Your Brain on Love

The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships

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Course objectives:

  • Define and recognize your attachment style and the attachment style of your partner—the ways in which we respond, react, and interact with others, particularly in close relationships.
  • Discuss ways in which your attachment style has informed your previous and current relationships.
  • Explain how to use your attachment style as a tool to change the way you relate with others, opening the door to greater love and attachment with others.

Shift Out of Conflict and into Connection, Safety, and Intimacy

“Improve your brain, improve your relationships.” That's what Stan Tatkin has learned from his leading-edge work as a researcher and couples therapist. In this complete audio learning program, he merges current insights from neurobiology and attachment theory to help you shift out of conflict and into deeper and more loving connections.

You'll first learn to identify attachment styles—patterns of intimacy that begin in the earliest years—both in yourself and in those around you. Then Tatkin guides you through his proven principles and practices for building enduring security and commitment between partners, family members, and others whom you love. Join him to explore:

  • The warring brain versus the loving brain
  • When your brain's threat response is getting in the way of love
  • How to avoid triggering fear and help your partner feel safe and secure
  • Simple gestures and words to put out emotional fires
  • The power of rituals to build trust and intimacy
  • How to make your relationship a sanctuary, and more

Based upon key insights from neurobiology, attachment theory, and emotion regulation research, Your Brain on Love will show you how to change the way you relate with others and open the way to greater love and connection.


  • The neurobiology of mating—who we choose and why
  • The neurobiology of commitment—building security, the foundation of a healthy relationship
  • Anchor, Island, and Wave types: understanding your attachment style and those of others
  • “Is it you or is it me?” Understanding how the attachment styles of others interact with your own.
  • Experiencing healthy conflict through social contracts, ground rules, and awareness
  • Creating a lifelong plan to continue deepening your relationships

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Provided me with insight. Review by Topanga Gal

This audio book provided me with insight about myself and my partner, as well as other relationships in my life. It was like Stan Tatkin was inside my head knowing all the pieces. I like the author's voice as well.

(Posted on 3/25/2016)

oversimplified Review by priya

It seemed very black and white, without much insight into complex relationships that don't fall under his classifications. It also doesn't seem to include ppl who are quite self-aware + have already done a lot of work. For example, i'm definitely in his 'island' category as per my upbringing, but 80% of what he says about me as an adult doesn't apply: i'm not motivated by shame, i don't become more secretive in relationship but the opposite, i do enjoy close physical contact + do not want my partner to get it in their head that they should 'pull away sooner than they feel' to 'give me space'. i do lose track of time, but i don't think that's due to my relationship style; and yes, i enjoy spending time alone but so does my 'wave' friend who gets overstimulated by too much interaction.

To me, i see island, wave anchor in everyone in different aspects -- at which point the terms don't really have any use anymore.

I also don't like his statements 'everybody's a burden', 'everybody's annoying', etc. It's our perception of someone being these things that exists in reality, not that they are intrinsically so, ie 'we feel annoyed by X that Y did'.

(Posted on 2/12/2015)

Love Relationships - How to do it right!! Review by Karen

This audio book is FANTASTIC! From the scientific data easily explained, to the examples and content. Stan's voice is so easy to listen to. What is outlined is a relationship that I would want to truly be a part of. Stan is a visoneer backed up by sound research.

(Posted on 12/17/2014)

Excellent, I'm sure everyone will learn something good from this. Review by Elley

I really enjoyed this program and have listened to it a few times now. It's full of useful and practical information and teaches you a lot about yourself that is helpful. Wether you're single or with someone this is a fantastic and enjoyable to listen to program. Worth every penny :)
Thank you.

(Posted on 12/4/2014)

Hands down the best relationship book I've ever "read" Review by Niki

I loved everything about this book. The author humbly starts off by telling the story of his divorce; while he was counselling others as a marriage therapist. This sets the tone for the entire book.

His findings and analysis are based on hard science but more importantly his anecdotes are from the heart. The content appealed to both my left and right brain and I feel more confident going into my next relationship because of what I learned from this book.

A++++ and a must read for anyone who wants to have an authentic and fulfilling relationship despite the rumble of past loves which you might find yourself emerging from.


(Posted on 11/27/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Lauren P

For the most part, this is an excellent, thought-provoking and helpful recording. Stan Tatkin gives a lot of information, insights and new ideas to think about and apply to relationships. The one down side is for those who have a background in attachment theory. Some of what Tatkin discusses is a bit overgeneralised and overcategorised and that can be frustrating at times. I still very much appreciate his knowledge and new ways of presenting information for couples.

(Posted on 10/4/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Binyomin A

everything is fine. a good product well packaged

(Posted on 8/28/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Kat P

Loved this in depth and scientific look at relationships. Highly recommend for anyone in a relationship, would like to be in one, or for anyone going through a rough patch. Really makes one more aware of how they themselves behave in relation to another person. Really eye opening .

(Posted on 8/22/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Sherri M

Well worth anybody's time!

(Posted on 4/15/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Kathy

This audio program has inspired seismic "ah ha!" moments of insight and realization for me. I recently experienced the final ending of a relationship where we tried three separate times to make a go of long term partnership but could never overcome predictably repeated obstacles. Listening to Stan's description of the wave and island styles and the perils of one or both partners threatening the security and stability of the relationship helped illuminate the reasons we couldn't make it. Now I feel a sense of hope emerge from the failure and loss I've been feeling since our break up. I plan to listen and re- listen so that I can build the tools for a mutually "principled" partnership in the future. Many thanks to Stan and the brilliant way he's applied attachment theory and neuroscience in such a practical, encouraging way.

(Posted on 4/14/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Debra M

My husband and I have only listened to the first two CD's so far, but we both can really connect with what he has to say, and have high hope that working through Stan Tatkin's CD's and book will give us the knowledge and tools that we need to make a change in our relationship. His view that we willingly take on each other as a burden, and our partner's past is a part of that rings true with us, much truer than the "happily ever after" that our society seems to believe in.

(Posted on 4/11/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by alison r

I found it biased towards attachment theory and overly simplistic

(Posted on 4/9/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Happy G.

Excellent course. Loved everything about this course. Easy to understand, real life examples. Thank you.

(Posted on 3/17/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Trent S

Great stuff! Sound advice for anyone wanting to understand how we get into relationship and why we are the way we are. This cutting edge information was a relationship game-changer for me!

(Posted on 3/14/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Tina

This program gives very useful perspectives on the behaviors of our partners and ourselves. It explains why we approach conflicts differently, and, with that knowledge, we can act to help our loved one feel better quickly and then transition into shared activities to heal and strengthen our bond.

Note for Sounds True Engineers: this audio lacks the outro that is heard on many of the newer programs!

(Posted on 2/25/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by David M

It is such a relief to reinterpret my partner's reactions in the light of Stan Tatkin's insights, to understand her needs better and and to have clues to help her feel better in times of distress.
Very helpful, simple, sensible and clear.
I wished I had know that years ago…

(Posted on 2/12/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Sharon A

This is EXCELLENT! It needs to be given to every couple to listen to before moving into marriage or a committed relationship. I've listened to this presentation several times and so appreciate the wisdom and knowledge Stan shares for those in new as well as very long term relationships.

(Posted on 2/10/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Marie Poulin

This program is one of the best things I've ever stumbled upon. I think every human being should have to take this as a pre-requisite for life and relationships. I feel like I started seeing everyone differently after this, not just my partner. The level of understanding it created with my partner was unbelievable. The lessons will stay with me forever. Thank you Stan!! :D

(Posted on 1/10/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Dr Rory R I

I appreciate the psychobiological approach_being an attachment-based psychologist it provides some useful teaching.

(Posted on 1/1/2014)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Robert N

I love this audio book. Has shown me a lot about myself as well as my partner.

(Posted on 12/25/2013)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Cynthia K

The insights and advice are unexpected and important. Highly recommended to anyone who values relationships, or thinks they do.

(Posted on 12/11/2013)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Dominique G

Your Brain on Love audio set is without a doubt the best relationship series I have encountered, Stan's voice is so soothing, and the rather voluminous content so easy to follow and understand (and use) that I have no hesitation whatsoever in recommending this to anyone, whether in a relationship or not - It will help give valuable insights to ANY relationship you have in life. I cannot praise this enough. This set is an absolute gem. Five Stars from me.

(Posted on 9/16/2013)

Review for Your Brain on Love Review by Suzanna Gratz

I absolutely LOVE this CD set. Not only that, my reluctant partner volunteered that he felt it was the best relationship coaching audio program he's ever heard. I recommend listening, as we are, to each CD a few times to glean all the information he offers. Even after three listens, I'm still finding deeper wisdom. Cannot recommend more highly!

(Posted on 8/13/2013)



Contents 6 CDs (5 hours, 50 minutes)
Date Published July 01, 2013
ISBN-10 1-60407-968-1
ISBN-13 978-1-60407-968-5
Dimensions 5 x 5 inches
Product Code AF03078D

Audio Download

Contents Audio download (5 hours, 50 minutes)
Filetypes M4B, MP3, PDF, ZIP
Date Published July 01, 2013
ISBN-13 978-1-60407-986-9
Product Code AF03078W

CE Credits

Contents 5.5 CE credits
Date Published July 01, 2013
Product Code CE04034