Meet the author of . . . P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna

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November 17, 2020

The Author

Sarah Chauncey is the coauthor of P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna along with illustrator, Francis Tremblay, coming October, 2020. She has written and edited for nearly every medium over the past three decades, from print to television to digital. Her writing has been featured on EckhartTolle.com and Modern Loss, as well as in Lion’s Roar and Canadian Living. She lives on Vancouver Island in British Columbia, where she divides her time between writing, editing nonfiction, and walking in nature. Learn more at sarahchauncey.com.

The Book

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Our cats occupy a unique space in our hearts. When they’re gone, the loss can be devastating, the grief profound.

 

P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna gives us an opportunity to give friends, loved ones, or ourselves tangible comfort during the grieving period, when so many of us feel isolated and misunderstood after a beloved pet dies.

 

 

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First Nation, Saysutshun Newcastle Island is an ancient forest and marine provincial park. Saysutshun, I’m told, means “training or preparation ground,” and indeed, for millennia before colonization, the Snuneymuxw brought healers to this small island to train “mentally, physically, and spiritually.” I knew none of this history when I first began walking long stretches of the uninhabited island’s 13.6 miles of trails. I only knew that the island seemed to lift away anything that wasn’t essential, easing my mind and making way for creative ideas to flow. I’d walk a bit, then sit and meditate, write for a while, then walk some more. This bench, under a circle of seven trees, became my favorite writing and meditation spot. The moss-covered trees became my friends, teaching me to stay rooted when things around me change. As I wrote in a 2016 essay about the island, “I have become a literal tree-hugger, and even—when nobody is looking—a tree-kisser.”

What was your favorite book as a child?

harold purple crayon

I was a total bookworm as a child. Instead of playing games at recess, I preferred to curl up under my desk and read. Of all the books I read—from every Encyclopedia Brown to Freaky Friday to The Short Stories of Ernest Hemingway (I was a precocious kid), the book with the most enduring impact was also the simplest: Harold and the Purple Crayon. I was enchanted by Harold’s adventures, amazed by his ability to draw his way out of every obstacle and ultimately find his way home. Long before I began seeing this as a metaphor for creativity (and life!), this story appealed to me. Fifty years later, I continue to find new layers of meaning in this little book. It’s a simple yet profound testament to the power of imagination and creativity.

What is one unexpected thing or habit that inspires your writing practice?

sarah chauncey forest new castle

Walking in nature is my creative “secret sauce” and the central practice to my writing. Several years ago, I realized that although my role in this world is as a writer, my job is to bring myself back into presence, over and over, to get into a place where words can flow through me. I walk to get out of my mind and into my body. I come into fierce presence by noticing the rain on my face, salal berries ripening into deep blue, or the texture of earth beneath my feet. When my body is occupied by walking, ideas bubble up from my subconscious. Whether I’m looking for ways to trim an over-long essay or searching for words to evoke a hard-to-articulate experience, as soon as my legs find their rhythm, ideas begin to flow.

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Sarah Chauncey

Sarah Chauncey has written and edited for nearly every medium over the past three decades, from print to television to digital. Her writing has been featured on EckhartTolle.com and Modern Loss, as well as in Lion's Roar and Canadian Living. She lives on Vancouver Island in British Columbia, where she divides her time between writing, editing nonfiction, and walking in nature. Learn more at sarahchauncey.com.

Author photo ©Tony Puerzer: Bright Idea Photography

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However you need to grieve, that’s the right way for...

Grieving a cat—or any kind of grief—is not a one-size-fits-all experience (as though any experience or emotion were?). Some people can’t stop sobbing, while others reflect quietly. Some are comforted by hugs and rituals; others need solitude to process their loss.

There’s no “right” way to grieve, and there’s no “right” length of time. In fact, I don’t see a loss as something we “get over,” but rather something that becomes a part of our life experience. When our skin is gravely injured, it doesn’t go back to looking the way it did before; it heals, and we have a scar. 

Loss changes the fabric of our lives; it changes the way we perceive and interact with the world. And like a scar, walking through grief (not trying to circumvent it) makes something in us stronger, more resilient. Grief is something to be healed, not to transcend.

Grief is nonlinear, too. Our human minds would love to make grief into a process that has a distinct beginning, middle and end…but in my experience, that’s just not true. Grief, like life, is messy and unpredictable. As Jon Kabat-Zinn writes, “You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf.”

We all grieve, and for each of us, our grief is as unique as a fingerprint. If we try to avoid grief, it will redouble its strength and burst forth anyway. However you need to grieve, that’s the right way for you.

An original post by Sarah Chancey, the author of P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna, the first gift book for people grieving the loss of their feline friend. This originally appeared on morethantuna.com.

sarah chaunceySarah Chauncey has written and edited for nearly every medium over the past three decades, from print to television to digital. Her writing has been featured on EckhartTolle.com and Modern Loss, as well as in Lion’s Roar and Canadian Living. She lives on Vancouver Island in British Columbia, where she divides her time between writing, editing nonfiction, and walking in nature. Learn more at morethantuna.com and sarahchauncey.com.

 

 

 

 

 

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Meet the author of . . . P.S. I Love You More Than Tun...

The Author

Sarah Chauncey is the coauthor of P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna along with illustrator, Francis Tremblay, coming October, 2020. She has written and edited for nearly every medium over the past three decades, from print to television to digital. Her writing has been featured on EckhartTolle.com and Modern Loss, as well as in Lion’s Roar and Canadian Living. She lives on Vancouver Island in British Columbia, where she divides her time between writing, editing nonfiction, and walking in nature. Learn more at sarahchauncey.com.

The Book

Book cover

Our cats occupy a unique space in our hearts. When they’re gone, the loss can be devastating, the grief profound.

 

P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna gives us an opportunity to give friends, loved ones, or ourselves tangible comfort during the grieving period, when so many of us feel isolated and misunderstood after a beloved pet dies.

 

 

Send us a photo of your sacred space.

sacred space

First Nation, Saysutshun Newcastle Island is an ancient forest and marine provincial park. Saysutshun, I’m told, means “training or preparation ground,” and indeed, for millennia before colonization, the Snuneymuxw brought healers to this small island to train “mentally, physically, and spiritually.” I knew none of this history when I first began walking long stretches of the uninhabited island’s 13.6 miles of trails. I only knew that the island seemed to lift away anything that wasn’t essential, easing my mind and making way for creative ideas to flow. I’d walk a bit, then sit and meditate, write for a while, then walk some more. This bench, under a circle of seven trees, became my favorite writing and meditation spot. The moss-covered trees became my friends, teaching me to stay rooted when things around me change. As I wrote in a 2016 essay about the island, “I have become a literal tree-hugger, and even—when nobody is looking—a tree-kisser.”

What was your favorite book as a child?

harold purple crayon

I was a total bookworm as a child. Instead of playing games at recess, I preferred to curl up under my desk and read. Of all the books I read—from every Encyclopedia Brown to Freaky Friday to The Short Stories of Ernest Hemingway (I was a precocious kid), the book with the most enduring impact was also the simplest: Harold and the Purple Crayon. I was enchanted by Harold’s adventures, amazed by his ability to draw his way out of every obstacle and ultimately find his way home. Long before I began seeing this as a metaphor for creativity (and life!), this story appealed to me. Fifty years later, I continue to find new layers of meaning in this little book. It’s a simple yet profound testament to the power of imagination and creativity.

What is one unexpected thing or habit that inspires your writing practice?

sarah chauncey forest new castle

Walking in nature is my creative “secret sauce” and the central practice to my writing. Several years ago, I realized that although my role in this world is as a writer, my job is to bring myself back into presence, over and over, to get into a place where words can flow through me. I walk to get out of my mind and into my body. I come into fierce presence by noticing the rain on my face, salal berries ripening into deep blue, or the texture of earth beneath my feet. When my body is occupied by walking, ideas bubble up from my subconscious. Whether I’m looking for ways to trim an over-long essay or searching for words to evoke a hard-to-articulate experience, as soon as my legs find their rhythm, ideas begin to flow.

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Being Witnessed In Grief Is A Powerful Balm For Healin...

Dear friends,

Two days after my cat, Hedda, died in 2016, my friend Francis sent me a sketch with a note “from” Hedda that read, in part, “P.S. I love you more than tuna.” Through my tears, I thought that would be a great book title. I had a clear vision: an illustrated gift book that people would give to friends, family, colleagues, or clients after the loss of their cat. A step beyond a sympathy card, this would be the first “empathy book” for adults grieving the loss of a cat.

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Inspired in part by Eckhart Tolle and Patrick McDonnell’s Guardians of Being and Charles M. Schultz’s Happiness is a Warm Puppy, P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna offers comfort and inspiration through New Yorker-style drawings and simple, evocative language. My goal was to make it heartfelt without being cloying.

Every year, six million Americans and Canadians must say a final goodbye to their cats—buddies who leapt into their hearts as kittens, purred away heartbreak through multiple breakups, snuggled by their side in homes large and small, and occasionally deleted folders of work by stretching out on a warm keyboard.

“Pet loss” is considered a disenfranchised form of grief; it’s not culturally sanctioned. We don’t have any universal rituals for this grief, like sitting shiva or holding a wake. This often leaves the bereaved feeling isolated and misunderstood, which compounds the grief and makes healing more difficult.

People grieving companion animals have a need to be seen, their grief validated. Being witnessed in grief is a powerful balm for healing.

Friends of those grieving companion animals are often at a loss for ways to show their support. P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna gives all of us the opportunity to make a profound impact with a simple gesture.

When Francis sent me the sketch and note, I felt seen. Francis’s gift acknowledged the bond I’d had with Hedda and my grief at her death. The present tense of the note also reminded me that Hedda was still with me, even if I couldn’t see her. That was significant in terms of helping me heal, and that’s the comfort I hope P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna will provide to other cat lovers.

Sounds True has created a lovely video preview for P.S. I Love You More Than Tuna. I hope you’ll check it out below.

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Ultimately, I hope this book will benefit the world in multiple ways: for the recipient, witnessing and healing; for the giver, a tangible action they can take to help another; for Best Friends Animal Society, to which I’m donating 10 percent of my proceeds, contributing to their work of keeping pets in the home. This includes helping low-income people connect with resources they need to feed, train, and care for their companion animals. And of course, I hope this will benefit Sounds True and their work in the world, which is quickly becoming more needed than ever.

Take care,

Sarah Chauncey

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What is yoga brain science in simple terms?

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How long does it take for yoga to affect the brain?

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Can yoga replace therapy for mental health concerns?

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Is yoga effective for anxiety and overthinking?

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Do you need physical flexibility to gain mental benefits from yoga?

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What type of yoga is best for brain and emotional health?

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Internal Family Systems is a therapeutic model developed by Richard Schwartz that views the mind as made up of different inner parts, each with its own perspective, emotions, and intentions. Instead of seeing these parts as problems, IFS therapy understands them as meaningful aspects of our inner world that developed to help us navigate life. Many people recognize this experience in moments of inner conflict, when one part of them wants to move forward while another part feels afraid or hesitant. In parts work therapy, these inner dynamics are approached with curiosity and compassion. By learning to listen to and understand these parts, people can begin to relate to themselves with greater awareness and balance.

Richard Schwartz and the Origins of Internal Family Systems

Internal Family Systems grew out of the work of family therapist Richard Schwartz. While listening to clients describe their inner struggles, he noticed that many spoke about different parts of themselves with distinct voices and roles.

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During his clinical work in the 1980s, Schwartz began inviting clients to speak directly with these inner parts. He observed that the parts often had clear intentions and were trying to help in some way. This insight became the foundation of IFS therapy.

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Over time, Schwartz realized that even the most difficult reactions were protective in nature. This understanding led to the core idea in Internal Family Systems that there are no bad parts, only parts that need understanding and care.

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Internal Family Systems teaches that the mind contains different parts, each shaped by life experiences. IFS therapy views these parts as meaningful aspects of the inner system that try to help a person cope, protect themselves, or manage emotional pain.

How Inner Parts Form in IFS Therapy

In parts work therapy, inner parts often develop during difficult or overwhelming experiences. These parts adopt roles that help a person handle stress, avoid pain, or maintain stability.

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IFS also describes a core presence called the Self. When people connect with the Self, they can approach their parts with calmness and compassion, allowing the inner system to move toward greater balance.

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Richard Schwartz teaches that many reactions we judge harshly are actually parts trying to protect us. In Internal Family Systems, these behaviors are understood as strategies that formed in response to difficult experiences. The idea of “no bad parts” invites people to look at their inner world with curiosity rather than criticism.

Why Protective Parts Form

Protective parts develop to help manage emotional pain or prevent past wounds from being triggered again. They step in to keep the person safe, even if their methods later create tension.

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Understanding the Roles of Parts in Parts Work Therapy

In Internal Family Systems, parts are often grouped into different roles based on how they try to protect a person’s emotional system. Richard Schwartz observed that these roles help explain why certain thoughts, reactions, and behaviors appear in stressful situations. In parts work therapy, recognizing these roles helps people understand how their inner system has been working to keep them safe.

Common Roles in Internal Family Systems

  • Managers Managers try to keep life organized and under control. These parts often focus on planning, perfectionism, or staying responsible so that painful emotions do not surface.
  • Firefighters Firefighters react quickly when emotional pain breaks through. They try to stop overwhelming feelings by distracting, numbing, or pushing their minds away from distress.
  • Exiles Exiles carry deeper emotional wounds, often connected to past hurt, rejection, or shame. Because these feelings can be intense, other parts work hard to keep them hidden or protected.

In IFS therapy, these roles are not viewed as problems. Each part was developed to help the system survive difficult experiences. As people begin to understand these roles with curiosity and compassion, they can start building a healthier relationship with every part of their inner world.

Understanding the Roles of Parts in Parts Work Therapy

In Internal Family Systems, parts take on different roles to protect a person from emotional pain. Richard Schwartz identified three common roles in IFS therapy: managers, firefighters, and exiles.

Managers try to keep life organized and controlled, often pushing people to perform well or avoid situations that may trigger painful emotions. Firefighters respond when distress surfaces and attempt to quickly reduce emotional intensity through distraction or other coping behaviors. Exiles carry deeper emotional wounds, such as shame, fear, or sadness that formed during difficult experiences.

In parts work therapy, healing begins when people approach these parts with curiosity and compassion, allowing the inner system to gradually move toward balance.

How IFS Therapy Helps You Build a Relationship With Your Parts

IFS therapy teaches people to relate to their inner parts with curiosity rather than judgment. Instead of trying to control or silence difficult reactions, Internal Family Systems encourages listening to what each part is trying to communicate.

Through this process, people begin to recognize the concerns and intentions behind their parts. As trust develops within the inner system, protective parts can relax and allow deeper healing to take place. This relationship between the Self and the parts is a central element of growth in parts work therapy.

Healing Through Internal Family Systems and the “No Bad Parts” Principle

A key teaching in Internal Family Systems is the understanding that every part has a positive intention. Richard Schwartz describes this idea as the principle of “no bad parts.” In IFS therapy, even reactions that seem unhelpful are viewed as protective strategies that developed in response to pain or stress.

By approaching these parts with compassion instead of criticism, people can begin to understand their purpose. As trust grows within the inner system, these parts often relax their roles, creating space for healing and greater inner balance.

Why Parts Work Therapy Is Transforming Modern Psychology

Parts work therapy has gained widespread attention because it offers a compassionate way to understand inner conflict. Instead of viewing difficult emotions as problems to eliminate, Internal Family Systems helps people recognize the protective roles behind their reactions. Through the teachings of Richard Schwartz and the principle of “no bad parts,” many individuals are finding a more respectful and healing relationship with their inner world. This approach continues to influence therapists, researchers, and people seeking deeper self-understanding.

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Final Thoughts

Internal Family Systems offers a compassionate way to understand our inner world. Through the work of Richard Schwartz and the practice of IFS therapy, many people are learning that the thoughts and reactions they struggle with are parts that formed to protect them. The principle of “no bad parts” invites a shift from self-judgment to curiosity and care. As people begin to listen to their inner system with respect, parts work therapy can open the door to deeper healing and a more balanced relationship with themselves.

Frequently Asked Questions About Internal Family Systems

What is the main goal of Internal Family Systems therapy?

The main goal of Internal Family Systems is to help individuals develop a healthier relationship with their inner parts. IFS therapy encourages people to approach their thoughts and emotions with curiosity so they can better understand the intentions behind them and create more balance within their internal system.

Who created Internal Family Systems?

Internal Family Systems was developed by Richard Schwartz, a family therapist who began noticing that clients often described their inner experiences as different parts interacting with one another. His observations led to the development of IFS therapy as a structured approach to understanding and healing these inner dynamics.

How is IFS therapy different from traditional talk therapy?

IFS therapy focuses on direct communication with inner parts rather than only discussing experiences at a surface level. This approach helps people understand the roles their parts play and encourages internal dialogue that can lead to deeper emotional insight and healing.

What does the phrase “no bad parts” mean in Internal Family Systems?

The phrase “no bad parts” reflects the belief that every part of the mind developed for a reason. Even parts that lead to difficult behaviors are often trying to protect a person from emotional pain or past experiences.

Can Internal Family Systems be practiced outside of therapy?

Many people apply principles of Internal Family Systems in their daily lives by paying attention to their thoughts and emotional reactions. While professional guidance can be helpful, practicing awareness and curiosity about inner parts can support personal reflection and growth.

Is Internal Family Systems useful for personal development?

Yes. Beyond clinical therapy, Internal Family Systems is widely used for personal growth. The model helps people understand their emotional patterns, strengthen self-awareness, and develop a more compassionate relationship with themselves.

Why do people experience internal conflict, according to IFS?

In IFS, internal conflict happens when different parts of the mind have competing goals or fears. One part may want safety and stability, while another may seek change or expression. Understanding these differences can help people respond to conflict with greater clarity.

Is Internal Family Systems supported by modern psychology?

Internal Family Systems has gained increasing recognition among therapists and mental health professionals. Many practitioners integrate parts work therapy into their practice because it provides a structured way to understand complex emotional patterns.

What role does self-awareness play in IFS therapy?

Self-awareness allows people to notice when different parts are active. By observing these inner reactions without immediate judgment, individuals can begin to understand the needs and motivations of their parts more clearly.

Who can benefit from Internal Family Systems therapy?

IFS therapy can benefit a wide range of people, including those interested in emotional healing, mindfulness, and personal insight. It is often helpful for individuals who want to better understand their inner experiences and build a more compassionate relationship with themselves.

Michelle Cassandra Johnson is an author, activist, spiritual teacher, racial equity consultant, and intuitive healer. She is the author of six books, including Skill in Action and Finding Refuge. Amy Burtaine is a leadership coach and racial equity trainer. With Robin DiAngelo, she is the coauthor of The Facilitator's Guide for White Affinity Groups. For more, visit https://www.michellecjohnson.com/wisdom-of-the-hive.

Resmaa Menakem on Somatic Abolitionism: Healing Racial...

Healing racial trauma is often approached through conversation and reflection, yet many responses live deeper than words. The body carries patterns shaped by lived experience and inherited stress, influencing how we react, connect, and feel safe. Somatic abolitionism brings attention to this embodied layer, inviting a different kind of awareness rooted in sensation and presence.

At Sounds True, we have spent decades sharing living wisdom from teachers whose work speaks directly to real human experience. Our mission is to make these teachings accessible and grounded, offering guidance that supports meaningful transformation in everyday life. The embodied approach of Resmaa Menakem reflects this commitment to depth, clarity, and care.

Here, we look at how somatic abolitionism helps us understand and heal racial trauma in the body, and how these practices can be integrated into daily life.

Key Takeaways:

  • Body Awareness: Healing racial trauma begins by recognizing how the body stores and expresses stress responses shaped by lived and inherited experiences.
  • Capacity Building: Developing nervous system resilience allows individuals to stay present in difficult conversations and reduce reactive patterns.
  • Embodied Healing: Somatic abolitionism supports lasting change by engaging the body directly, not just through intellectual understanding.

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Resmaa Menakem and the Foundations of Somatic Abolitionism

What if healing racial trauma is not only something we think through, but something we experience in the body? At Sounds True, we share teachings that honor lived wisdom, and the work of Resmaa Menakem reflects this deeply. His approach invites us to move beyond analysis and into the body’s intelligence.

Somatic abolitionism recognizes that the body carries the imprint of history and survival. These patterns shape how we respond to stress and connection. Many of our reactions are not just personal, but shaped by generations held in the nervous system.

This work invites us to slow down and notice what arises. Sensations like tension, breath, and impulse offer insight. Instead of overriding them, we stay with them gently.

Healing here is not about perfection. It is about building a new relationship with the body, creating space to respond with awareness rather than react automatically.

Understanding Racial Trauma Body and Its Lasting Impact

Racial trauma lives in the body through patterns of stress and response shaped over time. These patterns influence how we experience safety, connection, and threat, often without conscious awareness. Understanding the racial trauma body helps us see these responses as learned adaptations rather than personal flaws.

How the Racial Trauma Body Forms

The racial trauma body develops through repeated experiences of stress, both lived and inherited. The nervous system adapts to protect itself, creating patterns like hypervigilance or disconnection. Over time, these responses become automatic, shaping everyday behavior and perception.

Why the Body Remembers What the Mind Forgets

The body stores memory through sensation rather than story. Even without a clear recall, it reacts to familiar patterns of stress. By noticing these sensations with awareness, we begin to understand and gently shift how the body responds.

What Somatic Abolitionism Teaches About Healing

Somatic abolitionism teaches that healing happens through the body, not just through understanding. It focuses on how the nervous system responds to stress and invites us to build awareness and regulation over time. This approach supports lasting change by working with lived experience rather than relying on insight alone.

Moving Beyond Cognitive Understanding

Knowing about trauma is different from feeling safe in the body. Somatic abolitionism encourages us to notice physical responses like tension or breath and work with them directly, creating space for more intentional reactions. Over time, this awareness helps shift automatic patterns into more grounded responses.

Building Capacity for Discomfort and Growth

Healing involves increasing the body’s ability to stay present during discomfort. By gradually building this capacity, we become less reactive and more able to engage with challenging experiences in a grounded way. This creates resilience that supports deeper connection and sustained personal growth.

My Grandmother’s Hands and Intergenerational Trauma

In My Grandmother’s Hands, Menakem brings attention to the ways trauma is carried across generations. The phrase my grandmother’s hands evokes the lineage of experience that lives within each of us.

The Legacy Carried Through My Grandmother’s Hands

Our bodies carry stories that began long before we were born. The experiences of our ancestors shape how we respond to stress, connection, and belonging. These patterns are often unconscious, yet they influence our daily lives.

Menakem encourages us to recognize this inheritance with compassion. It is not about assigning blame. It is about understanding the context in which these patterns developed. This awareness allows us to meet ourselves and others with greater empathy.

Interrupting the Cycle of Inherited Trauma

While trauma can be passed down, so can healing. Each moment of awareness creates an opportunity to shift long-held patterns. By engaging in somatic practices, we begin to offer the body new experiences of safety and regulation.

These small changes ripple outward. As individuals develop greater capacity, they contribute to a broader field of healing within families and communities. The cycle begins to shift, not through force, but through consistent, embodied presence.

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The Body as a Vessel for Racial Trauma Body and Repair

The body holds both the weight of trauma and the possibility of healing. Learning to listen to its signals is an essential part of this work.

  • The body communicates through sensation, offering cues about safety and threat
  • Patterns of tension reveal how past experiences are still being held
  • Gentle awareness allows these patterns to shift over time
  • Grounding practices support the nervous system in finding balance
  • Connection with others helps regulate and restore a sense of safety

As we deepen our relationship with the body, repair becomes something we experience directly. It unfolds gradually, through attention, patience, and care. This process invites us to trust the body’s capacity to move toward healing.

Somatic Healing Race: Practices for Regulation and Resilience

Somatic healing race is rooted in simple, consistent practices that support the nervous system. These practices invite us to slow down and notice what is present in the body. A hand placed on the chest, a moment of feeling the feet on the ground, or a conscious breath can begin to shift our state.

These moments may seem small, yet they build over time. The body learns that it can move from activation to regulation without shutting down. This creates a foundation for resilience. Instead of being carried by automatic reactions, we begin to experience choice.

Menakem reminds us that this work is ongoing. It is not about reaching a final state, but about continuing to return to the body with curiosity and care. Through this process, we develop a deeper sense of presence that supports both personal and collective healing.

How Somatic Abolitionism Supports Collective Healing

Somatic abolitionism recognizes that healing does not happen in isolation. Our nervous systems are deeply connected, and the state of one body can influence others. When individuals cultivate regulation, they contribute to a shared sense of safety.

This has important implications for communities. Conversations that might otherwise escalate can unfold with greater presence and understanding. People are more able to listen, to pause, and to respond with intention.

Collective healing is not a single event. It is a continuous process that requires commitment and care. As more individuals engage in somatic work, the potential for meaningful change expands. New patterns of interaction begin to take shape, grounded in awareness and connection.

Integrating Somatic Healing Race into Everyday Life

Integration happens through repetition and attention. Somatic healing race becomes part of daily life when we begin to notice the body in ordinary moments. Standing in line, sitting in conversation, or moving through a busy day all offer opportunities to return to sensation.

This practice does not require extra time or special conditions. It asks only for a willingness to pause and notice. Over time, these pauses become more natural. The body becomes a steady point of reference, offering guidance in moments of stress and ease alike.

At Sounds True, we believe that this kind of embodied awareness supports a deeper connection to ourselves and to one another. It allows teachings like somatic abolitionism to move beyond concept and into lived experience, where real transformation can unfold.

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Final Thoughts

Healing racial trauma asks us to move beyond ideas and into direct experience. Through somatic abolitionism, Resmaa Menakem reminds us that the body holds both the imprint of harm and the capacity for repair. As we learn to listen, stay present, and build capacity, we begin to shift patterns that have lived within us for generations. This work unfolds one moment at a time, grounded in awareness, care, and a willingness to return to the body.

Frequently Asked Questions About Resmaa Menakem and Somatic Abolitionism

Who is Resmaa Menakem, and why is his work important?

Resmaa Menakem is a therapist and trauma specialist who focuses on how racialized experiences are stored in the body. His work is important because it brings attention to the physical dimension of trauma, offering a path that complements traditional psychological and social approaches.

What makes somatic abolitionism different from traditional activism?

Somatic abolitionism emphasizes internal regulation and embodied awareness alongside external action. It recognizes that sustainable change requires individuals to work with their nervous systems, not just their beliefs or behaviors.

Is somatic abolitionism only relevant for certain racial groups?

No, this work is for all bodies. While experiences differ across racial identities, everyone carries patterns shaped by history and culture. Somatic abolitionism invites each person to engage with their own embodied experience.

Can somatic practices replace therapy or counseling?

Somatic practices can support healing, but they are not a replacement for professional care when it is needed. They are best understood as complementary tools that deepen awareness and regulation.

How long does it take to see results from somatic healing practices?

The timeline varies for each person. Some may notice small shifts quickly, while deeper patterns may take time to change. Consistency and patience are key elements of this work.

Do I need prior experience with mindfulness to begin somatic work?

No prior experience is required. Somatic work often begins with very simple awareness practices that are accessible to anyone, regardless of background.

What challenges might arise when starting somatic abolitionism?

People may encounter discomfort as they begin to notice sensations that were previously ignored. This is a natural part of the process and can be approached gradually with care and support.

How does community support enhance somatic healing?

Being in regulated, supportive environments helps the nervous system feel safe. This shared sense of safety can deepen individual healing and strengthen relational connections.

Are there specific environments that support somatic healing more effectively?

Quiet, safe, and grounded environments can help, but somatic awareness can also be practiced in everyday settings. The key factor is the ability to bring attention to the body without overwhelm.

How can someone stay consistent with somatic practices?

Consistency grows through simplicity. Choosing small, repeatable practices and integrating them into daily routines makes it easier to maintain them over time.

Michelle Cassandra Johnson is an author, activist, spiritual teacher, racial equity consultant, and intuitive healer. She is the author of six books, including Skill in Action and Finding Refuge. Amy Burtaine is a leadership coach and racial equity trainer. With Robin DiAngelo, she is the coauthor of The Facilitator's Guide for White Affinity Groups. For more, visit https://www.michellecjohnson.com/wisdom-of-the-hive.

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