Just One Question | Geneen Roth: How Do I Work With My...
There’s the pain of a hard thing happening, and then there’s the voice that shows up afterward to tell you it was your fault. Geneen Roth says those two are not the same — and confusing them is what keeps people stuck for years.
Geneen is the bestselling author of Feeding the Hungry Heart and Women Food and God, and a longtime teacher on how our relationships with food, money, and self-worth run on the same wiring. When she spoke with Tami in 2009, she had just lost thirty years of savings to Bernie Madoff, and the inner critic that followed was loud.
What makes her answer land is how practical it gets. She doesn’t tell you to be nicer to yourself. She describes a sequence — notice, name, and if that isn’t enough, say the cruelty out loud until you can hear what it actually sounds like. This one crossed our desk from the very first Insights at the Edge ever recorded, and we knew we had to bring it back.
In this episode:
- The difference between devastation, which is honest, and the raging voice, which Geneen says has no value at all
- Why you can’t investigate what went wrong while the critic is running — shame collapses the space where truth could show up
- The practice of writing or speaking the voice in “you” terms, so there’s finally a you and an I instead of just one merged verdict
- Why Geneen never found the “fight back hard” approach useful, and what she does instead
Taken from the full Insights at the Edge conversation with Geneen Roth. Listen to the full episode, “No Situation is Unworkable”
