay. It’s ’cause you throw this stuff inside of you. And so as you go through your life every minute of your life, someday, you’ll understand. First you say day by day it retreats the weekend. He said literally every minute. Why? Because you’re in there every minute watching, you know you are, you’re noticing what’s going on in there.
Yeah, my heart hurt, but I didn’t wanna act on it. Go on. Just keep talking it stop says my heart hurt. Is that okay with you? It better be. Why? ’cause it did. Anything you do about it. We attempt to make it not hurt, but there was a cause that caused it to hurt and that was not outside. That was extraordinary a long time ago.
And so if you’re just entertaining this attitude, I don’t want any pain, I don’t want it, it hurt. I don’t want any trouble. I don’t want anything like this. You’re basically saying, I wanna manipulate the world and everybody in it to behave in a way that when it comes into me, it doesn’t bother me. But then you’re not gonna grow.
And plus you’ll never succeed. I can tell you right now, not even close, you don’t want that. If you’re a swimmer, they push you to go longer and swim harder and be faster. They don’t sit there and say, oh, there you go. That’s good. Now, if you’re on a swim team, now if you’re playing tennis, they’re playing the piano.
Piano teacher doesn’t come to you after three years. Oh, look, you can do this cd. That’s really good. No, they don’t do that. They say, come on man. We’ve done this one for a week. We should be past this. They push you. Well, life pushes you, doesn’t it? It pushes you to face yourself, pushes you to realize there’s junk in the air, okay?
But there’s also beauty in there. But you have to let go of the junk. And so what happens is you start in the morning, I say this all the time, here’s your spiritual path. You can do more. Here’s the minimal you wake up in the morning. Okay? First notice what’s going on. He, because it is not always nice, even the first thing in the morning.
I’m tired. It had a terrible dream last night. Okay. And then you sit there and you commit to noticing what’s going on. I used to tell ’em to shut up. No, that doesn’t work. Nicer would be okay. Just quiet down a little bit. No matter what it’s talking about, no matter what’s worried about, it’s okay. Get quiet and then say to yourself, today, I’m gonna go through the day.
Without closing my heart, I’m gonna go through this day without closing my heart. And then you watch and you’ll notice that things happen that tend to close your heart. You do the best you can to relax. I told you the answer is relaxation. It’s not struggle, it’s not suppression, it’s not fighting. It’s not some ideal, it’s just relax.
What does relaxing do? It allows the energy to release resistance, pushes it back down. If you relax, little bits of it can come up and pass through, and that is what it means to be opening your heart. You’re practicing a piano, you’re practicing staying open under regular situations. Well, what happens if I can’t?
You’re gonna fall down. Well, that’s terrible. No, it’s not. You hit the ball on the net, learn better. Next time you’re not perfect, you fall down. At some point, you’ll get up, you’ll realize, whoa, I lost it there. I was supposed to stay open. I didn’t stay open and I yelled at somebody. I find it very funny. If you get back up, you hear me?
So there’s nothing wrong when you’re riding a bike. You know the kid learning a bike, you’re gonna fall. That’s terrible. No it isn’t. That’s how you learn balance. Daddy’s always holding the thing. You’ll never learn to balance it. It has to be this way and that way. And eventually you’ll feel what bounce feels like.
It’s the same thing inside yourself. So you go through the situation, you fall down. And what I beg of you is, listen, I’ve been doing this for a long time, right? At first you come back up and you didn’t wanna fall. You’ll rationalize the, you didn’t fall with somebody else’s fault. They shouldn’t have said that.
I told them, don’t say that. You’re making me angry. Don’t, don’t. I told you I’m not to hit you with the pots and pans. No. You look at it and you take ownership. I wasn’t able to handle that situation you have. You say, I’ll do better next time. I’ll do better next time. You know, suppress it. You don’t hate yourself for it.
Yes, I’ll do better next time and then you as quickly as possible, come back to your center. Don’t judge yourself. Don’t rationalize, don’t justify. Just come on back up. That was a nice trial run. I’ll do my next time. Well, what happens if you really did some messy stuff, young yelling at somebody or pots and pans, or leaving your job in the middle of your work because you couldn’t handle it?
There will be repercussions. Oh, I thought if I accepted nothing bad will happen. No, no. That works. Okay. Every action has an equal opposite reaction. Guess what you do with that? Thank you. Thank you for the lesson. Thank you for letting me go through what I wasn’t able to handle, and then the repercussions that come back helped me learn.
That I should have done that, that, that gimme strength, gimme inspiration to be stronger next time. And I’ll tell you a secret, if you did stuff at work or this and the other thing, and your attitude when you come back from freaking out a little bit is what I just told you, it’s much easier for other people to accept what you did as opposed to defending yourself and justifying or saying, well, I don’t wanna go back anyways.
Right? You just, wow, I should’ve done better. I could’ve done better. I’ll do better next time. Make sense to you? That’s how you grow spiritually. Every day. Every minute you do the best you can, right? But not judge, and not get down on yourself. You should feel good about yourself. I’m growing. I hit the ball into the net three times today.
I did four yesterday. It was three today. Be positive about your growth and be willing to accept the repercussions. They are your teachers and I can’t get into it. Karma’s not what you think it is. Karma’s not a punishment. Karma’s your teacher. Every action is an equal opposite reaction. If you put something out there that’s dirty, it’s gonna come back.
It’s not doing to punish you, it’s doing to teach you to don’t go. There did not work out so good. So you learn from it. Don’t feel bad about it. Your beautiful being. The more you let go of your personal self and that that stuff that comes back is sandpaper, it’s chipping away. It’s your garbage. You’ll realize I don’t have to be like that.
I could. I could’ve done better. I could have done better. Maybe you apologized, maybe you don’t need to. Whatever it is, it’s about you. It’s about in there. Did you learn? Did you learn? Are you learning every minute of your life to be deeper and be more capable of raising yourself? Alright? And you just basically do that.
You can’t imagine if you did every moment in your life. Someday you gonna find out. When you do that without you doing anything else, all of a sudden you’re more open. Why? Because you stopped closing. Because the reason you used to close made it through, you realize no, I, I can handle that. I, I could have done better.
I’ll do better next time. That’s a great attitude. You hear me? I can remember times I would look at him during my growth. Took me a long time to get where I’m teaching you. Okay. Because I used to judge a lot and fight a lot and all this stuff with him. But I remember a Midwest, I’d look at him, I’d look at him.
I would fight with him, and I’d say, your days are numbered. It’s okay. Right? I’d rather have you say. Thank you for coming up. You are welcome in here. I can handle you. I know it’s dirty. I know I shoved junk down there. I’m sorry I did that. I’m sorry. I shoved you down there in the past. You are welcome to come up.
I honor your growth. I honor it and I will try to help you, lift you up instead of pushing you back down. What happens when you do that? The energy changes direction. You don’t realize that all of a sudden there’s energy coming up and it’s not going down, and then all of a sudden things happen, you can handle them ’cause you don’t have that junk in there.
And then eventually it doesn’t stop. It just goes up and feeds your heart day and night. Man’s not live by bread alone, but every word that leave with the mouth of God, that’s the Shakti flow. And you start feeling this beautiful energy inside and eventually it gets to a point where I ain’t trading this for anything.
And you just literally. Let go of the personal self because what’s inside is much more beautiful and it changes everything. It changes everybody. Those are the deep states. There is no fighting on the path. There’s just surrendering and releasing and honoring and respecting and raising yourself. I quoted you from the gita’s deep.
The Gita is deep. As deep as it comes. One should raise the self with self, not trampled down the self for self that can be self friend can become self foe. The difference being the first self one should raise the self lower self with self, the higher self, some higher stuff in there than what you don’t normally act with.
You can raise it ’cause otherwise you’re gonna push it back down. Alright, I see what I wanna say. I surprised you still here. I’m very proud of you. Right. Well, it’s not the way people live, is it? They basically say, I don’t like what you did get outta my life. I don’t like the job anymore. I liked my boss before.
I don’t even wanna get to know this boss. I’m outta here. Right? You just, you quit on yourself constantly ’cause it doesn’t match what you want and eventually you catch on. It’s not supposed to match what you want. It’s supposed to be sandpaper that’s getting rid of you. About to say that. It’s like sandpaper, life is sandpaper.
It’s just back and forth, just sanding away. The ego, the personal self. That’s a great revelation. When you realize it is not supposed to be the way you want it to be, it’s supposed to chip away of. The final analogy I use, it’s really beautiful, is there’s this giant, giant piece of marble. Six feet high and three feet wide, and it’s just marble rough.
They just cut it out of the quarry and there it is. And you’re that marble and all of a sudden something happens. Ow. And I, somebody, something happened on this corner. Ow, somebody’s hitting you. Stop it. Stop it. It feels terrible. Stop it. And it keeps happening. And eventually you look and there’s David’s arm.
Carved outta the marble. That’s Michelangelo carving you into something really beautiful. That’s what God does. That’s what your growth is. Do you understand that like.
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