How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed

A Journal for Grief
Paperback Book
Paperback Book
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The author of the renowned grief book It’s OK That You’re Not OK presents a day-by-day resource to support and honor your personal journey through loss, filled with encouragement, self-care exercises, daily tools, tear-and-share pages to help you educate friends and allies, and prompts to help you honor your pain and heartbreak.
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An illustrated journal for meeting grief with honesty and kindness—honoring loss, rather than packing it away
With her breakout book It’s OK That You’re Not OK, Megan Devine struck a chord with thousands of readers through her honest, validating approach to grief. In her same direct, no-platitudes style, she now offers How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed—a journal filled with unique, creative ways to open a dialogue with grief itself. “Being allowed to tell the truth about your grief is an incredibly powerful act,” she says. “This journal enables you to tell your whole story, without the need to tack on a happy ending where there isn’t one.”
Grief is a natural response to death and loss—it’s not an illness to be cured or a problem to be fixed. This workbook contains no clichés, timetables, or checklists of stages to get through; it won’t help you “move past” or put your loss behind you. Instead, you’ll find encouragement, self-care exercises, and daily tools, including:

  • Writing prompts to help you honor your pain and heartbreak
  • On-the-spot practices for tough situations—like grocery store trips, the sleepless nights, and being the “awkward guest”
  • The art of healthy distraction and self-care
  • What you can do when you worry that “moving on” means “letting go of love”
  • Practical advice for fielding the dreaded “How are you doing?” question
  • What it means to find meaning in your loss
  • How to hold joy and grief at the same time
  • Tear-and-share resources to help you educate friends and allies
  • The “Griever’s Bill of Rights,” and much more

 Your grief, like your love, belongs to you. No one has the right to dictate, judge, or dismiss what is yours to live. How to Carry What Can’t Be Fixed is a journal and everyday companion to help you enter a conversation with your grief, find your own truth, and live into the life you didn’t ask for—but is here nonetheless. 

Format Details
Paperback Book eBook
Contents Paperback Book (216 pages) eBook (216 pages)
Dimensions 7 1/4 x 9 1/2 inches
Product Code BK05826 BK05826W
ISBN Number 978-1-68364-370-8 9781649630094
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Megan Devine

About Megan Devine

Megan Devine, LPC, is an author, speaker, and grief consultant, advocating for emotional change on a cultural level. Since the loss of her partner in 2009, Megan has become the leading voice in the world of grief support. Her video “How Do You Help a Grieving Friend?” has over 24 million views. Her book It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand is considered required reading by grievers and professionals alike. For more, visit

Author photo © Anna Caitlin Photography