This audio book provided me with insight about myself and my partner, as well as other relationships in my life. It was like Stan Tatkin was inside my head knowing all the pieces. I like the author's voice as well.

It seemed very black and white, without much insight into complex relationships that don't fall under his classifications. It also doesn't seem to include ppl who are quite self-aware + have already done a lot of work. For example, i'm definitely in his 'island' category as per my upbringing, but 80% of what he says about me as an adult doesn't apply: i'm not motivated by shame, i don't become more secretive in relationship but the opposite, i do enjoy close physical contact + do not want my partner to get it in their head that they should 'pull away sooner than they feel' to 'give me space'. i do lose track of time, but i don't think that's due to my relationship style; and yes, i enjoy spending time alone but so does my 'wave' friend who gets overstimulated by too much interaction.

To me, i see island, wave anchor in everyone in different aspects -- at which point the terms don't really have any use anymore.

I also don't like his statements 'everybody's a burden', 'everybody's annoying', etc. It's our perception of someone being these things that exists in reality, not that they are intrinsically so, ie 'we feel annoyed by X that Y did'.

This audio book is FANTASTIC! From the scientific data easily explained, to the examples and content. Stan's voice is so easy to listen to. What is outlined is a relationship that I would want to truly be a part of. Stan is a visoneer backed up by sound research.

I really enjoyed this program and have listened to it a few times now. It's full of useful and practical information and teaches you a lot about yourself that is helpful. Wether you're single or with someone this is a fantastic and enjoyable to listen to program. Worth every penny :)

Thank you.

I loved everything about this book. The author humbly starts off by telling the story of his divorce; while he was counselling others as a marriage therapist. This sets the tone for the entire book.

His findings and analysis are based on hard science but more importantly his anecdotes are from the heart. The content appealed to both my left and right brain and I feel more confident going into my next relationship because of what I learned from this book.

A++++ and a must read for anyone who wants to have an authentic and fulfilling relationship despite the rumble of past loves which you might find yourself emerging from.

Enjoy!