Diana Hill, PhD: How to Discover Your Deepest Motivation

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October 21, 2025

Diana Hill, PhD: How to Discover Your Deepest Motivation

Diana Hill PhD October 21, 2025

Learn how to move beyond trivial, distracting goals and tap into your hidden (and most fulfilling) motivations and latent “genius gifts,” with clinical psychologist Diana Hill’s research-backed “Wise Effort Method.”

Have you ever felt on a gut level that you’ve been distracting yourself with “surface-level” goals—rather than being passionately pulled toward what truly fulfills you? In this episode of Insights At The Edge, Tami Simon joins Diana Hill, PhD, a leading psychologist and the author of Wise Effort. With them, you’ll learn and practice some of Diana’s most effective, research-backed exercises for discovering your heart’s deepest hidden motivations—and your overlooked “genius gifts” for empowering those desires.

Don’t miss this exceptionally practice-rich episode to explore:

  • The difference between surface goals and deep motivation.
  • “Deep Motivation” – Why willpower and discipline never win long-term, and how to let your true North Star values pull you passionately into your days.
  • 3 questions for getting unstuck from unhealthy relationships, work situations, and addictive behaviors.
  • How to identify your “genius qualities” (yes, you have plenty of them!)
  • An incredibly effective one-minute exercise: “To reveal your deepest values, just follow your pain.”
  • “Choice Points” – Tuning in to the daily crucial moments where our values and actions accrue a life of either joy or regret.
  • How to gain “psychological flexibility,” the one science-backed strength crucial to positive emotional wellness, and more.

Intrigued? Tune in now!

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Listeners of Insights At The Edge get 10% off their first month at www.betterhelp.com/soundstrue.

Note: This interview originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

Diana Hill, PhD, is a clinical psychologist and speaker helping people direct their energy toward what matters most. Through her Wise Effort programs and podcast, she helps people play big in their careers, health, and relationships. Her books include I Know I Should Exercise, But…The Self-Compassion Daily Journal, and ACT Daily Journal. NPR, the Wall Street Journal, and Mindful magazine have featured her work. She resides in Santa Barbara, California. For more, visit drdianahill.com.

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Diana Hill, PhD: How to Discover Your Deepest Motivati...

Learn how to move beyond trivial, distracting goals and tap into your hidden (and most fulfilling) motivations and latent “genius gifts,” with clinical psychologist Diana Hill’s research-backed “Wise Effort Method.”

Have you ever felt on a gut level that you’ve been distracting yourself with “surface-level” goals—rather than being passionately pulled toward what truly fulfills you? In this episode of Insights At The Edge, Tami Simon joins Diana Hill, PhD, a leading psychologist and the author of Wise Effort. With them, you’ll learn and practice some of Diana’s most effective, research-backed exercises for discovering your heart’s deepest hidden motivations—and your overlooked “genius gifts” for empowering those desires.

Don’t miss this exceptionally practice-rich episode to explore:

  • The difference between surface goals and deep motivation.
  • “Deep Motivation” – Why willpower and discipline never win long-term, and how to let your true North Star values pull you passionately into your days.
  • 3 questions for getting unstuck from unhealthy relationships, work situations, and addictive behaviors.
  • How to identify your “genius qualities” (yes, you have plenty of them!)
  • An incredibly effective one-minute exercise: “To reveal your deepest values, just follow your pain.”
  • “Choice Points” – Tuning in to the daily crucial moments where our values and actions accrue a life of either joy or regret.
  • How to gain “psychological flexibility,” the one science-backed strength crucial to positive emotional wellness, and more.

Intrigued? Tune in now!

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Listeners of Insights At The Edge get 10% off their first month at www.betterhelp.com/soundstrue.

Note: This interview originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

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