Whatever Arises, Love That, Part 2

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February 17, 2016

Whatever Arises, Love That, Part 2

Matt Kahn February 17, 2016

Matt Kahn is an author, spiritual teacher, and highly attuned empathic healer whose intuitive abilities allow him to bridge the mystical with the mundane. With Sounds True, Matt has created the book Whatever Arises, Love That: A Love Revolution That Begins with You and an upcoming online course of the same name. In the second part of their conversation on Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon and Matt talk about the connection between a sense of safety and the ability to truly live one’s life to its fullest. They also discuss the four kinds of inflammation the ego can experience when overstimulated, and how to work with these energetic reactions. Finally, Tami and Matt speak frankly about what he means by “the love revolution” and how the practice of loving oneself can uplift the entirety of the world.
(65 minutes)

Matt Kahn is a spiritual teacher, highly attuned intuitive healer, speaker, and captivating author. He enriches people’s lives by providing heart-centered solutions that ignite, delight, and unite! Matt wrote the highly acclaimed books Whatever Arises, Love That; Everything Is Here to Help You; and The Universe Always Has a Plan, which have been translated into more than a dozen languages. His newest book is All for Love: The Transformative Power of Holding Space.

Matt is a YouTube sensation with his healing and often humorous videos. 20+ million YouTube channel viewers are finding relief from the challenges of daily life through his heart-centered messages. Matt was named one of the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People by Watkins Mind Body Spirit magazine, alongside the Dalai Lama and Eckhart Tolle. When the world gets crazy, help is here.

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The Art of Holding Space

Matt Kahn is a spiritual teacher and highly attuned empathic healer who has become a YouTube sensation with his healing and often humorous videos. More than 20 million YouTube channel viewers are finding comfort, inspiration, and relief from the challenges of daily life through his intuitive updates and helpful, uplifting, heart-centered messages. Matt is the author of the books Whatever Arises, Love That: A Love Revolution That Begins with You, Everything Is Here to Help You: Finding the Gift in Life’s Greatest Challenges, The Universe Always Has a Plan: The 10 Golden Rules of Letting Go, and most recently, All for Love: The Transformative Power of Holding Space

In this podcast, Sounds True’s founder, Tami Simon, speaks with Matt Kahn about his new book and how it emerged as part of his own journey of healing and integration. Tami and Matt discuss heart-centered consciousness and “how truth moves,” the healing work of processing our past, how we are at once human and divine beings, gratitude for all of our experiences, speaking from a place of wholeness, the power of mercy, validating our own feelings, dialoguing with our fear, the practice of dynamic listening, a challenge for “advice-givers,” the difference between holding space and spacing out, and more.

Whatever Arises, Love That

The holiday season is a chance to offer gifts and goodwill as symbols of gratitude to those we love. Whether enjoying warm meals with family, watching marathons of classic movies that remind us of a more innocent time, or feeling the winter magic that allows us to be more open, generous, and kind to others, the holidays somehow make life a more precious gift to receive.

What if the magic wasn’t reserved just for the holiday season, but could be celebrated within you in every moment?

What if the perfect gift, which was created just for you, is to awaken the unconditional love that always resides within your heart? What if this holiday season became an opportunity to explore the joy of emotional freedom in the most profound and heart-centered way?

While so many yearn for the grace of unconditional love, many tend to be confused, overwhelmed, or frustrated at not knowing how to open up to it. This is why I wrote Whatever Arises, Love That.

This book has been described as “an owner’s manual for a new spiritual paradigm.” It acts as a wise and loving companion throughout the uncertainties of an ever-changing world.

Now available as an unabridged audiobook, Whatever Arises, Love That is a powerful catalyst of healing for all stages of spiritual evolution.

This holiday season has a new soundtrack, reminding us that no matter what arises in life, “You deserve more love, not less.”
Many blessings always,

Matt Kahn

Whatever Arises, Love That, Part 2

Matt Kahn is an author, spiritual teacher, and highly attuned empathic healer whose intuitive abilities allow him to bridge the mystical with the mundane. With Sounds True, Matt has created the book Whatever Arises, Love That: A Love Revolution That Begins with You and an upcoming online course of the same name. In the second part of their conversation on Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon and Matt talk about the connection between a sense of safety and the ability to truly live one’s life to its fullest. They also discuss the four kinds of inflammation the ego can experience when overstimulated, and how to work with these energetic reactions. Finally, Tami and Matt speak frankly about what he means by “the love revolution” and how the practice of loving oneself can uplift the entirety of the world.
(65 minutes)

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What is Matthew Fox best known for?

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Why did Matthew Fox write about original blessing?

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Is original blessing a religious belief?

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How does creation spirituality relate to environmental care?

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What can readers gain from Matthew Fox’s teachings?

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Sharon Salzberg on Real Happiness and the Myth of Permanent Happiness

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Sharon Salzberg says that expecting permanent happiness often creates unnecessary suffering. Joy and sorrow naturally come and go, and trying to hold onto pleasant experiences only leads to frustration. Rather than measuring life by how often we feel happy, she encourages developing the inner stability to face every experience with openness and care.

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One of Sharon’s most influential teachings is loving kindness meditation. This practice invites us to cultivate goodwill toward ourselves before extending that same warmth outward to others. Rather than forcing positive emotions, loving kindness meditation strengthens our capacity to respond with patience and compassion, even when life makes that difficult.

Sharon’s Loving-kindness program gets at something essential about why this practice matters. Metta meditation is a way to dissolve the mental barriers that quietly separate us from the people around us, and from ourselves. Through consistent practice, we can release feelings of isolation and awaken real compassion. We free ourselves from cycles of needless suffering while learning to trust the loving, wise heart that lives within each of us. 

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Metta meditation is a structured practice of silently repeating phrases of well-being directed first toward yourself, then extending outward to a close friend, a neutral person, someone with whom you feel friction, and eventually to all beings. The phrases themselves are simple, something like “May you be safe. May you be at peace.” 

Sharon explains that these intentions may seem small at first, yet they reshape how we respond to ourselves and those around us. Rather than waiting for compassion to arise naturally, metta meditation gives us a way to practice it every day. With patience, kindness becomes less of an idea and more of a natural response to life’s changing circumstances.

To see how this works in real life, consider someone navigating tension with a family member after a disagreement. Compassion can feel out of reach in the middle of that kind of friction. A metta practice offers a place to begin, not by pretending the conflict does not exist, but by silently extending well-being first to yourself, acknowledging your own hurt, and then, when ready, to the other person. 

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Building a Loving Kindness Practice for Everyday Life

A loving kindness practice does not require long formal sessions. Even a few quiet moments offering kind wishes can create real shifts in daily life. Sharon encourages beginning where we are, knowing consistency matters far more than perfection:

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  • Extend Kindness Into Your Relationships. Once the practice becomes familiar, extending it outward grows more natural. A few silent phrases during a commute or before a difficult conversation can shift the texture of an ordinary moment. Compassion is not demanded on a timeline. The practice simply sets the conditions for it to arise.
  • Build Consistency With Short, Daily Sessions. Five to ten minutes of metta practice each morning, paired with brief moments of conscious kindness throughout the day, creates more lasting change than occasional longer sessions. 

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Final Thoughts

As Sharon Salzberg shares, real happiness grows through presence, compassion, and a willingness to meet each experience with an open heart. By embracing practices like loving kindness meditation and metta meditation, we can develop greater resilience, deepen our connection with others, and cultivate a more peaceful way of living.

If you would like to continue learning from Sharon and many other respected teachers, visit our All Teachers & Authors page to find teachings that support your own path toward greater presence and compassion.

Frequently Asked Questions About Sharon Salzberg on Real Happiness

What inspired Sharon Salzberg to begin teaching meditation?

Sharon Salzberg’s interest in meditation began during her studies in India, where she encountered Buddhist teachings that shaped her lifelong commitment to mindfulness and compassion.

Why has Sharon Salzberg’s work remained influential for so many years?

Her teachings combine timeless Buddhist wisdom with practical guidance that is accessible, compassionate, and relevant to everyday life, making them meaningful for both new and experienced meditators.

Is loving kindness meditation connected to Buddhism?

Yes. Loving kindness meditation originates from the Buddhist tradition and is based on cultivating unconditional goodwill. Today, it is practiced by people of many backgrounds, regardless of religious belief.

How long should I practice metta meditation each day?

Even five to ten minutes a day can be beneficial. Building a regular habit is generally more effective than practicing for long periods only occasionally.

Can beginners practice loving kindness meditation?

Absolutely. Loving kindness meditation is one of the most approachable meditation practices because it focuses on simple intentions of kindness instead of trying to quiet every thought.

Why do some people find it difficult to offer kindness to themselves?

Many people are accustomed to self-criticism and may initially feel uncomfortable directing compassion inward. Like any skill, self-kindness becomes more natural with consistent practice.

What is the difference between mindfulness meditation and metta meditation?

Mindfulness meditation focuses on observing present-moment experience with awareness, while metta meditation intentionally cultivates feelings of kindness, compassion, and goodwill.

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