Lee Holden

Lee Holden is an internationally celebrated Qi Gong master recognized by the International Qi Gong Association. He is the author of 7 Minutes of Magic and a beloved television personality who has been aired in over 50 million households in the US alone. Lee is a licensed Chinese medical doctor and acupuncturist and the cofounder of the Santa Cruz Integrative Medicine and Chi Center. He lives in Santa Cruz, California, with his four daughters. For more, visit holdenqigong.com.

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Rachel Carlton Abrams

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Rachel Carlton Abrams, MD, is a family practice physician specializing in holistic medicine. A student of Mantak Chia for 20 years, she has co-authored three books on Taoist sexuality with her husband Doug Abrams.

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Lee Holden: Go Slow. Enter Flow.

The counterintuitive approach to life that Lee Holden calls the Slow Method has an immediate power to decrease your stress levels, boost your energy, and improve your overall health and well-being in remarkable, seemingly miraculous ways. But why is it so hard for us to slow down, even when we understand intellectually how ineffective and miserable it is to live at warp speed? 

In this podcast, Tami Simon speaks with the internationally celebrated Qi Gong master and author about his new book, Ready, Set, Slow. Give yourself “the gift of slow” and tune in for this illuminating conversation about: the link between slow and flow; becoming more receptive to the energy that’s all around you; a brief history of Qi Gong and tai chi; a simple awareness practice—“Where am I?”; the coherence of energy and mind that defines the flow state; prioritizing “bliss over busy”; active relaxation; shifting out of stress and into the open space of the heart; how compassion, gratitude, and appreciation help heal the nervous system; mindfulness and an embodied experience of the present moment; liberating ourselves from our conditioning around survival; accessing the inner treasures of your energy system; applying the Slow Method when enjoying a morning beverage, at mealtimes, and in other situations where we tend to be on autopilot; finding your personal motivation for slowing down; breathwork; slow relationships; the Microcosmic Orbit practice; and more.

Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.

The Power and Bliss of Qi

Tami Simon speaks with Lee Holden, an internationally recognized qi gong master and Chinese medicine doctor. He is also the cofounder of the Santa Cruz Integrative Medicine and Chi Center. Lee has published dozens of books on topics ranging from t’ai chi to stress management. With Sounds True, Lee has created the audio learning series Taoist Sexual Secrets as well as a series on Your Body of Light, and a new home study course and online course Qi Gong for Health and Healing. Lee discusses the self-healing qualities of qi gong, the “secret” qi gong practices that relate to sexuality, in addition to a breathing exercise called “the cleansing breath.” (47 minutes)

Taoist Sexual Secrets

Tami Simon speaks with Rachel Carlton Abrams and Lee Holden. Rachel is a medical doctor, specializing in family medicine, and the author of The Multi-Orgasmic Woman and The Multi-Orgasmic Couple. Lee is a licensed acupuncturist and an internationally known instructor in meditation, t’ai chi, and qi gong. Rachel and Lee discuss the wisdom of ancient Chinese Taoist sexual secrets, and how we can apply these practices to enhance the flow of sexual energy in our bodies. (48 minutes)

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Terri Cole: “Healing the Worthiness Wound”

Terri Cole calls it an invisible wound: the imprint left when a daughter never receives protection, presence, or emotional attunement from her father. This week, Tami Simon talks with Terri Cole—Sounds True’s own Boundary Boss—about her new book, Father Wound, and why even women with loving fathers can carry this wound without ever naming it.

Terri Cole, MSW, LCSW, is a licensed psychotherapist, relationship expert, and best-selling author who has spent nearly three decades helping people break dysfunctional patterns and build healthier relationships with themselves and others. With Sounds True, she is the author of the trilogy that began with Boundary Boss and continued with Too Much: A Guide to Breaking the Cycle of High-Functioning Codependency. Her newest book, Father Wound: Break Unhealthy Patterns to Reclaim Your Worth and Power, examines what happens when a father or father figure is absent, abusive, immature, or simply not emotionally attuned—and why daughters of patriarchy carry a version of this wound no matter what kind of father they had.

In this conversation, Tami and Terri explore:

  •  How to recognize a father wound even when “my father wasn’t that bad”
  • Why Terri defines the father wound as, at its root, a worthiness wound
  • The difference between self-parenting and re-parenting, and what healing your inner child looks like in daily decisions
  • The “father wound trance”: how old patterns resurface in adult relationships, and how to work with transference instead of being run by it
  • Mourning the Dream, Terri’s exercise for grieving the father you wished you’d had
  • Why healing this wound personally is tied to healing patriarchy at a collective, societal level

Who this episode is for: anyone doing inner child work, anyone who keeps finding themselves in the same relationship pattern and wondering why, and anyone ready to ask whether their sense of worth was shaped long before they had any say in it.

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David Whyte on Being at the Frontier of Your Identity

There is a particular kind of tiredness that comes from trying to hold a fixed idea of who we are, year after year, as everything around us keeps changing anyway. David Whyte built an entire body of work around that tension, and Sounds True founder Tami Simon has called her conversation with him one of the most beloved episodes in Insights at the Edge history, still resonating with new listeners more than a decade after it first aired. Something about the way Whyte speaks, unhurried and image-rich, seems to reach people in exactly the season of life where old answers have quietly stopped working.

Sounds True has carried David Whyte’s poetry, prose, and audio programs for years because few voices manage to speak so plainly to both the individual soul and the modern workplace at once. His willingness to bring genuine poetry into rooms built for spreadsheets and quarterly targets reflects the same spirit our founder set out to preserve back in 1985: teaching captured in its own unscripted, living voice. 

What follows traces the frontier Whyte describes between who we were and who we are becoming, how exile trains us for that edge, and why a Yorkshire poet ended up teaching creativity inside boardrooms at Boeing and American Express.

Key Takeaways:

  • Originality Has an Address: Learn why David Whyte locates creativity at the frontier of identity, not behind it.
  • Exile Is a Skill: Understand why Whyte treats feeling like an outsider as something to develop, not escape.
  • Poetry Enters the Boardroom: See how poetry and leadership intersect in Whyte’s decades of corporate work.

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Originality Lives at the Edge, Not the Center

Whyte traces originality back to what he calls an edge identity, a frontier conversation that shows up across many of the world’s wisdom traditions. Reality itself, in his framing, is conversational rather than fixed, which means the self is never a finished project so much as an ongoing exchange with everything it meets. 

Sounds True’s founder has described sitting with fourteen pages of notes on his teaching and underlining nearly every line, a reaction that says something about how differently Whyte approaches familiar questions of purpose and change, treating originality as a place a person stands rather than a trait they possess. 

You can hear the full exchange in David Whyte on Being at the Frontier of Your Identity, still one of the most requested episodes in the archive.

Exile as a Core Human Competency

Rather than treating exile, the felt sense of not quite belonging, as a wound to heal, Whyte reframes it as a competency worth developing on purpose. Most people spend enormous energy trying to eliminate the feeling of being an outsider, whereas Whyte suggests the more useful move is to learn to work with it deliberately. A few ideas anchor this reframing:

  • Exile Sharpens Perception: Standing slightly outside a group often reveals what belonging obscures.
  • Competency, Not Condition: Whyte treats exile as a trainable skill rather than permanent exclusion.
  • Frontier Over Center: Growth tends to happen at edges, not in comfortable middles.

This distinction matters because it removes the shame often attached to feeling like an outsider. Instead of a problem to solve, exile becomes a vantage point worth returning to on purpose.

The Frontier of Identity as a Living Threshold

The frontier of identity, Whyte’s central image, is not a line crossed once and left behind. It is a threshold a person returns to repeatedly, every time old certainties no longer fit a new season of life. Whyte suggests that vulnerability, often treated as weakness, actually functions here as enhanced perception, a heightened sensitivity that lets a person notice what a settled identity tends to miss.

He describes reality itself as conversational, meaning the self is shaped less by fixed traits and more by an ongoing exchange with circumstances, relationships, and unexpected turns. Standing at this frontier repeatedly, rather than resolving it once, is what Whyte considers the actual work of a lived, honest life.

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Poetry and Leadership: An Unlikely Partnership

Long before this conversation, Whyte had already built a second career inside corporate life, consulting for companies including Boeing, Kodak, and American Express. His bestselling book, The Heart Aroused, argued that corporations suffered from too little poetry and too little humanity, a critique that landed him on business bestseller lists rather than only poetry shelves. This pairing of poetry and leadership runs through nearly everything Whyte has written since, treating verse not as decoration for executives but as a discipline for genuine reflection.

Whyte has predicted that the very word manager will eventually give way to something more alive with possibility, a shift he sees poetry as uniquely equipped to prepare leaders for. Rather than offering leadership frameworks or checklists, his workshops use verse to slow a room down enough to notice what usual business language tends to skip over entirely.

  • Work as Pilgrimage: Whyte frames a career less as a task list and more as a journey of identity.
  • Burnout Reconsidered: He suggests exhaustion can signal a need for renewal, not simple failure.
  • Conversational Leadership: Genuine leadership, in his view, requires ongoing dialogue, not fixed authority.

Tapping the Invisible Support That Surrounds Us

Whyte closes much of his teaching on a note of quiet reassurance: that unseen support often surrounds a person exactly when they feel most exposed at the frontier of their own becoming. Recognizing this support, rather than assuming isolation, changes how a person approaches uncertainty, whether it shows up as a career change, a creative block, or a simple shift in how someone sees themselves.

Where Poetry Meets Everyday Attention

Whyte often describes a good poem as revelatory, something that takes hold of a reader and surprises them into new understanding rather than confirming what they already believed. This distinction matters for how he teaches: poetry, in his hands, is not a retreat from ordinary life but a way of paying closer attention to it. A single well-chosen image, he suggests, can reorganize how someone relates to a problem that logic alone has failed to move.

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Final Thoughts

David Whyte’s teaching never promises a finished self waiting somewhere ahead. It offers something steadier: the frontier itself as home ground, revisited again and again across a lifetime of work and relationship. What makes this conversation endure, more than a decade after it first aired, may be exactly that refusal to offer a tidy arrival point. 

Sounds True keeps returning to this conversation because it captures exactly what our mission asks of us, waking up to the edges we usually try to avoid rather than the comfortable center we think we want.

If Whyte’s words found you today, his fuller catalog of poetry and prose is waiting to keep the conversation going, one frontier at a time.

Frequently Asked Questions About David Whyte

Who is David Whyte?

He is a Yorkshire-born poet, author, and Fortune 500 consultant known for blending poetry with leadership.

What Sounds True programs feature David Whyte?

Sounds True has released Clear Mind, Wild Heart and What to Remember When Waking with David Whyte.

Does David Whyte only write poetry?

No, he has also authored prose books, including Crossing the Unknown Sea and The Heart Aroused.

What companies has Whyte worked with as a consultant?

He has led workshops at Boeing, Kodak, American Express, and Bristol-Myers Squibb, among others.

What podcast features this conversation with Whyte?

It appears on Insights at the Edge, hosted by Sounds True founder Tami Simon.

Is this conversation relevant outside creative fields?

Yes, Whyte’s ideas on identity and leadership apply broadly across careers, relationships, and life stages.

Where can I explore more spiritual teachers like David Whyte?

Visit our All Teachers & Authors page to browse voices across many traditions and disciplines.

Does Sounds True offer related content on purpose and vocation?

Yes, related titles appear throughout our Conscious Business and Spirituality & Awakening collections.

Michelle Cassandra Johnson is an author, activist, spiritual teacher, racial equity consultant, and intuitive healer. She is the author of six books, including Skill in Action and Finding Refuge. Amy Burtaine is a leadership coach and racial equity trainer. With Robin DiAngelo, she is the coauthor of The Facilitator's Guide for White Affinity Groups. For more, visit https://www.michellecjohnson.com/wisdom-of-the-hive.

James Hollis: The Goal of Life Is Meaning, Not Happine...

Most of us were raised to chase happiness as the finish line, yet Jungian analyst James Hollis has spent his career arguing that happiness was never a reliable measure to begin with.

Sounds True has carried this conversation between depth psychology and everyday struggle for decades, and Hollis remains one of our clearest voices on the subject. 

In this piece, we look at why Jungian psychology treats happiness as an unreliable goal, how the soul signals when we’ve drifted off course, and what resilience looks like without the comfort of certainty.

Key Takeaways:

  • A Different Measure: Learn why James Hollis treats happiness as an unreliable goal to build a life around.
  • The Soul Sends Signals: Understand how restlessness and dread can point toward a wrong turn.
  • Resilience Without Certainty: See how meaning sustains people through periods without clear answers.

A Different Measure for a Well-Lived Life

Hollis tells Tami Simon that happiness is only ever transiently possible, while meaning, once found, tends to abide. This is not a small semantic distinction; it reorganizes how a person might evaluate an entire life, past and future.

Listen to this conversation in James Hollis: The Goal of Life Is Meaning, Not Happiness, part of the Insights at the Edge series.

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Jungian Psychology’s Case Against Chasing Happiness

Drawing on Jungian psychology, Hollis explains why treating happiness as life’s organizing goal sets people up for repeated disappointment. Moods shift, circumstances change, and pleasure fades on its own schedule regardless of effort. Meaning operates differently in his framework, built less on favorable conditions and more on alignment between a person’s actions and their deeper psychological truth. This idea traces back through decades of depth psychology, which has long treated symptom and suffering as data rather than simply obstacles to remove. Hollis extends that lineage into plain, accessible language for readers outside clinical settings.

  • Happiness Is Transient: It depends on circumstances that are largely outside our control.
  • Meaning Is Durable: It persists even through hardship, loss, and difficult seasons.
  • Alignment Over Pleasure: True satisfaction comes from congruence, not from comfort alone.

How the Soul Signals a Wrong Turn

Hollis describes a kind of inner feedback system, subtle but consistent, that lets a person know when they’ve drifted from their own path: a persistent restlessness, a low-grade dread, symptoms that resist easy explanation. Rather than pathologizing these signals, Hollis treats them as intelligent messages worth decoding instead of medicating them away entirely. This reframing runs through much of his later work, including Living Between Worlds, where he writes at length about resilience during periods of upheaval.

He is careful to add that decoding these signals takes patience. The soul rarely communicates in plain language, and learning to translate restlessness into useful insight is itself a skill built slowly, often with the help of therapy, journaling, or sustained reflection over time.

Resilience Without Certainty

Much of this conversation addresses a question many listeners were quietly asking during a period of global instability: how does a person stay steady without pretending to have answers they don’t have? Hollis’s version of resilience does not rely on optimism. It relies on tolerance for ambiguity and a willingness to keep showing up for the questions life keeps asking, even when no clear resolution is in sight and the ground itself keeps shifting underfoot.

  • Repetition Builds Strength: Resilience grows through repeated encounters with difficulty, not avoidance of it.
  • Certainty Can Deceive: It often functions as a defense against anxiety rather than as an accurate perception.
  • Living Between Worlds: The title itself names the space between old certainties and whatever comes next.

Why Meaning Requires Ongoing Attention

Unlike a goal that can be checked off, meaning in Hollis’s framework demands continual renewal. It is less a destination reached once than a practice sustained through the accumulation of honest choices over time, which is part of why his work resists any tidy self-help formula or five-step solution. A person can find meaning in one season of life and still need to relocate it in the next, since circumstances, relationships, and inner priorities continue to shift.

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The Difference Age Makes

Hollis suggests that this pursuit shifts noticeably across a lifetime. What felt meaningful in early adulthood, often tied to achievement or external validation, tends to lose its hold as people age, replaced by quieter, more internally sourced sources of significance. This isn’t decline, in Hollis’s reading, but maturation, a gradual trading of performance for depth. He describes the second half of life as an invitation to finally ask what was being pursued all along and whether it still fits.

A Fifteen-Book Case for Meaning

By the time of this conversation, Hollis had already authored fifteen books exploring meaning, purpose, and depth psychology, including Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life and What Matters Most. Hollis describes the search for meaning as the defining topic of his life’s work, one he approaches not as an academic exercise but as something he watches play out daily in his clinical practice with real people navigating real crises, decade after decade, with remarkably consistent patterns.

The Weight of a Global Moment

This particular episode was recorded during a period of widespread uncertainty, and Hollis addresses that context directly rather than avoiding it. He suggests that collective instability tends to surface exactly the kind of questions his work has always centered: what actually matters when the usual supports fall away, and what remains standing once distraction is stripped back. Crisis, in his view, has a way of accelerating psychological work that might otherwise take decades to surface on its own.

What Meaning Asks Us to Give Up

Choosing meaning over happiness, Hollis suggests, often means giving up the comfort of a simpler narrative. It is easier to chase pleasure and call it a life well lived than to sit with the harder, slower project of aligning daily choices with something deeper than mood. Hollis doesn’t romanticize this trade-off; he describes it plainly as more demanding, and ultimately more honest, than the alternative most of us default toward without noticing, especially in a culture that constantly rewards comfort over depth.

The Sounds True Foundation and Wider Access

This particular episode also introduces listeners to the Sounds True Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to making tools like mindfulness and self-compassion available regardless of financial or social circumstance. It’s a fitting companion to Hollis’s message, since meaning, unlike many luxuries, is something every listener deserves genuine access to explore, regardless of where they happen to start from.

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Final Thoughts

James Hollis offers no promise that meaning arrives easily or stays without tending, only that it holds weight happiness alone cannot carry. 

Sounds True continues sharing this conversation because it captures something central to our mission of waking up the world: that a considered life asks more of us than comfort, and gives back more in return. 

Choosing meaning is rarely a single decision; it is a posture practiced again each time comfort tempts us toward the smaller path. Hollis’s broader catalog remains available for anyone ready to keep asking these questions.

Frequently Asked Questions About James Hollis

How many books has James Hollis written?

Hollis is the author of sixteen books, including Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life.

What is Living Between Worlds about?

It explores personal resilience during periods of significant change, uncertainty, and cultural upheaval.

Was Hollis a university professor?

Yes, he taught Jungian studies at Saybrook University across its San Francisco and Houston programs.

Does Sounds True offer audio versions of Hollis’s teaching?

Yes, Sounds True has produced the audio learning series Through the Dark Wood with Hollis.

What is the Sounds True Foundation?

A nonprofit making transformational tools accessible to at-risk youth, veterans, and underserved communities worldwide.

Is meaning the same as religious belief, according to Hollis?

No, Hollis frames meaning as a psychological and personal experience, independent of any specific faith.

Where did James Hollis train as an analyst?

He trained at the C.G. Jung Institute in Zurich before practicing as a licensed analyst.

Can this teaching help during periods of grief?

Yes, many listeners find Hollis’s framework useful for locating meaning within difficult, uncertain seasons.

Michelle Cassandra Johnson is an author, activist, spiritual teacher, racial equity consultant, and intuitive healer. She is the author of six books, including Skill in Action and Finding Refuge. Amy Burtaine is a leadership coach and racial equity trainer. With Robin DiAngelo, she is the coauthor of The Facilitator's Guide for White Affinity Groups. For more, visit https://www.michellecjohnson.com/wisdom-of-the-hive.