LaRayia Gaston

LARAYIA GASTON is a former model, actress, and founder of the nonprofit Lunch On Me, an organization dedicated to feeding organic, healthy food and holistic healing to those experiencing homelessness. She's also a regular public speaker, podcast guest, and activist. She filmed a documentary 43 Days on Skid Row, which shows her time living with LA’s skid row residents and offers up a true picture of what life is really like in one of America’s largest homeless communities. She resides in Los Angeles. For more, visit lunchonme.org.

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LaRayia Gaston: Love Without Reason

LaRayia Gaston is a former model, actress, and the founder of the nonprofit Lunch On Me, an organization dedicated to offering organic, healthy food and holistic healing to those experiencing homelessness. She’s also a regular public speaker, podcast guest, and activist. She filmed a documentary, 43 Days on Skid Row, which shows her time living with LA’s Skid Row residents and offers up a true picture of what life is really like in one of America’s largest homeless communities. In this podcast, Sounds True founder Tami Simon speaks with LaRayia about her new book, Love Without Reason. They discuss the superpower called “love”; why connection and empowerment are central to ending hunger; gratitude as an action, not just an attitude; transforming our “withholding” and scarcity mindsets; seeing humanity “on every corner, in every person”; and more. 

Gratitude Is a Byproduct of Service

Among the lessons I’ve seen people embrace by performing their microgestures is the true meaning of gratitude. Gratitude has become a big idea in certain circles these days, and a lot has been written about research showing that a focus on gratitude has real benefits for people in terms of their mental and physical well-being.3 This is probably why the practice of gratitude journaling has become so popular. You can even buy gratitude journals at your local bookstore ready for you to fill in the blanks about what makes you feel lucky today.

I have to admit that I have a bit of a bone to pick with the gratitude journalers of the world. It’s not that I disagree with the research or the idea that gratitude can be a powerful force. It’s that I think the idea of gratitude, perhaps because it has become so popular, is too often misunderstood.

I don’t believe that gratitude is about sitting in your room and saying thanks so only your walls can hear you. I don’t believe it’s something that should remain in the pages of a journal. I don’t believe it’s something you can find on a bracelet or in an Instagram quote. These can be good ways to remind yourself to be thankful, but they’re not enough. That’s because gratitude isn’t meant to be passive. “God is a verb,” as Paulo Coelho once said in an interview with Oprah Winfrey about his bestselling book, The Alchemist.4 I believe that gratitude, too, needs to be treated as an action.

In fact, we used to talk about gratitude in terms of giving thanks, which makes it sound so much more active, instead of merely being thankful. Rightly so, because I believe gratitude is something you should do, not something you merely think or feel or write about. This means you can’t just read in the news about the hurricane that devastated a town or the drug problem that plagues a community and feel thankful that you’re removed from it and safe. You can’t just walk by people in need and feel sorry for their suffering and grateful that you’re not in the same position. True gratitude is more than just a feeling. It’s the expression of that feeling through action—the action of serving others. To truly be grateful, you have to act gratefully.

It’s a bit like that old philosophical question about whether, if a tree falls in the woods and no one hears it, did it really fall? By the same token, if you love someone but you never express that love, either verbally or through your actions, can you really call it love? If you’re grateful for what you have but never extend that gratitude to others, then are you truly living a grateful life?

When we mindfully show our appreciation for what we have through the action of serving others, then gratitude is the result. It’s the byproduct of that service, and there’s really no other way to get it. We live in a world that loves shortcuts. If there’s a faster, easier, simpler way to get something done, then we’re all over it. People write about “life hacks” as if they’re going to save us, but some things can’t be hacked. I believe that gratitude is one of them.

In the energy exchange, there’s a dynamic between people made up of living, breathing energy that flows back and forth. When that energy stops moving, it dies. Gratitude has an energy behind it too, but I believe that energy dies, or at least atrophies, when we keep it confined to our thoughts and prayers or the pages of our journal. Even sharing grateful thoughts on social media—which I highly encourage as an antidote to all the complaints and judgments that tend to be put on display—is not the same as allowing our gratitude to inspire us to act on behalf of others. Because it’s so often relegated to contexts like these, gratitude is really in danger of losing its meaning.

I was once in a yoga class that was winding down on a hot day when I witnessed a missed opportunity to really live gratitude. We were all sitting in Lotus Position with the lights dimmed and the door open so the breeze could flow through the studio. Soft music was playing in the background and our hands were pressed together at our hearts as we whispered our “namastes.” Just then a man, who appeared to be suffering from mental illness, walked in through the open door to say hello and ask, “What are you all doing in here?” He was friendly

enough, but the reaction was immediate. The people closest to him scattered while others turned away or shook their heads. No one answered him. I meant to, but I didn’t gather my thoughts quickly enough. The teacher rushed over to tell him to leave, pushing him out the door and closing it behind him.

It was as if everyone in the room had forgotten what they’d been doing right before the man walked in. Yoga classes often end with the students saying namaste as an expression of gratitude for the experience they just had, the teacher who guided them through it, and the fellow students they shared it with. But it’s also generally considered to have spiritual connotations, to be a conscious acknowledgment of another person’s soul, of the divine light that resides in all of us. Some literally translate namaste from Sanskrit to mean: “The light in me acknowledges the light in you.”

I guess my fellow classmates decided that not everyone was worthy of a namaste. I don’t mean to be overly harsh. I get why people were frightened, as they often are by mental illness, or turned off by the disruption when they were in the midst of a peaceful moment. But if we’d all taken a moment to simply notice this man (an act of non-resistance), I think it would have quickly become clear that he meant us no harm. He was just curious and, I think, lonely. It seemed like what he wanted most of all was someone to talk to, and here he’d found a group of people expressing gratitude in a tranquil place. We can perhaps forgive him for thinking we were the kind of people who might be receptive to his attempt to connect.

We live in an amazing time. Being part of the Information Age gives us exposure to all kinds of wisdom and ancient teachings along with all the new. Yoga has been practiced for hundreds of years. Verses on gratitude can be found in the Bible. There is truth and power in these old ways, but let’s make sure we’re getting the most out of them. These ancient concepts should be more than just things you think to yourself or utter on autopilot. If we really want the benefits, we need to learn how to live them.

If you are grateful for something in your life, you have to find a way to put some of that grateful energy back into the world instead of holding onto it. That’s the only way to keep it flowing. That’s the only way gratitude can come back to you. If you have your antenna up while you perform your microgestures, you’ll start to notice the flow and you’ll start to better appreciate when some of it flows back your way.

❤ HEARTWORK ❤

Ask yourself: How can I do more than just think grateful thoughts? How can I act gratefully in the world today?

If you keep a gratitude journal, consider recording not just what you’re thankful for, but the full energy exchange: what you’re grateful for and what you gave gratefully in return.

Notes:

  1. Colby Itkowitz, “The Science Behind Why You Shouldn’t Stop Giving Thanks After Thanksgiving,” The Washington Post (November 24, 2016).
  2. Paulo Coelho, “What if the Universe Conspired in Your Favor?” Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations (August 9, 2017). 

This is an excerpt from Love Without Reason: The Lost Art of Giving a F*ck by LaRayia Gaston.

 

larayia gaston author photoLARAYIA GASTON is a former model, actress, and founder of the nonprofit Lunch On Me, an organization dedicated to bringing organic, healthy food and holistic healing to those experiencing homelessness. She’s also a regular public speaker, podcast guest, and activist. She resides in Los Angeles. For more, visit lunchonme.org.

 

 

 

 

 

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Whyte traces originality back to what he calls an edge identity, a frontier conversation that shows up across many of the world’s wisdom traditions. Reality itself, in his framing, is conversational rather than fixed, which means the self is never a finished project so much as an ongoing exchange with everything it meets. 

Sounds True’s founder has described sitting with fourteen pages of notes on his teaching and underlining nearly every line, a reaction that says something about how differently Whyte approaches familiar questions of purpose and change, treating originality as a place a person stands rather than a trait they possess. 

You can hear the full exchange in David Whyte on Being at the Frontier of Your Identity, still one of the most requested episodes in the archive.

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Rather than treating exile, the felt sense of not quite belonging, as a wound to heal, Whyte reframes it as a competency worth developing on purpose. Most people spend enormous energy trying to eliminate the feeling of being an outsider, whereas Whyte suggests the more useful move is to learn to work with it deliberately. A few ideas anchor this reframing:

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This distinction matters because it removes the shame often attached to feeling like an outsider. Instead of a problem to solve, exile becomes a vantage point worth returning to on purpose.

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The frontier of identity, Whyte’s central image, is not a line crossed once and left behind. It is a threshold a person returns to repeatedly, every time old certainties no longer fit a new season of life. Whyte suggests that vulnerability, often treated as weakness, actually functions here as enhanced perception, a heightened sensitivity that lets a person notice what a settled identity tends to miss.

He describes reality itself as conversational, meaning the self is shaped less by fixed traits and more by an ongoing exchange with circumstances, relationships, and unexpected turns. Standing at this frontier repeatedly, rather than resolving it once, is what Whyte considers the actual work of a lived, honest life.

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Whyte has predicted that the very word manager will eventually give way to something more alive with possibility, a shift he sees poetry as uniquely equipped to prepare leaders for. Rather than offering leadership frameworks or checklists, his workshops use verse to slow a room down enough to notice what usual business language tends to skip over entirely.

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If Whyte’s words found you today, his fuller catalog of poetry and prose is waiting to keep the conversation going, one frontier at a time.

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James Hollis: Underneath the Midlife Crisis

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James Hollis on the Meaning of a Midlife Crisis

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Looking underneath the midlife crisis means paying attention to the questions beneath our discomfort. Rather than viewing uncertainty only as a problem to overcome, Hollis’s perspective encourages us to consider what it may be asking of us.

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James Hollis invites us to see midlife as a time for deeper reflection. By listening closely to the questions beneath uncertainty, the second half of life can become an opportunity to reconsider what matters, reconnect with our inner lives, and move toward a more meaningful way of being.

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Does James Hollis believe personal growth ends at a certain age?

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Hollis tells Tami Simon that happiness is only ever transiently possible, while meaning, once found, tends to abide. This is not a small semantic distinction; it reorganizes how a person might evaluate an entire life, past and future.

Listen to this conversation in James Hollis: The Goal of Life Is Meaning, Not Happiness, part of the Insights at the Edge series.

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Jungian Psychology’s Case Against Chasing Happiness

Drawing on Jungian psychology, Hollis explains why treating happiness as life’s organizing goal sets people up for repeated disappointment. Moods shift, circumstances change, and pleasure fades on its own schedule regardless of effort. Meaning operates differently in his framework, built less on favorable conditions and more on alignment between a person’s actions and their deeper psychological truth. This idea traces back through decades of depth psychology, which has long treated symptom and suffering as data rather than simply obstacles to remove. Hollis extends that lineage into plain, accessible language for readers outside clinical settings.

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Much of this conversation addresses a question many listeners were quietly asking during a period of global instability: how does a person stay steady without pretending to have answers they don’t have? Hollis’s version of resilience does not rely on optimism. It relies on tolerance for ambiguity and a willingness to keep showing up for the questions life keeps asking, even when no clear resolution is in sight and the ground itself keeps shifting underfoot.

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Unlike a goal that can be checked off, meaning in Hollis’s framework demands continual renewal. It is less a destination reached once than a practice sustained through the accumulation of honest choices over time, which is part of why his work resists any tidy self-help formula or five-step solution. A person can find meaning in one season of life and still need to relocate it in the next, since circumstances, relationships, and inner priorities continue to shift.

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Hollis suggests that this pursuit shifts noticeably across a lifetime. What felt meaningful in early adulthood, often tied to achievement or external validation, tends to lose its hold as people age, replaced by quieter, more internally sourced sources of significance. This isn’t decline, in Hollis’s reading, but maturation, a gradual trading of performance for depth. He describes the second half of life as an invitation to finally ask what was being pursued all along and whether it still fits.

A Fifteen-Book Case for Meaning

By the time of this conversation, Hollis had already authored fifteen books exploring meaning, purpose, and depth psychology, including Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life and What Matters Most. Hollis describes the search for meaning as the defining topic of his life’s work, one he approaches not as an academic exercise but as something he watches play out daily in his clinical practice with real people navigating real crises, decade after decade, with remarkably consistent patterns.

The Weight of a Global Moment

This particular episode was recorded during a period of widespread uncertainty, and Hollis addresses that context directly rather than avoiding it. He suggests that collective instability tends to surface exactly the kind of questions his work has always centered: what actually matters when the usual supports fall away, and what remains standing once distraction is stripped back. Crisis, in his view, has a way of accelerating psychological work that might otherwise take decades to surface on its own.

What Meaning Asks Us to Give Up

Choosing meaning over happiness, Hollis suggests, often means giving up the comfort of a simpler narrative. It is easier to chase pleasure and call it a life well lived than to sit with the harder, slower project of aligning daily choices with something deeper than mood. Hollis doesn’t romanticize this trade-off; he describes it plainly as more demanding, and ultimately more honest, than the alternative most of us default toward without noticing, especially in a culture that constantly rewards comfort over depth.

The Sounds True Foundation and Wider Access

This particular episode also introduces listeners to the Sounds True Foundation, a nonprofit dedicated to making tools like mindfulness and self-compassion available regardless of financial or social circumstance. It’s a fitting companion to Hollis’s message, since meaning, unlike many luxuries, is something every listener deserves genuine access to explore, regardless of where they happen to start from.

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Final Thoughts

James Hollis offers no promise that meaning arrives easily or stays without tending, only that it holds weight happiness alone cannot carry. 

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Choosing meaning is rarely a single decision; it is a posture practiced again each time comfort tempts us toward the smaller path. Hollis’s broader catalog remains available for anyone ready to keep asking these questions.

Frequently Asked Questions About James Hollis

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What is Living Between Worlds about?

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Was Hollis a university professor?

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Does Sounds True offer audio versions of Hollis’s teaching?

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What is the Sounds True Foundation?

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Is meaning the same as religious belief, according to Hollis?

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Where did James Hollis train as an analyst?

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Can this teaching help during periods of grief?

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