Gabor Maté: The Roots of Healing

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March 21, 2017

Gabor Maté: The Roots of Healing

Gabor Maté March 21, 2017

Dr. Gabor Maté is an author, speaker, and physician who specializes in addiction, stress, and childhood development. His many books include In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts and When the Body Says No. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon speaks with Dr. Maté about his views on modern mental health evaluation—specifically the widespread diagnoses of ADHD and depression. They discuss the connection between emotional expression and immune response, as well as how the body can be an effective teacher. Finally, Dr. Maté comments on how mental health issues can often be rooted in compensating behaviors from childhood and how healing can be approached from a bio-psycho-social perspective. (68 minutes)

Dr. Gabor Maté is an author, speaker, and physician who specializes in addiction, stress, and childhood development. His many books include In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts and When the Body Says No. His signature psychotherapeutic approach, Compassionate Inquiry, reveals what lies beneath the appearance we present to the world.

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Gabor Maté: The Roots of Healing

Dr. Gabor Maté is an author, speaker, and physician who specializes in addiction, stress, and childhood development. His many books include In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts and When the Body Says No. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon speaks with Dr. Maté about his views on modern mental health evaluation—specifically the widespread diagnoses of ADHD and depression. They discuss the connection between emotional expression and immune response, as well as how the body can be an effective teacher. Finally, Dr. Maté comments on how mental health issues can often be rooted in compensating behaviors from childhood and how healing can be approached from a bio-psycho-social perspective. (68 minutes)

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What Is Brainspotting?

Brainspotting is designed to help people access and process unresolved trauma through focused attention on specific eye positions. The method rests on the idea that where a person looks can correspond to where difficult experiences are stored in the brain and body. Staying with a brainspot while remaining aware of physical sensations and emotions, people can work through material that language alone might not reach.

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David Grand and the Development of Brainspotting Therapy

Brainspotting therapy came out of a significant clinical observation. During trauma treatment, David Grand noticed that a client’s eye position seemed to shift when deeper emotional material surfaced. That moment became the foundation for a method built around the brain’s own capacity to process and release what it has long held in place.

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Trauma therapy eye position describes the relationship between where someone directs their gaze and what emotional or physical experiences become accessible as a result. During a session, a therapist guides the client to a specific visual point and invites them to notice what arises in the body as they hold that focus. Sensations, emotions, and memories can surface as the nervous system begins to process material it has held in place for years.

The body carries what the mind sometimes can’t articulate. A shift in eye position can open access to experiences held below conscious awareness, gently creating conditions for the nervous system to complete what was once interrupted. Healing, in this way, becomes a process the whole person takes part in, not just the thinking mind.

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How the Brainspotting Technique Uses Eye Position to Access Trauma

The brainspotting technique begins with identifying an eye position linked to an emotional or physical response. From there, the therapist invites the client to rest their attention on that visual point while remaining aware of what arises in the body. The process creates space for the nervous system to do what it naturally knows how to do, without demanding that memories surface on command.

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Frequently Asked Questions About Brainspotting

Is brainspotting backed by research?

Brainspotting is supported by a growing body of clinical research and case studies. While research continues to evolve, many mental health professionals use it as part of trauma-informed care for emotional and psychological concerns.

Who can benefit from brainspotting?

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Do I have to talk about my trauma during brainspotting?

Not necessarily. While some people choose to discuss their experiences, brainspotting can also focus on physical sensations and emotions, allowing processing without requiring detailed verbal storytelling.

Can brainspotting be combined with other therapies?

Yes. Many therapists integrate brainspotting with other evidence-based approaches, such as cognitive behavioral therapy, mindfulness practices, or somatic therapies, to create a personalized treatment plan.

Is brainspotting only used for trauma?

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What should I expect after a brainspotting session?

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The Neuroscience of Change: What the Brain Actually Needs

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Final Thoughts

Lasting change is rarely the result of stronger willpower alone. The neuroscience of change shows that transformation happens when we work with the brain’s natural capacity to learn, adapt, and form new patterns. By understanding habit formation, embracing neuroplasticity, and applying insights from behavior change science, we can create sustainable shifts that support growth. 

Frequently Asked Questions About Why Willpower Fails and What the Brain Needs to Change

What is the difference between willpower and self-regulation?

Willpower is the ability to resist immediate impulses, while self-regulation involves managing thoughts, emotions, and actions. Self-regulation relies on a broader set of skills and strategies than willpower alone. 

Can stress affect the brain’s ability to change?

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How long does it take for the brain to adapt to a new behavior?

There is no universal timeline. The process varies depending on the complexity of the behavior, the frequency of practice, and individual circumstances.

Does age limit the brain’s ability to change?

No. Although learning may occur differently across stages of life, the brain remains capable of adapting and creating new neural connections throughout adulthood.

Why do old habits sometimes return after making progress?

Old neural pathways do not disappear completely. During periods of stress, fatigue, or major life changes, the brain may default to familiar patterns that previously felt rewarding or safe.

Can mindfulness improve behavior change efforts?

Mindfulness can increase awareness of thoughts, emotions, and automatic reactions. This awareness creates space to make intentional choices instead of acting on habit alone.

What role do emotions play in behavior change?

Emotions influence attention, motivation, and memory. Behaviors connected to meaningful emotional experiences are often easier for the brain to remember and repeat.

How does sleep influence the neuroscience of change?

Sleep supports learning, memory consolidation, and brain recovery. Consistent sleep can strengthen the brain’s ability to retain new information and reinforce behavioral changes.

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