Though I’m fairly certain you’ve heard otherwise, emotions are a vital part of everything you are: every thought, every choice, every relationship, every dream, every failure, every triumph, every act of violence, and every act of love. When you can learn their language, you can change your life for the better.
And when we can all learn their language, we can change the world.
Hello! I’m Karla McLaren, and I’m excited to announce the upcoming release of the revised and updated edition of The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You, which will be available in bookstores on June 27th.
Whether you’re a reader of the original Language of Emotions, or if you’re new to this work, I welcome you to this complete guide to the wisdom in every emotion you have.
The original 2010 version of The Language of Emotions was the first book to approach the emotions in terms of how they function, what they do, and how to work with them. Instead of treating emotions as problems to be solved or eradicated, I focused on them as essential aspects of meaning-making, behavior, and intelligence (which is what they truly are). I approached the emotional realm as an intelligent system that requires all of its members, including tragically disrespected emotions such as shame, anxiety, depression, jealousy, envy, panic, and the suicidal urge (among others). And in so doing, I discovered the healing messages inside all emotions.
But because most of us have been taught to distrust emotions, I was working without a net as I wrote the original version of this book, and I missed some things. Now, after more than a decade of further research and practice, and with the support and camaraderie of an international community of colleagues and friends, I’ve had the opportunity to understand the emotions more deeply.
For centuries, emotions have been repressed, idealized, distrusted, and even despised, yet they were never truly understood. I’m honored to share this updated celebration of the brilliance, ingenuity, healing power, and jaw-dropping genius of our emotions.
Welcome!
Karla McLaren, M.Ed.
Karla McLaren, M.Ed., is an award-winning author, social science researcher, and empathy innovator. She is CEO of Emotion Dynamics Inc., developer of Dynamic Emotional Integration®, and creator of EmpathyAcademy.org. Karla is the author of Embracing Anxiety, The Dynamic Emotional Integration Workbook, The Art of Empathy, The Power of Emotions at Work, and the multimedia online course Emotional Flow: Becoming Fluent in the Language of Emotions. For more, visit karlamclaren.com.
Karla McLaren, M.Ed., is an award-winning author, social science researcher, and empathy innovator. She is CEO of Emotion Dynamics, developer of Dynamic Emotional Integration®, and creator of EmpathyAcademy.org. Karla is the author of Embracing Anxiety, The Dynamic Emotional Integration Workbook, The Art of Empathy, The Power of Emotions at Work, and the multimedia online course Emotional Flow: Becoming Fluent in the Language of Emotions. For more, visit karlamclaren.com.
Emotions are Vital Aspects of Thinking, Acting, and Working
People once believed that emotions were the opposite of rationality, or that they were lower than or inferior to our allegedly logical processes. But decades of research on emotions and the brain have overturned those outdated beliefs, and we understand now that emotions are indispensable parts of rationality, logic, and consciousness itself. In fact, emotions contain their own internal logic, and they help us orient ourselves successfully within our social environments. Emotions help us attach meaning to data, they help us understand ourselves and others, and they help us identify problems and opportunities. Emotions don’t get in the way of rationality; they lead the way, because they’re vital to everything we think and everything we do. Emotions aren’t the problem; they’re pointing to the problem, and they’re trying to bring us the precise intelligence and energy we need to deal with the problem.
In this book, we’ll learn how to listen to emotions as uniquely intelligent carriers of information, and how to build healthy and effective social and emotional environments at work – not by ignoring or silencing emotions (you can’t), but by listening to them closely, learning their language, and creating a communal set of emotional skills that everyone can rely on. This work is not difficult at all, but it can be unusual in an environment that wrongly treats emotions as soft, irrational, or unprofessional.
The serious problems we’ve baked into the workplace don’t come from any specific management style or ideology, so I won’t focus on managers or leaders as if they’re uniquely powerful or uniquely to blame. These problems also aren’t limited to specific occupations or income brackets (though low-wage work is regularly dehumanizing and hazardous); these are long-term, widespread problems based on a failed workplace model – and on an outdated social and emotional approach that does not support (or in many cases, even comprehend) human relationships and human needs.
This book is the result of decades of exploration and study into how the workplace got to be so unworkable, plus decades of experience in how to access the existing genius in people’s emotional responses (in surprisingly simple ways once you understand how emotions and empathy work). With the help of the genius in our emotions, we can create emotionally well-regulated and worthwhile places for all of us to earn our living and spend our lives.
Luckily, we don’t have to do anything special to welcome emotions into the workplace, or even to make room for them, because emotions are and always have been in the workplace. They’re in the responses people have to workplace abuses; they’re in disengaged workers; they’re in workers seeking other jobs while on the job; they’re in workers who rightly avoid communicating upward about serious problems; they’re in low-wage workers who learn how to survive in hellscapes like call centers, fast-food restaurants, gig work, and robot-like warehouse jobs; they’re in living-wage workers who tolerate unhealthy workplaces because they can’t afford to leave their health insurance behind; and they’re in high-wage workers who may have to bow down to their superiors and compete with their colleagues to be seen as “winners” – and whose experiences of workplace abuse may not be taken seriously because they make so much money and therefore have no right to complain.
We can also see the emotions in our responses to workplace successes; in our healthy working relationships; in the ways we gather together to solve problems; in the ways empathic workers and leaders empower everyone around them; in the ways our colleagues support us when we’re struggling; in the ways businesses step up in times of loss; in the ways we create open communication and humane workflows; in the ways we teach each other; in the benefits, support, flexibility, and living wages we provide for our workers; in the honest sharing of business difficulties or financial losses; and in the laughter we share on great days and rotten days.
Emotions are everywhere in the workplace because emotions are a central feature of human nature. They aren’t removable, and in fact, trying to remove them is a huge part of what created the failed workplace model we have today. Emotions are crucial to everything we do and to every aspect of our work; therefore, we’ll learn how to listen to emotions, work with them, and respect their intelligence. And in so doing, we’ll build a better workplace – and a better world – from the ground up.
Karla McLaren, M.Ed.
Karla McLaren, M.Ed., is an award-winning author, social science researcher, and empathy innovator. Explore her books and audios on the power of emotion and creativity here.
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Karla McLaren, M.Ed., is an award-winning author, social science researcher, and empathy innovator. She is CEO of Emotion Dynamics Inc., developer of Dynamic Emotional Integration®, and creator of EmpathyAcademy.org. Karla is the author of Embracing Anxiety, The Dynamic Emotional Integration Workbook, The Art of Empathy, The Power of Emotions at Work, and the multimedia online course Emotional Flow: Becoming Fluent in the Language of Emotions. For more, visit karlamclaren.com.
Karla McLaren is an award-winning author, social science researcher, and renowned expert in emotions and empathy. Her work focuses on her grand unified theory of emotions, which reconsiders how we think of “negative” emotions and opens new pathways into self-awareness, communication, and empathy. With Sounds True, Karla is the author of the landmark book The Language of Emotions, a book on The Art of Empathy, and a new book called The Power of Emotions at Work: Accessing the Vital Intelligence in Your Workplace. In this episode of Insights at the Edge, Tami Simon speaks with Karla about why the full range of emotions is necessary for us to bring forth our best thinking. They discuss the “toxic positivity bias” that has become the norm in the contemporary workplace, how this leads to widespread suffering and dysfunction, and how we can achieve an “emotionally well-regulated” workplace that works for all of us.
What is the “energy” in energy healing? Healers channel it. Patients reach for it. Ancient healing traditions built entire systems around it, and modern researchers are working to study it. But what is energy, biologically, physically, measurably…but also spiritually, and how does it move through the body to influence health and healing?
In this special feed takeover, we’re bringing you the season finale of Phenomena: The Science and Stories of Energy Healing, in which host Ivy Ross brings together three renowned scientists whose visions, taken together, begin to answer that question:
Martin Picard, PhD, of Columbia University, has spent his career studying mitochondria, the body’s cellular power sources, and has found them far more connected to our inner experience and consciousness than biomedicine ever assumed, and likely far more central to how we heal.
Richard Hammerschlag, PhD, co-authored the paper that helped define the modern science of the biofield: the organizing fields of energy and information that operate within the body and extend outward from it, echoing the nested qi fields of older healing traditions.
Neil Theise, MD, of NYU, helped identify the interstitium, a major recent discovery of a fluid-filled network running throughout the body that may explain how signals fundamental to health and healing actually travel.
Together, these three voices offer a compelling, deeply human vision of the body and mind not as a machine, but as a dynamic energetic ecosystem.
To close out the season, Ivy and researcher Meredith Sprengel also welcome special guest Jonathan Cohen, co-creator and executive producer of Mayim Bialik’s Breakdown, to help land these big ideas about energy, healing, and life.
This episode marks the finale of Phenomena‘s first season. To continue the journey and explore the full docuseries, visit phenomenahealing.com. →
Three in the morning. Brain already running. Every unfinished thing in your life suddenly very urgent. Sound familiar?
We pulled this week’s question because when Tami asked Martha Beck what to actually do in that moment, her answer was genuinely not what we were expecting. No breathwork protocol. No journaling prompt. What Martha offers is something way simpler — and honestly, kind of revolutionary in how low the bar is.
Martha Beck is a Harvard-trained sociologist, bestselling author, and one of the sharpest minds out there on anxiety and how we actually heal it. She’s been working through her own anxiety since childhood, and she’s arrived somewhere really good. (Spoiler: it involves audiobooks, furry blankets, and thinking like a golden retriever.)
Here’s some of what she gets into:
Why she plays Sounds True audiobooks at half-speed in the middle of the night — and why slowing down is the whole point
The self-kindness practice she uses when her brain won’t quit, including the exact question she asks herself
A story from Liz Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love about a two-word message that Martha keeps coming back to — it’s a good one
How decades of anxiety can actually rewire into something peaceful, and why what fires together really does wire together
Honestly, this one left us wanting to go take a nap. In the best way.
Taken from the full Insights at the Edge conversation with Martha Beck. Find the complete interview in this feed or at soundstrue.com.
This episode is sponsored by Omega Institute, a global gathering hub for lifelong learning and spiritual exploration. Omega offers weekend workshops, special events, rest and rejuvenation retreats, professional training, online learning, and more. Discover what calls to you ateomega.org/true.
Many people spend their lives avoiding discomfort. Cold weather sends us indoors, stress pushes us toward distraction, and physical tension becomes something we ignore until it feels impossible to avoid. Wim Hof approaches discomfort differently. Through cold exposure and breathwork, he teaches that moments of intensity can become opportunities to reconnect with the body, calm the mind, and build greater resilience. His methods have sparked global interest because they encourage people to experience awareness directly rather than simply think about it.
At Sounds True, we have spent decades sharing transformational teachings from respected spiritual teachers, wellness experts, and visionaries who help people deepen self awareness and reconnect with meaningful practices for inner growth. Conversations with voices like Wim Hof continue that mission by offering grounded approaches to resilience, presence, and the connection between body and mind.
Here, we discuss Wim Hof method benefits, the role of cold exposure and breathwork, and how these practices may support resilience, focus, and emotional balance.
Key Takeaways:
Nervous System Response: Learn how cold exposure and conscious breathing may influence stress regulation and emotional resilience.
Mind-Body Awareness: Understand how the Wim Hof method encourages greater presence, focus, and connection with physical sensations.
Adaptation Through Discomfort: See how controlled cold exposure can help strengthen mental steadiness and the body’s natural adaptability.
Why Wim Hof Calls Cold a Noble Force
Wim Hof sees cold as a way to reconnect with the body and sharpen awareness. The moment people encounter cold, breathing changes, attention focuses, and distractions fade. He believes modern comfort has weakened the body’s natural resilience, while cold exposure helps restore that connection. For Hof, learning to stay calm in the cold can also help people respond to stress and discomfort with greater steadiness in everyday life.
Wim Hof Method Benefits for Body and Mind
The Wim Hof method combines conscious breathing, cold exposure, and mental focus. Together, these practices are designed to strengthen the connection between body and mind while encouraging resilience under stress. Many people are drawn to the method because it feels deeply experiential rather than theoretical.
Before discussing specific benefits, it helps to understand that the method is rooted in adaptation. The body constantly responds to its environment, and Hof believes intentional exposure to manageable stress can help restore physical and emotional balance.
Physical Energy and Nervous System Support
One of the most discussed Wim Hof method benefits is increased energy and mental clarity. Many people report feeling more alert and refreshed after cold exposure practices. Cold immersion also activates the nervous system, encouraging people to regulate their breathing instead of reacting automatically to stress. Over time, this may support better focus, emotional steadiness, and recovery from stress.
Emotional Resilience Through Discomfort
The emotional side of the Wim Hof method is just as important as the physical practice. Through controlled discomfort, people learn to notice fear and stress without immediately reacting to them. By focusing on the breath and staying present, many practitioners develop greater emotional resilience and feel calmer during stressful situations in daily life.
How Wim Hof Breathing Supports Mental Clarity and Focus
Wim Hof breathing forms the foundation of the method and serves as a bridge between physical sensation and mental awareness. The breathing exercises involve deep rhythmic breathing followed by periods of breath retention, creating noticeable shifts within the body and mind.
For many people, breathing becomes shallow and unconscious during stressful moments. Tension accumulates quietly, and the nervous system remains in a reactive state without conscious awareness. Hof’s breathing practices encourage people to reconnect with the breath in a more intentional way.
How Conscious Breathing Influences Stress
The breath has a direct relationship with the body’s stress response. Rapid, shallow breathing can reinforce anxiety and tension, while slower and more deliberate breathing often encourages relaxation and stability.
Wim Hof breathing teaches people to become aware of those patterns rather than remaining trapped inside them unconsciously. During the breathing exercises, many people experience a sense of release as physical tension softens and attention becomes more grounded in the present moment.
This shift may help support emotional regulation throughout daily life. When stressful situations arise, conscious breathing can become an anchor that creates space between reaction and response.
Breathwork as a Practice of Presence
Breathwork also supports greater awareness and presence in everyday life and relationships. Many people describe Wim Hof breathing as both calming and energizing because it encourages deeper attention to the body, emotions, and mental patterns. Rather than avoiding discomfort, the breath becomes a tool for moving through it with greater awareness and steadiness.
Cold Exposure Benefits for Stress and Emotional Resilience
Cold exposure benefits extend beyond physical endurance or athletic recovery. Many people become interested in cold showers or ice baths because of the emotional and psychological effects associated with the practice.
Building Calm During Intensity
Stepping into cold water immediately activates the body’s stress response. Muscles tighten, breathing becomes rapid, and the mind often searches for escape. Hof teaches people to notice these reactions without becoming consumed by them.
By consciously slowing the breath and remaining present, practitioners begin training the nervous system to stay calmer under stress. This practice may gradually influence emotional resilience outside the cold itself. Situations that once triggered panic or overwhelm can begin to feel less consuming.
The experience also encourages patience and trust. Instead of reacting impulsively, people learn how to remain steady within intensity.
Reconnecting With Bodily Awareness
Cold exposure also creates a stronger relationship with physical awareness. Many people move through daily life disconnected from bodily sensation, carrying stress without fully recognizing it.
Cold immersion interrupts that disconnection. The body becomes impossible to ignore, and attention naturally returns to breathing, sensation, and presence. For many practitioners, this creates a renewed appreciation for the body’s intelligence and adaptability.
Ice Bath Benefits Beyond Physical Recovery
Ice bath benefits are often associated with athletic recovery, but the practice can influence mental and emotional well being as well.
Ice baths may support circulation and physical recovery after intense activity.
Many people report increased alertness and energy following cold immersion.
Ice baths encourage awareness of breathing and stress patterns.
Cold exposure creates opportunities to practice calmness under pressure.
Some practitioners describe greater emotional steadiness through regular practice.
Ice baths may strengthen resilience by teaching the body and mind to adapt together.
Although the physical effects often receive the most attention, many people continue the practice because of the emotional clarity it creates. Ice baths become less about endurance and more about awareness, patience, and presence.
The Wim Hof Method and the Science of Adaptation
A central principle within the Wim Hof method is that the human body is naturally designed to adapt. Hof often speaks about modern comfort as something that has weakened this connection with innate resilience.
Controlled exposure to cold challenges the body in manageable ways, encouraging adaptation without overwhelming the system. This process reflects a broader truth about human growth. People often become stronger not by avoiding difficulty entirely, but by learning how to remain present within challenge.
The method encourages a different relationship with stress. Instead of treating discomfort as something purely negative, practitioners begin viewing it as an opportunity for awareness and transformation.
How Wim Hof Breathing and Cold Exposure Benefits Work Together
Breathing exercises and cold exposure are deeply connected within Hof’s teachings. The breath prepares the body and mind for intensity, while the cold creates an immediate environment in which those tools can be practiced.
Together, these methods encourage people to slow reactive patterns and remain grounded during stress. Breathwork supports nervous system regulation, while cold exposure strengthens the ability to apply that regulation in real situations.
Many practitioners describe this combination as empowering because it creates direct experience rather than abstract theory. The lessons are felt physically, emotionally, and mentally all at once.
Bringing Wim Hof Method Benefits Into Everyday Life
Wim Hof often emphasizes that transformation does not require extreme challenges. Small, consistent practices can create meaningful shifts over time. Brief cold showers, intentional breathing exercises, and moments of conscious stillness during stressful situations may gradually strengthen resilience in everyday life.
The Wim Hof method invites people to become more aware of how they relate to discomfort, stress, and uncertainty. Rather than immediately resisting difficult experiences, the practices encourage curiosity, presence, and adaptability.
For many people, the deeper value of the method is not simply enduring cold temperatures. It is learning how to remain connected to awareness during moments that would normally trigger fear, tension, or emotional reactivity. Through breath and cold, people may begin developing a steadier relationship with both the body and the mind.
Final Thoughts
Wim Hof’s teachings invite people to reconsider their relationship with discomfort, stress, and the body itself. Through conscious breathing and cold exposure, the Wim Hof method encourages greater awareness, resilience, and presence in everyday life. What begins as a physical practice often becomes something deeper: a reminder that the body and mind are capable of far more balance, adaptability, and inner strength than many people realize.
Frequently Asked Questions About Wim Hof Method Benefits
Is the Wim Hof method meant only for athletes?
No. While athletes often use cold exposure for recovery, the Wim Hof method is practiced by people from many different backgrounds who are interested in stress management, focus, and overall well being.
How long does it take to feel Wim Hof method benefits?
Some people notice increased alertness or energy after a single session, while others experience more gradual changes over several weeks of consistent practice.
Can beginners practice the Wim Hof method at home?
Yes. Many beginners start with short cold showers and simple breathing exercises before progressing to longer or more advanced practices.
Does Wim Hof breathing require special equipment?
No. Wim Hof breathing can be practiced without equipment, though it should always be done in a safe environment and never in water or while driving.
Why do people feel energized after cold exposure?
Cold exposure activates the body’s alertness response, which may increase circulation and create a feeling of heightened energy afterward.
Can the Wim Hof method help with daily stress?
Many practitioners use the method to support emotional balance and stress management by learning how to regulate breathing and remain calmer during challenging situations.
What makes ice baths mentally challenging?
Ice baths trigger an immediate stress response in the body, including rapid breathing and tension. Learning to stay calm within that discomfort is part of the practice.
Is the Wim Hof method connected to mindfulness?
Yes. The method encourages awareness of breathing, bodily sensation, and mental reactions, which aligns with many mindfulness-based practices.
How cold should beginners start with cold exposure?
Beginners are often encouraged to begin gradually with cool or cold showers rather than extreme temperatures, allowing the body to adapt slowly.
Can cold exposure improve focus and concentration?
Some people report improved mental clarity after cold exposure because the experience requires immediate attention and presence.
Michelle Cassandra Johnson is an author, activist, spiritual teacher, racial equity consultant, and intuitive healer. She is the author of six books, including Skill in Action and Finding Refuge. Amy Burtaine is a leadership coach and racial equity trainer. With Robin DiAngelo, she is the coauthor of The Facilitator’s Guide for White Affinity Groups. For more, visit https://www.michellecjohnson.com/wisdom-of-the-hive.
