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Bringing Your Soul Force to Work: Why Being Yourself C...

Each of us has a somewhat mysterious inner power that could be called a “soul force.” In my experience, our soul force feels unstoppable, and it carries with it our uniqueness and what we care the most about. You could say it is the most essential part of us, that which we cannot be “talked out of,” that which demands expression.

Many people believe that this soul force, if it even exists, is not necessarily related to our work in the world. I am proposing just the opposite: that if we are to find our deepest fulfillment at work and achieve the highest potential in our career, in whatever field that might be, we need to engage and unleash this power.

What does it feel like to “work from our soul”? In my experience, there is a sense of drawing on a source of pure potential that is self-renewing and feels electrically charged. I don’t feel like I am working from a thin and limited layer of thoughts or strategy, but instead, there is a sense of being tapped into a charged energetic system of support and creativity.

Your Belly, Heart, and Head

For many years, I practiced somatic meditation, a type of meditation where we practice (among other things) inhabiting the inner space of the body and developing what’s known as interoception (being aware of internal bodily sensations). One of the things I discovered was the felt experience of three energy centers—the belly, heart, and head—that are referenced in many different systems of spiritual practice, and how these three centers can help us in engaging our soul force at work.

This might sound esoteric, but I actually think these three inner energy centers (called the “three brains” or “tan tiens” in Chinese medicine or “elixir fields” in certain types of qigong) are very discoverable and accessible to people who start to turn their attention inward.

To say more, when our belly center is open and energy is flowing through it in an unimpeded way, we can feel a sense of grounded power. We feel anchored and sense that we can weather the storms of life like a strong tree that is rooted deeply in the earth.

When our heart center is open, we can feel a sense of love streaming from us in every direction. This stream carries with it our care and concern for others. You could even say that we sense a stream of well wishes pouring out from our heart. Our work becomes imbued with a motivation to be of service to others and our world.

And when the center of our head is open, energy and information flow in through the top of our head in a way that often feels, at least in my experience, quite mysterious. New ideas come to us that can feel sparkly, such that even we are surprised by what is occurring to us. We become endlessly innovative in our work.

The Power of Letting Go

What does it take to awaken the intelligence of these three “inner brains” and allow the full power of our soul force to stream through these three energy centers? In my experience, what is required is not what you might expect. We don’t need to add anything to us. What is needed is a whole lot of letting go.

What are we letting go of? All of the ways we block ourselves, all of the ways we hold back. We are letting go of all of the ways we seek approval and are twisted up trying to appeal to others to be liked by them, the many ways we try to find acceptance and success via the unspoken and sometimes spoken rules of the status quo. We let go of twisting ourselves to fit a norm that doesn’t fit the truth of who we are. We let go of the mental construct of who we are so we can be the unique expression of the truth of who we are.

One year at Sounds True, we decided to give T-shirts out to the staff as part of our holiday gifting. Not a particularly original idea, but something we thought people would like. And our creative director put this slogan on the T-shirt: “Sounds True: Here for the Weird.” And I loved it.

Now, not everyone likes the word “weird”… but I do. A chapter was once written about me for a book on bringing your whole self to work, and the authors called it “Tami Simon: Flying Her Freak Flag.” I didn’t mind the use of the word “freak” either. The reason is that these are just words in popular culture that mean someone is willing to be themselves in all of their uniqueness and eccentricities. And that courage to step forward and be a brave truth-teller is something that I value.

Recently, I was in a discussion with a spiritual teacher about how interesting it is that we don’t become a blob of paste-like oneness when we drop deeply into what some people refer to as the “field of being,” the boundless, awake awareness that we share. Instead, we often become more uniquely expressive and can even appear a bit quirky. He shared his observation that it is our ego-construct, the veneer of “I’ve got it together,” that keeps us looking like copycats of others. When we allow that ego construct to lose its presentational grip, and perhaps even drop away, we make room for the emergence of our soul force, the innermost part of ourselves, to shine forth. We liberate our own “weird.”

As a leader of an organization, one of the things I have noticed is that when I present and speak from this innermost place without a lot of self-censorship, it naturally invites others to do the same. It is as if a “permission field” has been established. The company founder is telling it like it is—talking about what she learned in therapy this week, or something that occurred when talking with her wife (of the same sex), or a discovery that came through a sleepless night—and this sets up a new norm. This organization is actually a place where I don’t need to wear a mask at work; my truth-telling and uniqueness are welcome here. And this liberates a tremendous amount of energy and, dare I say, “soul power.”

What’s Your Genius Zone?

Several years ago, as the CEO at Sounds True, I found myself having difficulty figuring out how to best structure our organization (as our direct-to-consumer digital business began to grow rapidly with a different set of infrastructure needs from our traditional publishing business). I decided to hire an organizational consultant, Lex Sisney, the founder of Organizational Physics, whose expertise is helping midsize companies design to scale.

To my surprise, Lex started his assessment of Sounds True’s structural needs by having me do a deep-dive review of whether or not I was working in what he calls one’s “genius zone.” As I have come to understand Lex’s approach, part of what he believes contributes to organizational flourishing (and the ability to scale) is when people are in job functions that make the best use of their natural capacities and passions.

In a way, this seems utterly obvious. Like any good sporting team, you want people in the positions where they have the most natural affinity and talent. And when you have a whole team of people working in their genius zones, you have a much greater likelihood of having a winning team.

And yet as a founder, I have always had the attitude of “I will do whatever it takes. This isn’t about being in a ‘genius zone’; this is about getting done what needs to be done. All work is not enjoyable anyway, and just buck up and do the next thing needed.” This sounds very dutiful, and it is, but it is not the stance that creates the most high-functioning team, nor the most joy, nor the most soul engagement at work.

About a year and a half ago, I did an exercise where I went through my calendar for several weeks in a row and numbered every scheduled meeting on a 1-to-10 scale in terms of how excited I was for the meeting to take place. A very obvious pattern emerged: about half of the meetings in my calendar received the number 2 or 3, and about half of the meetings were an 8 or a 9 or even a 10.

The events in the calendar that received a high score related to interviews I was hosting, new partnerships that were being formed, and working directly with authors on new projects. The meetings that received a low score had to do with the business’s strategic execution in terms of finance, operations, and the coordination of various departments. This simple exercise presented a clear picture: I needed to shift my role and pass on a whole set of responsibilities so I could be free to focus on and expand the parts of my work that were exciting to me.

We have this notion that we need to trade what we really care about in order to make money. In a conversation with Rha Goddess, author of the book The Calling, I asked her about this. She said something to the effect of, “Why wouldn’t you earn the most money in your career doing what you are uniquely good at, what you excel at, what you uniquely have the ability to contribute?”

Her words landed. What if our greatest career achievement can only come from working in our area of natural genius, from letting go of all the ways we hold ourselves back and bringing our full soul force to work?

I believe that when we do, we find fulfillment at work. And also in life. And then, when our days come to an end, we find ourselves at peace, hands open and empty. We gave away all that we were given.

In support of your journey,

Tami Simon

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Tami Simon is the founder of Sounds True and the Sounds True Foundation, and cofounder of the Inner MBA online immersion learning program and conscious business community created in partnership with LinkedIn and Wisdom 2.0.

The Inner MBA program connects a global community from more than 90 countries. It includes teachings from conscious business leaders, influential CEOs, spiritual luminaries, and faculty from leading universities. Together, we engage in the inner work of growth and transformation, empowering ourselves and our organizations to contribute powerfully to our collective good.

Why the Pursuit of Happiness May Be Making You Miserab...

The pursuit of happiness is often presented as the highest aim of a life well lived. From an early age, we are encouraged to chase fulfillment, positivity, and emotional ease, believing that happiness will bring clarity and stability. Yet many people find that the harder they pursue happiness, the more elusive it becomes. Even moments of success or joy can feel strangely thin, unable to answer the deeper questions that surface in times of loss, change, or uncertainty.

At Sounds True, we have spent decades listening to spiritual teachers, psychologists, and seekers speak honestly about what it means to live a meaningful life. Since 1985, we have been dedicated to preserving and sharing living wisdom in the voices of those who explore the inner life with depth and integrity. Our work is rooted in the understanding that transformation does not come from quick fixes or surface-level positivity, but from sincere engagement with the complexities of the human experience.

In this piece, we will be discussing why the pursuit of happiness may be making us miserable, and how the tension between meaning vs happiness points toward a deeper understanding of the purpose of life.

Key Takeaways:

  • Happiness Trap: Chasing happiness as a life goal often increases anxiety, self-judgment, and emotional fragility.
  • Meaning Orientation: Meaning provides stability by grounding life in values and responsibility rather than mood.
  • Purpose of Life: A meaningful life is lived through honesty and engagement, not through constant emotional comfort.

The Modern Obsession With Happiness and the Happiness Trap

Happiness has become a quiet obligation. We are encouraged to seek it, protect it, and interpret it as proof that our lives are working. When happiness fades, the assumption is often that something is wrong with us rather than with the expectation itself.

This mindset creates the happiness trap. Because happiness is temporary and responsive to circumstance, chasing it can lead to frustration and self-judgment. Difficult emotions are treated as problems to eliminate instead of experiences to understand.

Over time, this obsession narrows the inner life. Rather than engaging with sadness, doubt, or longing, we learn to override them in the name of feeling better. What gets lost is not joy, but depth. The trap is not unhappiness, but the belief that happiness should carry the full meaning of a life.

Meaning vs Happiness and the Deeper Question of the Purpose of Life

The contrast between meaning vs happiness reveals a deeper question about how we orient our lives. Happiness focuses on how we feel in the moment. Meaning speaks to why we live as we do. When happiness becomes the primary goal, life can feel unstable, shaped by moods and circumstances that are constantly changing.

Meaning offers a different center of gravity. It allows life to hold complexity, including struggle and uncertainty, without losing coherence. A meaningful life is not defined by constant pleasure, but by alignment with values that give direction and substance to experience.

When meaning guides our choices, happiness may still appear, but it is no longer required to justify our lives. Meaning provides continuity where happiness cannot, answering the deeper question of purpose with lived commitment rather than emotional certainty.

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How the Happiness Trap Shapes Our Fear of Suffering

When happiness is treated as the goal of life, suffering begins to feel like a mistake. Difficult emotions are no longer understood as meaningful experiences, but as problems to eliminate. This shift quietly changes how we relate to pain.

Why Suffering Becomes Something to Avoid

In a happiness-focused mindset, grief, failure, and uncertainty are seen as signs that something has gone wrong. The natural response is avoidance. Instead of meeting pain with curiosity or care, we rush to fix it, distract from it, or explain it away.

How Avoidance Narrows the Inner Life

Avoiding suffering also means ignoring the messages it carries. Sadness can point to loss. Anxiety may signal misalignment. Restlessness often reflects unlived longing. When these signals are suppressed, the inner life becomes smaller and less honest.

What Changes When Suffering Is Given Meaning

Meaning allows suffering to be held without being denied or dramatized. Pain does not disappear, but it gains context. When suffering is understood as part of a meaningful life, it no longer defines us. It becomes something we can endure, learn from, and integrate.

Jungian Psychology and Why Meaning Matters More Than Happiness

From a Jungian psychology perspective, happiness alone is too limited a task for the human psyche. Carl Jung observed that psychological distress often arises not from a lack of pleasure, but from a lack of meaning. The psyche seeks wholeness, even when that path is uncomfortable.

Why the Psyche Seeks Wholeness, Not Pleasure

The psyche is oriented toward growth and integration. Happiness may appear along the way, but it is not the aim. Jung understood that inner development often requires tension, conflict, and honest confrontation with the self, experiences that do not always feel pleasant but are essential to becoming whole.

The Difference Between Adaptation and Meaning

A person can adapt well to social expectations while feeling inwardly lost. Jung distinguished between fitting in and living in alignment with the deeper self. Happiness can result from adaptation. Meaning emerges when we listen to the psyche’s demands, even when they disrupt familiar roles or identities.

Why Meaning Sustains Us When Happiness Fails

Happiness fluctuates with circumstance. Meaning endures because it is rooted in values and inner truth. Jungian psychology suggests that meaning provides the structure needed to hold suffering without collapse, offering depth and continuity when pleasure alone cannot.

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Finding Life Meaning Through Jungian Psychology and the Shadow

Finding life meaning often requires turning toward what we have avoided. In Jungian psychology, the shadow represents parts of ourselves that were set aside in order to belong, succeed, or remain acceptable. These disowned aspects do not disappear. They shape our lives quietly, often showing up as dissatisfaction or inner conflict.

When the shadow is ignored, happiness can become a defense against discomfort. Positivity replaces honesty, and meaning gives way to performance. Over time, this creates inner division and a sense that something essential is missing.

Reclaiming the shadow restores depth and vitality. This process is explored in Knowing Your Shadow, which emphasizes that wholeness, not happiness, is the psyche’s deeper aim. Meaning emerges as we integrate what was once rejected and allow ourselves to live more fully and truthfully.

The Purpose of Life Beyond Comfort, Pleasure, and Certainty

If happiness is not life’s goal, the question of purpose becomes unavoidable. A depth-oriented view suggests that the purpose of life is not comfort or emotional ease, but engagement with what feels meaningful, even when it brings uncertainty or challenge.

A life organized around comfort tends to shrink. Choices are guided by avoidance rather than calling, and over time, this can dull vitality. Meaning, by contrast, asks for participation. It draws us into responsibility, relationship, and creative response to life as it is.

This understanding is reflected in A Life of Meaning, which frames purpose as something lived through honest commitment rather than emotional reward. Meaning does not promise happiness, but it offers direction, depth, and a sense of inner coherence.

Midlife, Jungian Psychology, and the Second Half of Life

Midlife often marks a turning point where the pursuit of happiness begins to lose its power. Roles, achievements, and identities that once provided direction may no longer satisfy. From a Jungian psychology perspective, this is not a crisis to fix, but a signal that a deeper task is emerging.

The first half of life is largely shaped by adaptation to the outer world. The second half calls for inward attention, meaning, and reconciliation with what has been left unlived. This transition can feel disorienting, especially if happiness has been the primary guide.

This shift is explored in The Second Half of Life, which frames midlife as an invitation to reorient around meaning rather than achievement. What matters now is not restoring happiness, but living with greater honesty and inner authority.

Living an Examined Life and the Search for Meaning vs Happiness

Living an examined life asks us to question the assumptions shaping our pursuit of happiness. Without reflection, happiness is often chased automatically, guided by habit, expectation, or fear of discomfort rather than inner truth. Examination interrupts this pattern and opens space for meaning.

This kind of reflection is not about self-improvement. It is about awareness. By noticing where we are living on autopilot, we begin to see what actually matters and where our lives may feel misaligned.

This orientation is central to Living an Examined Life by James Hollis, which emphasizes that meaning arises through sustained self-inquiry rather than external success. An examined life may not guarantee happiness, but it offers clarity, integrity, and depth.

A Life of Meaning and the Ongoing Practice of Finding Life Meaning

A life of meaning is not something we achieve once and hold onto. It is shaped through ongoing attention, honest choice, and responsiveness to what matters. Meaning grows through lived commitment, not emotional consistency.

Finding life meaning requires patience and presence. It unfolds through responsibility, creativity, and service, often during moments that challenge comfort rather than reinforce it. Meaning does not eliminate difficulty, but it gives difficulty direction.

When meaning becomes central, happiness may still arise, but it is no longer the measure of a life’s value. Meaning provides continuity, depth, and a steady orientation, even as feelings change.

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Final Thoughts

The pursuit of happiness often leaves little room for the realities of loss, uncertainty, and change. When happiness becomes the standard, suffering can feel like something has gone wrong. Meaning offers a steadier orientation. It does not eliminate difficulty, but it gives difficulty context.

A meaningful life asks for honesty, presence, and commitment to what feels true. Happiness may come and go, but meaning provides depth and resilience. It allows us to live fully, even when joy is fleeting, and answers remain unfinished.

Frequently Asked Questions About Why the Pursuit of Happiness May Be Making You Miserable

Is happiness a bad goal to have?

Happiness itself is not harmful. Problems arise when happiness is treated as life’s primary purpose rather than a passing emotional state.

What does meaning vs happiness really mean?

It describes the difference between seeking pleasant feelings and seeking a life shaped by values, responsibility, and inner alignment.

Why do people feel empty even when life is going well?

External success and comfort can coexist with inner emptiness when deeper psychological needs for meaning are unmet.

Does choosing meaning mean choosing suffering?

No. Meaning does not seek suffering, but it allows difficulty to be faced without defining life as broken.

How does culture influence our obsession with happiness?

Modern culture often frames happiness as a personal achievement, creating pressure to feel good regardless of life circumstances.

Can meaning change over time?

Yes. Meaning evolves as life unfolds, especially during transitions such as loss, aging, or changes in identity.

Is the purpose of life the same for everyone?

No. While the need for meaning is universal, how meaning is expressed is deeply personal.

Why does happiness feel so fragile?

Happiness depends on mood and circumstance, which are constantly shifting and largely beyond control.

Can a meaningful life still include joy?

Yes. Joy often arises naturally when life feels purposeful, but it is no longer treated as a requirement.

How do I begin shifting from happiness to meaning?

By paying attention to what feels deeply true, even when it is uncomfortable, and allowing that awareness to guide choices.

Michelle Cassandra Johnson is an author, activist, spiritual teacher, racial equity consultant, and intuitive healer. She is the author of six books, including Skill in Action and Finding Refuge. Amy Burtaine is a leadership coach and racial equity trainer. With Robin DiAngelo, she is the coauthor of The Facilitator’s Guide for White Affinity Groups. For more, visit https://www.michellecjohnson.com/wisdom-of-the-hive.

Ky Dickens On The Telepathy Tapes: What Science Is Tel...

For many of us, consciousness is like looking out across a fog-covered horizon, sensing there is more beyond our view while struggling to explain experiences that seem to reach past the boundaries of ordinary understanding.

At Sounds True, we share transformational teachings, online programs, podcasts, and learning experiences that help illuminate life’s deepest questions and support the unfolding journey of spiritual awakening and personal growth.

In this piece, we examine what Ky Dickens’ The Telepathy Tapes podcast is revealing about consciousness and why these conversations are inviting both researchers and spiritual seekers to reconsider what may be possible.

Key Takeaways:

  • Consciousness Remains an Open Question: The conversations surrounding The Telepathy Tapes highlight how much remains to be learned about the nature of awareness.
  • Human Connection Extends Beyond Conventional Assumption: The podcast encourages a broader reflection on communication, presence, and the ways people relate to one another.
  • Curiosity and Discernment Can Coexist: The most meaningful conversations about consciousness often balance open-minded inquiry with thoughtful consideration of the evidence.

Ky Dickens Telepathy Tapes: Following The Evidence Into New Questions

Ky Dickens began The Telepathy Tapes by following stories that were difficult to explain, especially accounts from families of non-speaking autistic people who described forms of connection beyond ordinary speech. Rather than forcing quick conclusions, her work invites us to stay close to the evidence and listen with care.

These conversations ask us to consider what may be overlooked when intelligence is measured only through conventional language or behavior. They also open a tender doorway into the dignity, awareness, and inner lives of people whose communication may not fit familiar expectations.

For spiritual seekers, the deeper question is not only “Is telepathy real?” but “What kind of consciousness are we living within?” Ky Dickens’ work encourages a grounded curiosity, one that honors mystery while still asking for careful attention, integrity, and compassion.

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What The Telepathy Tapes Podcast Reveals About Human Connection

At its heart, the telepathy tapes podcast invites us to reflect on the many ways human beings connect beyond spoken words.

Connection Beyond Language

One of the most moving themes in the podcast is the idea that communication may not be limited to speech alone. Families and caregivers share experiences that suggest meaningful connection can emerge through forms of awareness that are not yet fully understood.

The Power Of Deep Presence

Many of the stories point to the importance of listening with openness and attention. In these moments, connection becomes less about exchanging information and more about meeting another person in a space of genuine presence.

Rethinking What It Means To Be Understood

The podcast encourages us to look beyond assumptions about communication, intelligence, and human potential. By doing so, it raises important questions about how we recognize and honor the inner lives of others.

A Shared Field Of Relationship

While many of the experiences discussed remain subjects of ongoing inquiry, they point toward a profound sense of interconnectedness. For spiritual seekers, this possibility resonates with teachings that suggest we are far more deeply connected than we often realize.

Why Telepathy Research Is Drawing Attention Across Disciplines

Telepathy research is attracting interest from a growing range of researchers who are asking deeper questions about consciousness, perception, and human connection.

Questions That Extend Beyond One Field

The experiences discussed in The Telepathy Tapes touch on psychology, neuroscience, education, and consciousness studies. As a result, the conversation has expanded beyond any single discipline and into broader inquiries about how human awareness works.

Looking More Closely At Anomalous Experiences

Researchers have long documented experiences that people struggle to explain through conventional models alone. While these reports do not provide all the answers, they continue to invite thoughtful investigation rather than immediate dismissal.

The Search For Better Frameworks

Many scientists acknowledge that consciousness remains one of the most challenging mysteries in modern research. This has encouraged some scholars to consider new frameworks that can account for experiences that fall outside current assumptions.

Bridging Science And Lived Experience

One reason this topic resonates with so many people is that it connects research with deeply personal experiences of intuition, connection, and knowing. The ongoing dialogue creates space for both careful inquiry and genuine curiosity about what it means to be human.

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How Consciousness Science Is Expanding The Conversation

Consciousness science is a field that brings together researchers from many backgrounds who share a common question: How does awareness arise, and what is its relationship to the world around us? As new findings emerge, some scientists are beginning to examine possibilities that extend beyond a strictly brain-centered view of consciousness.

The conversations sparked by The Telepathy Tapes reflect this growing openness to inquiry while remaining grounded in careful observation and research. For many spiritual seekers, these developments offer an encouraging reminder that science and inner experience can sometimes meet in the shared pursuit of understanding what it means to be conscious.

What Non Local Consciousness Suggests About The Nature Of Awareness

Non local consciousness invites us to consider the possibility that awareness may extend beyond the limits we typically associate with the individual mind.

A Different View Of Consciousness

Traditional models often view consciousness as something produced entirely within the brain. Emerging conversations in this field ask if consciousness may be more fundamental, with the brain acting as a receiver or expression of a larger reality.

Connection Beyond Physical Distance

Many accounts discussed in The Telepathy Tapes raise questions about how people can experience moments of connection that seem unaffected by space or separation. While these experiences remain the subject of ongoing inquiry, they encourage a broader conversation about the nature of human awareness.

Ancient Wisdom Meets Modern Questions

Teachings from many spiritual traditions have long described an underlying interconnectedness that links all life. Some researchers see value in examining these perspectives alongside contemporary studies of consciousness and perception.

Living With Openness And Discernment

The idea of non local consciousness does not require abandoning critical thinking or accepting every claim at face value. Instead, it invites us to remain curious, grounded, and receptive to the possibility that consciousness may be far more expansive than we currently understand.

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Final Thoughts

The Telepathy Tapes podcast invites us into a thoughtful exploration of consciousness, connection, and the mysteries that continue to inspire both scientific inquiry and spiritual reflection. As these conversations unfold, they remind us that staying curious, compassionate, and open to new possibilities can deepen our understanding of ourselves and one another.

Frequently Asked Questions About Telepathy Tapes Podcast

Who is Ky Dickens?

Ky Dickens is an award-winning filmmaker and storyteller known for examining complex questions about human experience and consciousness.

What inspired Ky Dickens to create The Telepathy Tapes?

She was inspired by reports of unusual communication experiences shared by families, caregivers, and researchers.

Is The Telepathy Tapes intended for a scientific audience only?

No, the podcast is designed for anyone interested in consciousness, communication, and human potential.

What makes The Telepathy Tapes different from other consciousness podcasts?

It combines personal stories, expert interviews, and thought-provoking questions in a highly accessible format.

Does the podcast include interviews with experts?

Yes, the series features conversations with researchers, practitioners, and others who bring diverse perspectives to the discussion.

Why has the podcast gained so much attention?

Many listeners are drawn to its thoughtful examination of topics that challenge conventional assumptions about human awareness.

Is The Telepathy Tapes based on personal stories?

Yes, personal experiences are a central part of the podcast’s storytelling approach.

How does storytelling contribute to the impact of the podcast?

Storytelling helps listeners connect emotionally with complex ideas and questions.

How has The Telepathy Tapes influenced public conversations about consciousness?

The podcast has encouraged wider discussion about consciousness among researchers, spiritual seekers, and the general public.

Why are spiritual seekers interested in The Telepathy Tapes?

Many spiritual seekers are drawn to the podcast because it raises meaningful questions about awareness, connection, and the nature of reality.

Michelle Cassandra Johnson is an author, activist, spiritual teacher, racial equity consultant, and intuitive healer. She is the author of six books, including Skill in Action and Finding Refuge. Amy Burtaine is a leadership coach and racial equity trainer. With Robin DiAngelo, she is the coauthor of The Facilitator’s Guide for White Affinity Groups. For more, visit https://www.michellecjohnson.com/wisdom-of-the-hive.

Love the Ones You’re With

Despite the fact that I’ve worked at Sounds True for more than five years now, I am continually awed by the depth of connection and adoration that my fellow employees and I have for one another. I’m not talking about the standard workplace relationships that we’ve all experienced at one time or another—these aren’t your average water cooler discussions, folks. I’m talking about a genuine (and, in my experience, unparalleled) level of care, compassion, and investment that we continually take in one another’s wellbeing and in paying attention to our feelings.

If I’m honest, after working for other organizations—particularly in corporate America—this modus operandi can take some getting used to. I distinctly recall my first team meeting here at Sounds True, which started with a check-in. Check-ins are an opportunity for each person in the meeting to take a moment to express how they’re doing. I incorrectly assumed that each check-in would be project or deadline related—instead people were talking about the challenges of raising a teenager, caring for a sick parent, their impending divorce, or simply feeling stressed and overwhelmed. Imagine my surprise!

You may be asking what these kinds of check-ins have to do with work…the answer is absolutely everything. This simple act of sharing not only encourages us to really show up and to authentically express ourselves, it goes a long way in helping us understand why someone may take a bit longer to respond one day, why they may react a certain way, or why their level of engagement may vary—and, instead of feeling offended or taking that behavior personally, we’re able to respond with compassion and empathy. While it may seem the contrary, this honest expression actually makes space for the human experience and ultimately leads to a more productive and cohesive work environment.

As Fred Kofman, Sounds True’s author of Conscious Business: How to Build Value Through Values says, “Culture is as essential a part of the organization’s infrastructure as its technology; perhaps it is even more essential.” I have no doubt that one of the most essential aspects of Trueski culture is our ability to feel and to truly empathize with one another. We mourn the passing of parents and children and beloved canine/feline companions. We console through heartache and divorce. We unabashedly ooh and aah in celebration of babies. We cheer for marriages and anniversaries and love. We make mistakes and ask for forgiveness. We express appreciation and admiration. We express frustration and exasperation. We dance at company parties. We drink scotch in honor of triumphs and defeats. We show up and love the ones we’re with…and, boy, are we lucky to be with them.

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Honoring an Irreducible Truth in Ferguson

During this morning’s run, I was talking with my friend about the fear and frustration we’d both been feeling about Ferguson, Missouri, among other places. What can we do? we asked each other. If it came down to it, would we be able to stand against the so-called authorities armed with tear gas, guns, and hoses?

I told my friend about the only time I’d come close to anything like it. The KKK was marching in a little town a few miles east of my college campus, and a small group of us organized ourselves in protest. We brought in advisors to teach us how to remain calm in crisis. We knew our history; we’d seen the footage; we were afraid. We also knew that remaining silent wasn’t an option. We boarded the bus in silence, and when we got there, we linked arms and lined the street peacefully, waiting for the hate group to come streaming up the road. It was summer then, but I remember feeling a chill that raised gooseflesh on my arms.

A few minutes later a pathetic bunch of ragtag malcontents rounded the corner—the odd skinhead here, old grizzled men there, and bored teen goths sprinkled in—all spewing the tired epithets we’d heard before: “____ go home… .”

After our protest, we boarded the bus and headed back toward campus.

Once returned to the relative safety of familiar surroundings, we’d talk about how sad the hate group looked. Their outfits didn’t even match! we’d laugh. They weren’t even marching in step together! Weren’t they supposed to be organized better than that?

But this morning, we weren’t laughing.

Every time events like these erupt, I wonder what there is to do about it. Up to this point, I’ve signed petitions, I’ve written essays and articles, made calls, protested, volunteered, minded my business, went back to bed, wrung my hands, paced the floors, pumped my fists, prayed, held loved ones close, fundraised, danced, run, sung, and sweated for the cause. I’ve cried, fretted, and did it all again. And I’ll keep on doing it.

I recently turned to a memorial delivered by Dr. Howard Thurman in the aftermath of Dr. King’s murder. I was searching for words to articulate the frustration, pain and loss of another senseless killing and the ongoing struggle for equality and peace for so many in America. The Living Wisdom of Howard Thurman remains painfully, powerfully, resonant today:

Tonight there is a vast temptation to strike out in pain, horror, and anger. Riding just under the surface, all the pent up fury, the accumulation of a generation’s cruelty and brutality. A way must be found to honor our feeling without dishonoring him whose sudden and meaningless end has called him forth. May we harness the energy of our bitterness and make it available to the unfinished work which Martin has left behind. It may be—it just may be—that what he was unable to bring to pass in his life, can be achieved by the act of his dying. For this there is eloquent precedence in human history. He was killed in one sense because mankind is not human yet. May he live because all of us in America are closer to becoming human than we ever were before.

I wish I could tell you of the tremendous love and worry I feel for my brothers, for my beautiful nephews, especially, and for the precious children of my friends.

Today, I’m open to new ideas—to whatever helps me keep my heart open, my love alive. It’s an imperative for me because I am the beneficiary of an irreducible truth, which is this: love is all there is.

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E31: The Mind Unveiled: From Addiction to Awareness

The mind is a high-vibration energy field out of which thoughts and perceptions are created. Unfortunately, people often mistakenly identify with their thoughts and past experiences, instead of the consciousness that is aware of them. Simply observing the mind without attachment helps release emotional and mental constraints and leads to spiritual awakening. True liberation involves using the mind as a tool rather than being controlled by it.

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