Judith Orloff: Emotional Freedom

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July 29, 2009

Judith Orloff: Emotional Freedom

Judith Orloff July 29, 2009

Tami Simon speaks with Dr. Judith Orloff, an assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and a board-certified psychiatrist who blends traditional medical skills with her knowledge of intuition, energy, and spirituality into a complementary approach. She is the author of several books including the New York Times bestseller Emotional Freedom as well as the Sounds True audio learning program Becoming an Intuitive Healer. In this interview, Dr. Orloff discusses the emerging field of energy psychiatry and how to work with our emotions. (49 minutes)

Judith Orloff, MD, is a leading voice in the fields of medicine, psychiatry, empathy, and intuitive development. A member of the UCLA Psychiatric Clinical Staff, her bestselling books include The Empath’s Survival Guide, Thriving as an EmpathEmotional Freedom, Positive Energy, Dr. Judith Orloff’s Guide to Intuitive Healing, Second Sight, and The Genius of Empathy. She specializes in treating empaths and sensitive people in her private practice. Find more inspiration at Dr. Orloff’s website, drjudithorloff.com.

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Judith Orloff: The Healing Power of Empathy

When we think about those special traits or abilities we consider to be “superpowers,” empathy isn’t usually the first thing that comes to mind. In fact, empathy is often seen as a weakness, not a strength. Through her bestselling books and her work training new psychiatrists, Dr. Judith Orloff is helping to change the narrative around empathy. In this podcast, Tami Simon speaks with Dr. Orloff about her new book, The Genius of Empathy, and how we can each begin to cultivate an empathic style that supports a thriving life. 

Tune in now for their conversation on how empathy opens the heart and fosters healing, the beauty of self-empathy and how it differs from self-compassion, empathy overwhelm, the four styles of empathy and how to identify your own, boundary-setting tools for empaths, the empathy spectrum, empathy deficiency disorders, trauma and empathy, letting go of resentment and helping it let go of you, empathic attunement, the practice of shielding, transmitting empathic love to people and places in need, observing without absorbing, and more.

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Embracing Empathy as Your Superpower

What do I do when a loved one is suffering? How do I have empathy if I’m getting a divorce or losing my job? If my family treats me unfairly? Or if I’m emotionally overwhelmed or in chronic pain?

If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, I’ve written The Genius of Empathy for you. It also includes a beautiful foreword by His Holiness the Dalai Lama.

In the book, I present empathy as a healing force that helps you overcome obstacles in your life with dignity, grace, and power. As a psychiatrist and empath, I draw from my insights and present techniques from my own life and from the healing journeys of my clients, students, and readers. As I say in the book, “Empathy softens the struggle, quiets the unkind voices, and lets you befriend yourself again.”

Empathy doesn’t mean being “on call” 24 hours a day for those in need. Empaths can often wear an invisible sign that says, “I can help you.” However, if you want to heal yourself, have better relationships, and contribute to healing our tumultuous world, you must learn how to set healthy boundaries and observe, not absorb, the energy of others.

To start taking a more proactive role in how much empathy you give others at any one time, I suggest that you keep in mind the following “rights.” They will help you maintain a healthy mindset and prevent or lessen any empathy overwhelm that might arise:

  • I have the right to say a loving, positive “no” or “no, thank-you.”
  • I have the right to set limits with how long I listen to people’s problems.
  • I have the right to rest and not be always available to everyone.
  • I have the right to quiet peacefulness in my home and in my heart.

Practice: Take a Sound Break to Repair Yourself

Plan periods of quiet to recover from our noisy, fast-paced world. This helps calm your nervous system and your mind, an act of self-empathy.

It’s rejuvenating to schedule at least five minutes of quiet or, even better, complete silence for an hour or more where no one can intrude. As I do, hang a Do Not Disturb sign on your office or bedroom door. During this reset period, you’ve officially escaped from the world. You’re free of demands and noxious sounds. You may also get noise canceling earbuds to block out noise.

If too much quiet is unsettling, go for a walk in a local park or a peaceful neighborhood to decompress from excessive sound stimulation. Simply focus on putting one foot in front of the other, which is called mindful walking. Nothing to do. Nothing to be. Move slowly and refrain from talking. If thoughts come, keep refocusing on your breath, each inhalation and exhalation. Just letting life settle will regenerate your body and empathic heart.

Embracing your empathy does require courage. It can feel scary. If you’re ready to discover its healing power, I would be honored to be your guide to helping you in overcoming your fears and obstacles, and enhancing this essential skill for long-term change.

Though many of us have never met, I feel connected to you. Connection is what fuels life. While empathy is what allows you to find peace. With both, we can make sense of this world together.

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5 Ways to Combat Energy Vampires This Holiday Season

For empaths and sensitive people, the holidays can be extra stressful because they are exposed to more socializing and holiday events. This means interacting with relatives, friends or acquaintances who may be energy vampires. Since empaths are emotional sponges, they tend to absorb other people’s negative energy unless they have a plan to approach the holiday season. Here are some tips from my book: Thriving as an Empath: 365 Days of Self-Care for Sensitive People.

Identify the energy vampires in your life

In your journal, write down the name of five energy vampires in your life that you may encounter over the holiday season. Then, write down what type of energy vampire they are so you know exactly how they drain your energy. For instance, The Criticizer: For instance they might say, “Oh dear, it looks like you’ve put on a few pounds!.” Or the Drama Queen, Controller, Narcissist or Passive Aggressive.

Journal about strategies to use

It’s important to pre-plan the strategies you use with these people. Write these in your journal. For instance, if you’re going to encounter a drama queen/king, tell yourself “I will not ask them how they are doing or look deeply into their eyes to encourage long stories. I will not feed into the drama queen/kings antics.” Map out your strategies so you are prepared.

Set clear boundaries

Boundaries are essential for all empaths and sensitive people to learn. Because we wear invisible signs around our necks saying “I can help you”, people flock from far and wide to tell us their life stories. Thus, it is important to set boundaries with energy vampires, and limit the time you interact with them. If necessary, escape into the bathroom for some quiet time.

No is a complete sentence

When dealing with energy vampires, such as rageaholics, it is important to learn how to say “no” to someone dumping anger on you. As an empath, anger feels toxic to me so I don’t allow it in my vicinity. If you’re going to encounter an angry person who tends to dump, be prepared to say “no” to them and politely excuse yourself to talk to someone else.

Notice your emotional triggers

We tend to be drained if our own unresolved issues are activated. So, it is healthy to examine your emotional triggers so you can’t be drained by people pushing your buttons. For instance, are you triggered by sadness, depression or anxiety? Or when someone tries to control you? Identify your triggers and begin to heal them in your private meditations or with a guide. This self-healing will help you be a more empowered empath!

Judith OrloffJudith Orloff, MD, is a leading voice in the fields of medicine, psychiatry, and intuitive development. An assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA, her bestselling books include Emotional Freedom, Positive Energy, Dr. Judith Orloff’s Guide to Intuitive Healing, and Second Sight. Find more inspiration at Dr. Orloff’s website drjudithorloff.com.

 

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Healing Trauma and Building A Resilient Life

Trauma has a way of leaving a mark by quietly shaping how we move through the world, touch joy, and weather pain. For many, it takes the form of upheaval that knocks the ground out from beneath us, or a subtle ache that lingers long after others have moved on. The journey of healing from trauma can feel overwhelming and, at times, incredibly lonely. Yet there is wisdom in remembering you are not alone.

At Sounds True, we’ve made it our mission to share spiritual teachings that illuminate the path from suffering toward wholeness. We believe in meeting pain with heart, honesty, and compassion, leaning into difficult truths while holding fast to hope and inner strength. In this exploration of how to overcome trauma, we’ll draw from timeless spiritual insights and modern approaches, honoring the resilience within each of us.

Key Takeaways:

  • Trauma’s Lasting Imprint on Body, Mind, and Spirit: Trauma shows up in physical tension, mental patterns, and spiritual disconnection. Recognizing these imprints is the first step toward healing from trauma.
  • Knowing When and Where to Seek Support: Signs like overwhelm, persistent flashbacks, or deep isolation reveal when extra care is needed. True companions in trauma recovery offer empathy, patience, consistency, and safety. A solid support network may include trusted friends who respect boundaries, family members who listen compassionately.
  • Mindfulness, Movement, and Somatic Routines That Restore Balance: Gentle practices, breathwork, mindful meditation, and somatic approaches help calm the nervous system and guide you in overcoming traumatic experiences with grounded resilience.

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How Trauma Shapes the Body, Mind, and Spirit

Trauma often plants itself deep within us, sending ripples that touch our bodies, thoughts, and sense of meaning. These echoes can become roadblocks that make achieving goals feel daunting and growth seem out of reach. By exploring how trauma affects the body, mind, and spirit, we begin to see why healing from trauma requires patience, compassion, and an integrated approach.

The Body Remembers

Trauma can take root in the body, sparking fight, flight, or freeze responses long after the original event has passed. A racing heart, clenched jaw, or tense shoulders may surface without warning. Fatigue, headaches, and restlessness are also common, as they are physical reminders of the story the body still carries. These signals are not signs of weakness; they are the nervous system’s way of seeking safety. Over time, unaddressed patterns can weigh heavily, making everyday tasks or long-term goals feel nearly impossible.

The Mind Holds the Story

As for the mind, trauma often reshapes the way we see ourselves and the world. Hypervigilance can keep us braced for danger even in safe spaces. At other times, numbness may settle in, leaving us cut off from our feelings. Thoughts can spiral into shame, self-blame, or confusion. These mental loops act like barriers, clouding focus and blocking progress toward the life we long to create. Healing begins when we notice these patterns with curiosity, kindness, and a willingness to practice trauma recovery step by step.

The Spirit Feels the Weight

Trauma can also dim the spirit, shaking our sense of meaning and belonging. Disconnection may show up as a loss of trust in life, difficulty accessing hope, or a lingering feeling of isolation. Spiritual wounds often leave us adrift, as though the light within has gone out. Yet within this pain lies the possibility of rediscovery. By tending to the spirit, we create space for renewal, resilience, and a deeper connection to purpose.

Types of Trauma and Where They Stem From

Trauma does not take a single form, but rather it arises from many experiences, each carrying its own weight and ripple effects. Here are some types of trauma and where they originate from:

  • Acute trauma: A single event such as an accident, natural disaster, or sudden loss.
  • Chronic trauma: Repeated exposure to distressing experiences like ongoing abuse or neglect.
  • Complex trauma: Multiple, layered experiences that compound over time, often in early life.
  • Generational trauma: Pain and patterns carried through families and communities across generations.
  • Secondary or vicarious trauma: Emotional residue absorbed from witnessing or supporting others in their suffering.

Signs You Might Need Extra Support

Sometimes, despite our best intentions, the journey through trauma leaves us feeling isolated and overwhelmed. Healing is rarely linear, and even the most steadfast hearts sometimes need a guide or a helping hand. But how do you know when to reach outside yourself for extra support? Here are some signs that reaching for extra trauma recovery support may be helpful:

  • Daily life feels unmanageable: Struggling with eating, sleeping, or maintaining routines can signal that your system is carrying more than it can process alone.
  • Emotions feel unrelenting: Persistent sadness, anxiety, sudden waves of anger, or a lingering sense of numbness may point to unresolved pain seeking acknowledgment.
  • Flashbacks and intrusive memories appear: Past experiences may surface vividly, interrupting present-moment focus and draining emotional energy.
  • Hopelessness takes hold: A growing belief that life cannot change or that joy feels out of reach often indicates the need for compassionate guidance.
  • Trust feels fragile: Difficulty relying on loved ones or believing others have your best interest at heart can deepen feelings of isolation.
  • Unhealthy coping becomes a default: Turning to excessive screen time, substance use, or withdrawal from relationships may bring temporary relief but create long-term barriers to growth.
  • Connection feels impossible: Even when surrounded by friends or family, a sense of disconnection or shrinking inner world can leave you feeling unseen.

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Mindfulness and Meditation to Soothe the Nervous System

When life’s turbulence shakes us, our nervous system can linger in a state of high alert. After trauma, the body remembers. We might feel jumpy, restless, or stuck in spirals of anxiety. This is where mindfulness and meditation offer a gentle refuge. By returning to the present, these practices help soothe the nervous system and create space for resilience.

Returning to Presence Through Mindfulness

Mindfulness is the practice of noticing what is happening here and now without judgment. Instead of forcing the mind to be quiet, mindfulness welcomes each breath, sensation, or thought with gentle awareness. A simple practice might include observing the rise and fall of the breath, or listening to surrounding sounds as they come and go. These small acts of presence remind the nervous system that safety exists in the present moment, easing the grip of fear and helping the body relax.

Meditation as Daily Restoration

Meditation builds on mindfulness by offering structure and repetition. Daily rituals—whether focusing on the breath, practicing loving-kindness, or walking with intention in nature—send steady messages of calm to the body and mind. Even five minutes of stillness can tell the nervous system, “You are safe now.” Over weeks and months, this repeated reassurance creates new patterns of ease and resilience, contributing to the long process of healing from trauma.

Practical Strategies for Soothing the Nervous System

Trauma can make stillness feel impossible at times. On those days, gentle practices help create accessible entry points into mindfulness:

  • Grounding through breathwork: Slow, steady inhales and longer exhales remind the body that calm is available.
  • Body scans: Bringing attention to each area of the body, from toes to crown, allows hidden tension to surface and soften.
  • Loving-kindness meditation: Repeating compassionate phrases toward yourself and others can gradually replace self-criticism with warmth.
  • Mindful movement: Walking slowly, practicing yoga, or simply stretching with awareness anchors presence in physical sensation.
  • Sensory focus: Engaging with sights, sounds, or textures in the environment creates steady anchors in the present moment.

Building a Compassionate Support Network

The path of healing from trauma often feels heavy, yet connection can ease the weight. A compassionate support network provides steady encouragement, safe presence, and spaces where your voice is honored. These relationships help you take steps forward in trauma recovery, reminding you that resilience grows through shared care.

Who Can Be Part of a Compassionate Support Network

The work of healing from trauma often grows stronger in the presence of safe and caring relationships. For example, friends who listen without judgment, family members who honor your boundaries, and mentors who embody guidance can all help restore a sense of belonging. In these connections, you find people who hold space for your story rather than rushing to fix it.

During trauma recovery, collective spaces such as support groups or spiritual communities can also serve as anchors. Shared rituals, honest conversations, and circles of empathy create reminders that you are not walking the path alone. Professional guidance from therapists and counselors adds another layer of care, bringing compassionate expertise and tools that help you process pain in fruitful ways.

When Compassion Is Missing from Relationships

On the journey of healing from trauma, recognizing who can walk beside you is as vital as noticing who cannot. While many people bring kindness, patience, and steadiness, some may unintentionally add weight to your healing. Some dismiss or minimize your experiences, leaving you feeling unheard. Others pressure you to “move on” before you are ready, or turn the focus back to themselves rather than honoring your story. These dynamics often carry judgment, criticism, or a disregard for the boundaries you need to feel safe.

During trauma recovery, awareness of these patterns matters. By noticing which relationships drain rather than restore, you protect your energy and open more space for trust and resilience. The process of overcoming traumatic experiences involves surrounding yourself with people who create safety rather than erode it, who offer presence instead of pressure, and who remind you through their actions that your healing is worthy of time.

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Somatic Approaches That Help Release Stress and Trauma

The body often carries what words cannot express. Tight shoulders, a clenched jaw, or an unsettled chest remind us that trauma leaves traces in our physical form as well as in memory. Somatic practices recognize this truth by inviting the body into the process of healing from trauma. Through gentle attention, movement, and breath, the nervous system can rediscover balance, offering a grounded path forward in trauma recovery.

Everyday Somatic Practices That Restore Balance

Somatic approaches bridge the mind and body through awareness of sensation. Simple routines such as body scanning, slow yoga, or tai chi invite you to notice where tension resides and allow it to soften. Breathwork, with its steady rhythm of inhaling and exhaling, anchors presence and quiets lingering agitation.

Even small gestures like placing a hand over your heart or humming softly can serve as reminders that calm is within reach. Over time, these rituals shift the body from storing pain toward cultivating safety and resilience, helping you continue overcoming traumatic experiences with steadier ground beneath you.

Learning Somatic Wisdom Through Sounds True

For those ready to explore these practices in greater depth, Sounds True offers a wealth of teachings through audiobooks and courses. These resources feature teachers who guide you in somatic routines designed to reconnect body and mind.

From step-by-step instruction in breathwork to explorations of mindful movement, the catalog brings both accessible practices and deeper study into your daily life. With consistent practice, these teachings open the door to a body that feels less like a container for stress and more like a sanctuary for healing. In this way, Sounds True extends compassionate tools for your journey of trauma recovery.

Final Thoughts

Overcoming trauma shouldn’t be about erasing the past or pretending pain never touched your life. Instead, this journey should be about learning to hold your story with tenderness and watching as spirit slowly reshapes wounds into strength. At Sounds True, we have witnessed again and again how resilience rises when pain is met with kindness, curiosity, and courage.

You are never meant to walk this road alone. Wisdom flows from spiritual teachers, trusted friends, and guides who create spaces of safety. With these companions beside you, the process of overcoming traumatic experiences becomes less about carrying a burden and more about uncovering a wellspring of resilience. In this unfolding, a life that feels grounded, heart-led, and true begins to take form.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Overcoming Trauma

What are the common symptoms of trauma?

Trauma can show up in countless ways, both visible and invisible. You might notice flashbacks, nightmares, or trouble sleeping. Some people feel anxious or on edge, avoiding reminders of what happened, or having frequent mood swings. Others experience physical symptoms like unexplained aches, a racing heart, or stomach distress. Remember, every response is valid, and trauma shapes us all differently.

What is PTSD, and how is it related to trauma?

PTSD, or post-traumatic stress disorder, is a specific diagnosis that can develop after a traumatic event. It’s marked by symptoms like re-experiencing the trauma, intense emotional distress, hypervigilance, and avoidance of triggers. While not everyone who experiences trauma will get PTSD, the two are intimately connected. PTSD offers a clinical lens, but any struggle after trauma is worth honoring and addressing.

Are there self-help strategies for overcoming trauma?

Absolutely. Healing starts with small, gentle steps. Mindful breathing, grounding exercises, movement, and connecting with supportive people can all help. Journaling, spending time in nature, or practicing self-compassion are other powerful tools. You don’t have to climb the mountain in one day. Small acts of self-care can make a transformative difference over time.

What types of therapy are effective for trauma?

Several therapies have been shown to support trauma recovery. Approaches like somatic experiencing, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), trauma-informed cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) can all be effective. Sometimes, simply being in the presence of a compassionate, skilled therapist. no matter the modality, makes the most impact.

What role does mindfulness play in healing trauma?

Mindfulness gently invites us back into our bodies, one breath at a time. It helps us notice our feelings and sensations with curiosity instead of judgment. Practices like meditation, mindful movement, or even mindful walking can foster safety and presence, making space for healing to unfold gradually and organically.

Can medication help with trauma recovery?

For some, medication can offer relief, especially when symptoms like anxiety or depression feel overbearing. While medication isn’t a cure, it can be a valuable companion alongside therapy and self-care, helping to regulate your nervous system while you rebuild inner strength. Always consult with a caring, qualified provider to explore what’s right for you.

Is it normal to feel numb or disconnected after trauma?

Of course. Feeling numb, detached, or even like you’re outside your own body is a common trauma response. Your mind and body are trying to protect you from pain. Over time, and with the right support, these feelings can soften. Be gentle with yourself; numbness often signals that you’re surviving the best way you know how.

What are healthy ways to express emotions related to trauma?

Validation is the first step, and letting yourself feel whatever arises is brave work. Creative outlets like art, music, or movement can help give shape to complex emotions. Talking with trusted friends, therapists, or support groups can bring connection and relief. Most importantly, honor your own pace, as there’s no right or wrong way to express what you carry.

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